Ugh it has been such a stressful week.
Right now I live with one other girl. We've known each other a little while and I like living here. We don't hang out too much but I like it that way, I've never been too close with any of my previous roommates so it is normal to me. She would probably like it if we did more things together and I think she misses how close she was with her old roommates because they were all good friends but they moved away.
My boyfriend lives across the hall with two other guys. It just happened that we got the place across the hall when we filled out our application to live in this apartment complex. We were pretty happy about it because I lived an hour and ten minutes away before I moved down here. We've been together for almost 2 years. Living across the hall has been like living in one big house with a breezeway in between because we see each other so much. We're very compatible and if we ever have a disagreement we sort it out in a calm way by talking through it.
Well, in March all of us need to decide where we're living next year... if we are renewing our leases or not. Seven people are involved in all this shuffling around because my roommate (D)'s friend (J) is finally moving out of campus housing and she is really excited to be living in a real apartment. She almost moved in with D and I in August but the two of them decided they would fight too much because of how close they are. D and I planned to live here two years but now that the decision has to be made soon.... her and J have been talking about living together...whether I come with them or not.
The thing is.... I've only lived here since August and I do not know anyone else that I could live with.... I DO NOT WANT TO MOVE! AT ALL!! I have moved every year since starting college, which is three moves. It is annoying! I have more furniture/pet stuff/fish tanks than ever before and I had plans to stay here at least two years.
We all had a big talk but J is being very hard headed and will not take my situation into account. All she wants is to live with D. J's boyfriend is going to need a roommate next year at the same time as me so our first solution was for him to take D's room. No one had any problems with it except for his mother. Now I really don't know what to do.... Tyler (my boyfriend) and I have been talking about the two of us living with J's boyfriend (R) in a three bedroom place and my parent's have finally been convinced, but this leaves Tyler's two roommates out to dry (2 bedroom rent is too expensive for one of them) and I would still have to move. That is not the best solution for anyone except for R.
It looks like our only other options are having Tyler move into D's old room and live in this two bedroom with me and J's boyfriend can take his old room. D and J can move out and get a two bedroom apartment together. It is SO complicated!!!! I told J that she should just move in with her boyfriend then none of us have to be involved at all. I hate having to cater to someone else.
I know how complicated living with my boyfriend could potentially get. Living across the hall has been sort of a trial run since we're always at one another's place but we still can leave and have some down time if we want. I know that is still possible since we would have separate rooms if he lived here with me. We have talked about every possible thing together and we both feel like living together would work. I am trying not to be starry-eyed about the whole thing and think about it realistically. The only problem is that his cat wants to eat all of my pets! Haha.
This whole thing is just awful. I hope I am able to keep living here. I really hate even thinking about moving my tanks and all of my stuff for the third time in three years.... *pulls hair out*