Please Hope For A Miracle...

[irishbunny]

My nana has only a few weeks to live, she had a stroke a couple of weeks ago that was caused by a brain bleed, it looked like she was getting better but since Tuesday she had been having bleeds and losing blood, she's having them a couple times a day now and they have only given her a couple of weeks to live, but she could pass any minute, I'm devasted I don't know how I'm going to live with it, I'm going to see her tomorrow, it will probably be the last time so I have to say goodbye....
Please hope for a miracle I can't deal with this.

 

[irishlops]

omg! grace, im sorry.
i will light a candle each day for her.
and pray for a miricle. but god might want her, as she must be a very nice gran, so if gods wants her, in the painfree heaven let him.
but i dont want god to take her as much as you do.
ray:

 

[Flashy]

I'm so sorry. It so hard to lose someone you love. Make sure you keep talking. Don't keep anything inside, because it will make things harder for you.

Please know I'm thinking of you despite having no useful words to say.

x

 

[irishlops]

flashy/tracey.
i have felt like i did not talk and did not sya things aswell.

 

[irishbunny]

Thanks all, I kind off don't want to don't see her because she's all sick, she's still awake and can talk but I'm kind of scared to see her but I'll regret not going to see her if she passes, I hate this.

 

[Sabine]

Sorry to hear about your gran. Nothing really prepares us for loosing someone close to us. Wish i had better words of comfort.... xx

 

[Saffy]

Please .. dont be scared to see her ..

 

[Lover_Of_Lopz]

I lost my grate gran 3 years ago I did not know her that well and it still hurt me I feel so sorry for you and I will pray
God be with you and her.:hug:So...:hug2:sorry...:cry4::bigtears:

 

[Numbat]

I'm so sorry! *hugs*

Go and see her, she'll appreciate it. It's so hard to lose someone you love but she'll always be with you in your memories. Thinking of you. :hug2:

 

[Bunnys_rule63]

I'm so sorry to hear about your Gran.If it's any consolation I'm in a similar boat. My Grandpa is fading fast and I really want to go see him before it's too late...but...it's tough.

Sending many hugs to you my dear.:hug:

 

[kherrmann3]

I am sorry to hear that she is not doing well. I know how hard it is (I lost my grandma a few years back). :hug:

Honestly, go see her. Even if you are terrified to, do it anyway. You may be super-depressed about it now, but you will cherish those memories later on. Try to go see her as much as you can. You will feel better about it later on.

I work in a nursing home, and the people on hospice (end-of-life) care are so lonely. They just want someone to talk to. It makes me so mad when someone's loved one is going and they won't come to visit them. It is comforting to know that someone is there for them, you know? I think it makes some people's passing easier and more peaceful for them. That's just my two cents.

 

[irishbunny]

Thanks I went to see her yesterday, she has gotten alot thinner, she used to be the cheery plump old lady type. I didn't really know what to talk about with her so I just kind of went along with what my dad was saying to her, plus her speech is mumbly and I couldn't hear her from where I was standing. It was really sad to see her like that.

 

[Saffy]

I'm really really glad you went to see her you know. You wont regret it, I promise you.

It's horrible seeing someone who has been so much a part of your life, start to show frailty .. frightening for you, because you know that your nan isn't invincible .. (we always seem to think Nannie and Gramp's are when we are young).

I'm sure she will have been so glad to have had you visit - and I've said before, I can promise you will have been glad too.

(hugs from me)

 

[paul2641]

Irishbunny I'm sorry to hear this, This happened to my grandmother but she didn't tell any of the family she only had a few weeks to live so we just lost her.I am ray: She lives a good last few weeks.

 

[Elf Mommy]

irishbunny wrote:

Thanks I went to see her yesterday, she has gotten alot thinner, she used to be the cheery plump old lady type. I didn't really know what to talk about with her so I just kind of went along with what my dad was saying to her, plus her speech is mumbly and I couldn't hear her from where I was standing. It was really sad to see her like that.

Do you have a book of photographs that you could sit next to her and look at together?

Do you know what her favorite type of book was to read, that you can sit and read to her?

Does she like to have her hair brushed/combed?

I'm just making suggestions. I'm really really bad about older people. My sister is awesome. My daughter is great, too. She would crawl right up in bed with my grandmother when she was in the nursing home. I had a difficult time just being in the room.

I hope you're able to spend some time with her.

 

[kherrmann3]

Another thing that I thought of. When my grandmother was dying, I asked her to help me fill-in blanks on the family tree. She was able to give me two generations before her mother/father. It was very interesting and she seemed to enjoy thinking about her loved ones. It kind of seemed therapeutic.

Even when people are sick or slowly fading, they are still people. Even if they cannot talk, they can most likely understand you and comprehend what you say. Even people in a coma have been known to be aware of their surroundings. It does them a world of good to just have company, even if you have nothing interesting to say. Bring up pets, school, anything. Talk to them like you would a friend. You'll find that you don't run out of things to say.

:hug:

 

[irishbunny]

Thanks all, I don't know when I will be able to go see her again but hopefully soon, I'm not too sure if she would be able to do much with me like look at stuff and things because she's always really tired and most of the time she has her eyes closed and falls asleep alot. I think mostly people just sit and talk to her, we have to be careful what we say around her because she doesn't know she's so sick and still talks about going home which is sad.

 

[JadeIcing]

*hugs* Not easy. My family knows I will see you at home but not in the hospital. If you are awake I will go once and that is all. They also know I won't go to a burial or funeral. I don't deal well with hospitals.

I have worked with the elderly and love it but it is not an easy job. It was like having a ton of grandparents and losing them again and again.

 

[irishbunny]

Thought I would update on my nana, well she had a doctor come around to check on her today and they are going to get her physio (sp), even thought they don't know if it will do much good, since her whole left side is paralysed. But that must be good right? I mean they wouldn't send someone for physio if they didn't think they had a chance of life?
They also said they don't know now how long she has, if she continues to have no more bleeds then she shouldn't die but she has had two strokes now and a couple of bleeds so they could just start up again at anytime.
I guess now it's just a waiting game.

 

[irishlops]

my granny was in a coma, so i guess i dont know about the phisyo (sp?) but i think its good.
if i was off 2morrow i would get the bus up to your house.
to give you a hug.