Gabby
Well-Known Member
So I have always hated my middle name, and no I will not share it with you, but I will tell you why.
I do not hate the name on other people, and it is not a bad name for others, the reason I do not like it, I will have to give you the shortest my life in a short as possible version..
my mother married a man who had been married prior, and he already had 1 child, who he named after himself (yes you heard me right) my older sister is 11 years older than me. I knew of her but no more than that.
When they went to name me, he wanted to name me the exact same name, my mother said no you have one already, kept the middle name and gave me a different first name. They divorced when I was 7 months old, my mother was living at her parrents house when they divorced and he would go there for visatation for a short time, then he moved out of state. my mother and I lived there till I was 19,
He never tried to contact us or me, never paid child support or anything. When I was 13 he sent me a letter and some gifts, told me he had been searching for me and could not find me.
I'm sorry but BS because I was at the very same address and had not moved. he wrote and called off and on for 2 years. I got mad at him on my 14th b-day because he called just as my guests were leaving, and I wanted to get off the phone to say goodbye to them, and for him to call back later.
He never called back. When i tried to contact him again, the number was disconnected.
when I was 25 or 26 he contacted me again. was quite rude but yes I talked to him and tried once again to find out who he is.
in january of 2007 I got a phone call "hello i think i'm your sister, and wanted to talk to you you can reach me at ********"
mind you inthe entire time I had contact with him, he never told me I hadsibblings.
turns out I have 2 "baby sisters" they are 25 and 27, the oldest has the SAME middle name, he wanted to name the younger one the same as well, but since they both have the same mother she said "you have 1, i'm not naming the second one that."
Little did she know he already had 2 other children, and now 4 children(at least now that *I* know of) When their mother found a pic of his oldest he told her it was his neice.
So that gives 3 of us the exact same middle name, and all 3named after him(his middle name).
He has been a dead beat to all of us, and I have learned things about him from my younger sisters, plus just from having contact with him that made me decide I never want to have contact with him again.
Any rate opinions, I'm changing my name reguardless but wanted to ask.
My husband said he thinks it's silly to change, I do not, I want no asociation with the man, including names.
There is a spot on the name change form for "Reason of change" And I'm trying to figure out the best way to word it> any ideas suggestions?
I do not hate the name on other people, and it is not a bad name for others, the reason I do not like it, I will have to give you the shortest my life in a short as possible version..
my mother married a man who had been married prior, and he already had 1 child, who he named after himself (yes you heard me right) my older sister is 11 years older than me. I knew of her but no more than that.
When they went to name me, he wanted to name me the exact same name, my mother said no you have one already, kept the middle name and gave me a different first name. They divorced when I was 7 months old, my mother was living at her parrents house when they divorced and he would go there for visatation for a short time, then he moved out of state. my mother and I lived there till I was 19,
He never tried to contact us or me, never paid child support or anything. When I was 13 he sent me a letter and some gifts, told me he had been searching for me and could not find me.
I'm sorry but BS because I was at the very same address and had not moved. he wrote and called off and on for 2 years. I got mad at him on my 14th b-day because he called just as my guests were leaving, and I wanted to get off the phone to say goodbye to them, and for him to call back later.
He never called back. When i tried to contact him again, the number was disconnected.
when I was 25 or 26 he contacted me again. was quite rude but yes I talked to him and tried once again to find out who he is.
in january of 2007 I got a phone call "hello i think i'm your sister, and wanted to talk to you you can reach me at ********"
mind you inthe entire time I had contact with him, he never told me I hadsibblings.
turns out I have 2 "baby sisters" they are 25 and 27, the oldest has the SAME middle name, he wanted to name the younger one the same as well, but since they both have the same mother she said "you have 1, i'm not naming the second one that."
Little did she know he already had 2 other children, and now 4 children(at least now that *I* know of) When their mother found a pic of his oldest he told her it was his neice.
So that gives 3 of us the exact same middle name, and all 3named after him(his middle name).
He has been a dead beat to all of us, and I have learned things about him from my younger sisters, plus just from having contact with him that made me decide I never want to have contact with him again.
Any rate opinions, I'm changing my name reguardless but wanted to ask.
My husband said he thinks it's silly to change, I do not, I want no asociation with the man, including names.
There is a spot on the name change form for "Reason of change" And I'm trying to figure out the best way to word it> any ideas suggestions?
but they don't have to know that.
