I have a bun, that as a baby was friendly and sweet as can be. Once she matured she pretty much just wants me to leave her alone, aside from the occasional head rub. She is pretty stand offish now, but she's fun to watch doing her bunny 500's, as long as I don't dare try and pet her. Then I have other buns who's personalities pretty much stayed the same.
If you can find a pet or rescue and ask owners that you feel are honest, whether or not a rabbit is a chewer/digger, there's that. Otherwise it's really just a matter of luck finding a rabbit that's naturally house trained, or you have to rabbit proof.
I find that bucks are less inclined to chew/dig than does, but that's not a guarantee. I'm sure there are plenty of bucks out there that take joy in it. Larger breeds might be less inclined to dig/chew as in general they seem to be calmer, but again no guarantee. Larger breeds are also less prone to getting stepped on and injured by us owners, or injured by children, but they also may not have as long a life. Calmer lazier bunnies are likely to have less destructive tendencies than busy active ones. My little spayed dwarf doe is a busy little thing, and is always running, chasing, digging, ripping. My holland lop neutered buck is pretty calm, easy going, and not destructive, but has messy litter box habits as he was older, unneutered, and not litter trained when I got him. If a particular rabbit isn't working out, some places might allow you to exchange the rabbit but not usually. You can do your best to find the right rabbit for you, but sometimes you just fall in love and have to work around that particular rabbits personality traits and issues.
Best way to confirm health when you don't have the experience to do it yourself, is a vet check with a knowledgeable rabbit vet(research, as not all rabbit vets are created equal).
https://rabbit.org/vet-listings/
https://rabbit.org/faq-how-to-find-a-good-rabbit-vet/
If you can find a breeder that spends a lot of time interacting with their rabbits and getting them out to run around, that's ideal, especially if the rabbits also have interaction with kids. But breeding rabbits are usually mostly in cages, so there will be limited info that you can get where it concerns how the rabbit will be as a free roam house pet. You can ask about any known health issues. Ask about personality. If you pick a rabbit, ask about taking it to a vet for a health check and what the breeder will do if any health issues are found. Best to get any exchange and refund info in writing.
If you want to look over the rabbit yourself, maybe look up a youtube video on doing a health check on a rabbit. You want to feel the rabbit for a roundness along the back and no sharp protruding back or hip bones that would indicate weight loss and a possible health issue. Check the bum for mushy poop or urine staining indicating digestive or urinary issues; check around the nose and eyes for crusty fur indicating runny nose or eyes; look at the front teeth to make sure they are aligned properly(shouldn't be overgrown and the lower incisors should sit just behind the upper incisors); check the fur for missing fur, dandruff, flea dirt, or crusty skin; check the nails that they aren't overgrown; check the genitals for lesions, infection, sores; check the heels of the back feet for redness, inflammation, or sores(pink and/or calloused skin is normal); check the eyes for any cloudy spots; check the inside of the ears for any sores or crusts, or thinning fur around the ear base; look for normal hopping(no balance issues); look for any odd bumps, sores, etc; ask about any reoccurring digestive issues like wool block/gi stasis, bloat, mushy poop, lack of appetite; ask about any issues with increased thirst/urination
Here are some links to help you know what to look for. The downfall to reading all this, it can make you very aware of all that can go wrong with rabbits. There are some medical related photos, so don't proceed past the first link if that is uncomfortable for you.
http://www.rabbitresidence.org.uk/how-to-health-check-a-rabbit.html
Links contain medical related photos:
http://www.medirabbit.com/EN/Eye_diseases/Clinical/Eye_diseases.htm
http://www.medirabbit.com/EN/Skin_diseases/Diff/Alopcia.htm
http://medirabbit.com/EN/Skin_diseases/Parasitic/earmite/Psoroptes.htm
http://www.medirabbit.com/EN/Dental_diseases/Treatment/Clipping.htm
http://www.medirabbit.com/EN/Dental_diseases/Differential/D_problems1.htm
http://www.medirabbit.com/EN/Respiratory/Bacterial/URI.htm
http://www.medirabbit.com/EN/Skin_diseases/Mechanical/Pod/Podo.htm
http://www.medirabbit.com/EN/Uro_gen_diseases/Differentials/Incontinence.htm
http://www.medirabbit.com/EN/GI_diseases/drop/Drp_en.htm
http://www.medirabbit.com/EN/GI_diseases/Generalities/Enteritis_en.htm