Today is not a good day for me.

[Becca]

:expressionless I'm not in the best of moods:rollseyes

Firstly I wake up all confused to what day it is because I had a strange dream last night and I wasn't sure if I was coming or going, but thats a whole different story.
Then when I got out of bed I got up to fast and went all dizzy and I really hate that so I sat back down for a minute.
I check my phone and had a text from my friend Emma who is a michael jackson fan I have got really close with and is now a good friend of mine. The text said that a mj fan that we both used to talk to has passed away. She was a little older than me and her. Emma had an email from her mum telling us :nerves1 Such a shock.
But she is now with Michael. :tears2:
Then I was on youtube and another bad thing happened. I started to get a migrane. My migranes start by my eyes going wierd. Tunnel vision type thing, I can't see properly. So I went and lay down on my bed, I really didn't want to get up so because my laptop was on my floor I messaged my sister on msn asking her to ask mum if she could come give me some medicine and a cup of tea. So I did that and went back to lay on my bed. I waited for like 10 mins until I went and messaged my sister again (at this point I could barely see what I was typing). Finally my mum came up and gave me some medicine and a cuppa. So I've been laying down for the last 2 or 3 hours feeling very sick and with a painful headache that has only just gone.
Theres one thing all day thats been in my head that i've tried not to let it take over. And its saying '2 months' '2 months'.
2 months since Michael died.
I've been trying so hard all day not to think about but now its just hit me and everythings got on top of me and I can't stop crying.

:cry2

Rant over. :rollseyes

 

[pla725]

Have you spoken to your family about how you've been feeling? If not them, have you thought about speaking to a counselor to deal with your grief?

 

[Becca]

pla725 wrote:

Have you spoken to your family about how you've been feeling? If not them, have you thought about speaking to a counselor to deal with your grief?

:expressionless

I don't know :/

 

[irishlops]

you should. i have to go to one if i have dyscalculia and i think it will help my family problems. you should try with dealing with grief

 

[pla725]

You've had a lot of loss in your life recently and it would be good to talk to someone. Even if that someone is a trusted adult. Speaking with friends helped me deal with Smitten's death. I really didn't get much sympathy from family.

 

[Becca]

pla725 wrote:

You've had a lot of loss in your life recently and it would be good to talk to someone. Even if that someone is a trusted adult. Speaking with friends helped me deal with Smitten's death. I really didn't get much sympathy from family.

True.. *sighs*
I know someone I can trust with anything, and i know i have a lot of friends on here, I just. Maybe when I go back to school I'll have other things on my mind. When I've got too much time to think I start thinking bad things that make me upset :cry2

 

[irishbunny]

I'm the same, when someone dies I just try to keep busy, like when my Nana died a few months ago I just kept busy all the time so I wouldn't have to think about it cause when I had time to think I just got upset.

 

[kirsterz09]

aaaawwww hun :hug: definatley try and talk to someone just, so you can ease the strain on yourself.
Regarding migranes, I have terrible ones too so, bad I nearly lost my previous job because o them! My doctor prescribed me tablets called Sumatriptan (think thats how it's spelt) they really help, maybe you could ask your doctor about them?

 

[Becca]

kirsterz09 wrote:

Regarding migranes, I have terrible ones too so, bad I nearly lost my previous job because o them! My doctor prescribed me tablets called Sumatriptan (think thats how it's spelt) they really help, maybe you could ask your doctor about them?

I will I've asked mum because their so annoying :cry1:
I hate them. Why am I always the one that gets everything :twitch:

 

[Flashy]

I know it can feel like it, but you're not the one who gets everything. Everyone has problems and everyone has stuff to deal with. That's not to minimise how wretched you feel, but its not you who gets everything, we all have stuff to deal with, or have to deal with things we would rather not deal with.

I really sympathise with you about the migraines. I too struggle with them. I find taking some painkillers as soon as my eyes 'go' helps ease it quicker than if I leave it. Also, a darkened room with something covering your eyes may help, and laying down and not doing anything that day that might strain your eyes.

If you feel you need someone to talk to maybe try contacting connexions direct http://www.connexions-direct.com/ They can be really good and supportive.

It is ok to be upset though. It's not pleasant, but it is tolerable, and its better to be upset than try and delay it by just being busy.

*big cuddles*

 

[kirsterz09]

Becca wrote:

kirsterz09 wrote:

Regarding migranes, I have terrible ones too so, bad I nearly lost my previous job because o them! My doctor prescribed me tablets called Sumatriptan (think thats how it's spelt) they really help, maybe you could ask your doctor about them?

I will I've asked mum because their so annoying :cry1:
I hate them. Why am I always the one that gets everything :twitch:

I'd recommend it they work pretty quickly, usually 30mins for me.
Trust me your not the only one hun! My mum has everything under the sun and I'm finding out I'm probally going to suffer from a lot of what she has too! so we can be ill together lol!

 

[Becca]

Flashy wrote:

I know it can feel like it, but you're not the one who gets everything. Everyone has problems and everyone has stuff to deal with. That's not to minimise how wretched you feel, but its not you who gets everything, we all have stuff to deal with, or have to deal with things we would rather not deal with.

I really sympathise with you about the migraines. I too struggle with them. I find taking some painkillers as soon as my eyes 'go' helps ease it quicker than if I leave it. Also, a darkened room with something covering your eyes may help, and laying down and not doing anything that day that might strain your eyes.

If you feel you need someone to talk to maybe try contacting connexions direct http://www.connexions-direct.com/ They can be really good and supportive.

It is ok to be upset though. It's not pleasant, but it is tolerable, and its better to be upset than try and delay it by just being busy.

*big cuddles*

Yeh your right. But everyone always goes omg becca your ill again? and im like :twitch:
As soon as my eyes went today I did that but it didn't really help :/ Well I guess it wasn't that bad because I didn't throw up which is a very good thing.

*hugs back*

Thanks everyone x

 

[kirsterz09]

ps. I think we should start a migranes thread, as lots of people on here have them, where we can just vent about the stupid things as much as we want and provide support to those who are having a tough time with them!

 

[Flashy]

Trust me, if I said about everything that goes on for me I would probably get the same comments, as would most people. Life is just one trial after another, but each trial we get through makes us stronger.

That is good you weren't sick. I also judge my migraines by whether or not I'm sick, if I can speak and also if I get numbness in my body.

I've also found that if you stress about them it will make them worse, so when it happens, as hard as it may be, try to relax, occupy your mind, and not worry about what the side effects will be and how they will happen and just deal with the symptoms you are feeling.

If you find they start to happen regularly try charting them against diet and hormones because it might be you could locate your trigger and start on working to eradicate them. Unfortuntely mine are caused by severe anaemia but I know charting works for others because it can identify patterns.

 

[kirsterz09]

Flashy wrote:

Trust me, if I said about everything that goes on for me I would probably get the same comments, as would most people. Life is just one trial after another, but each trial we get through makes us stronger.

That is good you weren't sick. I also judge my migraines by whether or not I'm sick, if I can speak and also if I get numbness in my body.

I've also found that if you stress about them it will make them worse, so when it happens, as hard as it may be, try to relax, occupy your mind, and not worry about what the side effects will be and how they will happen and just deal with the symptoms you are feeling.

If you find they start to happen regularly try charting them against diet and hormones because it might be you could locate your trigger and start on working to eradicate them. Unfortuntely mine are caused by severe anaemia but I know charting works for others because it can identify patterns.

:yeahthat: Mine were caused by taking the pill which, goes to show that they can be triggered by anything! I still get them occasionally though, I don't think the humid weather has helped recently.

 

[Becca]

Well I have no idea what mine are triggered by

 

[Flashy]

Which is why charting and logging is useful So you can find out.

 

[kirsterz09]

yup it does help! It actually helped me track down the cause of mine even though it took my new doctor to notice it lol!

 

[JadeIcing]

Becca wrote:

Yeh your right. But everyone always goes omg becca your ill again? and im like :twitch:

I get that a LOT! Your sick again?? :twitch:

 

[pla725]

I understand. I had several employers make a major deal about my use of sick time. One even wrote me up a few times. I even had doctor's notes. What was the purpose of the doctor's note other than that I wasn't contagious anymore. It just made me mad. Thank goodness I don't have URI issues anymore.

As others have said really try to find the source of your migraines. It could be food, hormones or something else environmental. Or just stress. Track it.