I DON'T WANNA GO SCHOOL

[lemon]

Becca wrote:

If you were homeschooled you would have to do clubs and stuff you wouldn't just stay at home all the time. You'd go to other clubs and meet friends there

Right, we are going to goat club to night!

 

[Luv-bunniz]

Yeah being homeschooled is good but I dont like not seeing friends everyday, usually like every 4-5 days or at clubs.

 

[pinksalamander]

I couldn't stand being homeschooled. I can't imagine those who have been homeschooled for their entire lives have the greatest people skills, especially around strangers. I think you need to be brought up in an environment where you can have your own independence. That is just my opinion though.

Fran :hearts :brownbunny

 

[swanlake]

this is so ironic, as i just went to my doctor today!

it could be school phobia as some people are saying.

I have severe school phobia. i did not go to class at all the first trimester. this one i am doing school online because i just can't take it. this is my second year dealing with this, and i am a senior.

I am over the panicy feeling, but still don't feel right in school. my doc explained that phobias present themselves in different ways, its not always the panicy feeling. there are many different ways phobias show themselves, and its not always the way you think it would come.

when you see your doc, i would def. bring it up. don't be so embarassed when talking to them, as they have heard it all, and won't point and laugh at you. i have had some pretty deep conversations with my doc, and i and fine with it now.

 

[Flashy]

Becca, I just want to say that even though other people have school phobia, it doesn't mean you do, and you shouldn't think you do, or else you may think yourself into it (this is one of the reasons why self diagnosis is not a good idea). Trust your mum and trust in her choices and decisionsbecause she does what she thinks is best for you

 

[swanlake]

i agree with flashy.

i don't want to talk you into thinking you have school phobia, i just wanted to comment.

your doc would be the best person to tell you wat might be goin on.

 

[NZminilops]

Agreed, the best person to decide is a doctor . It's so easy to self-diagnose these days! If I let my imagination run away with me and google, I must have almost every disorder under the sun .

Edited for atrocious typos!

 

[PepnFluff]

NZminilops wrote:

Agreed, the best person to decide is a doctor . It's so easy to self-diagnose these days! If I let my imagination run away with me and google, I must have almost every disorder under the sun .

Edited for atrocious typos!

LOL your like me I've self diagnosed cancer, bone growths and being pregnant :shock: needless to say none of those were true I have correctly self diagnosed a medial meniscus tear though :biggrin2: Think I should be a google DR .

 

[Becca]

I do that, School tomorrow :?

 

[Flashy]

Have a good day

 

[Becca]

Thanks, I'll try!

My best mate is coming round after school, she says she has so much to tell me, I'm quite excited

 

[Flashy]

Ooh! Ooh! Ooh! Gossip!

It will be worthwhile doing the day just for that And the first day is normally the hardest, so you're onto a winner being excited for after school

 

[Becca]

I was going to school, then my friend texted and said she was ill and couldn't come round. Then I started crying because I didn't want to go to school then mum said she'd take me. So we got to school but then I wouldn't get out of the car and started crying again.

So mum had to bring me home and now she's really mad

 

[Flashy]

Why were you crying?

 

[Becca]

Because I didn't want to go to school, mum keeps swearing at me and she never does that.

I've made her really mad

 

[Flashy]

Often changes can be scary and hard for us to deal with. I personally need time to prepare for anything and changes and surprised throw me off completely, maybe this just threw you off because you were prepared for something else, and that plan changed.

Maybe you could call the school, explain what's going on and maybe talk to your HoY and see if you can get some work or something e-mailed to you. That would be better than not doing any work and sitting at home and thinking about it all day.

The first day back is the hardest, it always is, so once you force yourself to get through that day it will hopefully get better.

(I also just found your texts, sorry for not replying, I was asleep).

 

[Becca]

My HoY isn't the most understanding man, Mum might ring him but I'mm scared to talk to her at the moment so.

My nan phoned up a min ago and mum started crying again. WHy am I so stupid.:X

 

[Flashy]

You're not stupid, you have just allowed yourself to get into a cycle and now you're trapped and it will take strength to get out, and you can do it, but it won't be easy.

Do you think you could go to school now? Like if your mum took you now? Or maybe ask your mum to make you a doctors appointment?

I do also think that whilst talking about things that are going on for you is important, I also think sometimes it can mean it is easier to wallow in those issues and not do anything to try and change what is going on for you especially when you are talking about it on a medium such as the internet, and not with someone who can productively help you move forward from whatever is going on. That's the same for everyone, not just you, but it might be that maybe the attention and sympathy you received from people has allowed this to grow in your head and become more than it might have been had you not spoken about it on the web. I'm not saying you were wrong to talk about it at all, not for a moment, but I have seen similar things happen with other people, and it might be the case here too.

 

[Bo B Bunny]

My son was diagnosed with high functioning ADHD in 3rd grade. He's not on any medications or anything now and does VERY well in school. His issues relate to him wanting tobe perfect. He gets frustrated if he can't be perfect andused to "shut down" and say "I can't" - he wasn't hyper - the "H"is for impulsivity in his case.

During his first few years of school, he would get anxiousbefore a test and have to go to the bathroom after. His teachers figured it out and just knew to allow it. We learned that going to the bathroom is common with test anxiety and things like that. He would relax when it was done and need to pee. He also gets nervous and has IBS (irritable bowel syndrome).

Another consideration is not so much allergies, but what are you eating? If I eat a lot of brocolli - I gotta pee! Do you drink lots of water? if it's your bowels, maybe they need to look at some other medical issues like Celiac disease, or an intolerance to Lactose.

I have to say that if my children are home from school, they aren't allowed to be on the computer, phone, or attend any lessons/club meetings/events for that day. School is way too important and I encourage them to go unless they are truly ill.

 

[TinysMom]

Bo B Bunny wrote:

I have to say that if my children are home from school, they aren't allowed to be on the computer, phone, or attend any lessons/club meetings/events for that day. School is way too important and I encourage them to go unless they are truly ill.

:yeahthat:

Our rule was if you're too sick for school (and we homeschooled) - then you're too sick for computer, tv, etc. You could read quietly in bed...but that was it.

Becca - do you have to pee every 5 minutes while you're on RO? I suspect not....unless you're taking the computer to the restroom with you.

I know - I'm going to seem hard or harsh or whatever. But the fact is - the mind can convince us that we can't function and keep us from doing what we need to do. I know - I lived in "that place" fora long time...convinced that I was unable to work, etc. I still have mornings when I get up and don't want to face work...feeling like I just don't feel that great, etc.

But for me - work is a fact of life...just like school is a fact of life for you.

Your body is going through changes 'cause you're in the teen years - mine is going through changes cause I'm in the "middle age" years....and for both of us - the changes can be traumatic.

But I've learned that if I set my mind to it - I can do almost anything. (I do know my limitations - that I can't lift was much as I used to).

A lesson I think we all need to learn is that there are times when we need to MAKE ourselves do what we don't want to do. Its a hard lesson - one I am still learning at times.

But you can do it....you can go to school and make it through.