Flashy,
You're both awesome and astute.
Flashy wrote:
It's good you have found ways of reducing your anxiety. If being on RO makes you more anxious, maybe it might help to have people to contact from here if you need to? I found this to be really helpful.
I hadn't considered that as an option, but it's a very good suggestion. I'm not certain that I know anyone well enough for him/her to be willing to deal with my neurotic questions that crop up, though.
Do you have any techniques that help you reduce your anxiety? Like distraction? Rationalisation? Relaxation techniques? Medication?
None that I've been employing, no--unless you count me housing the buns out of my line-of-sight as a form of distraction.
The only way I became confident was just through learning and learning, then pushing my vet for more info and then learning some more, and only a little bit of practice. I know you are educating yourself a great deal and I would encrouage that even more. I often save RO threads to my favourites list if I think they have any sort of useful info in, I have saved many of Randy's posts to look back on as reference. Maybe making a virtual or actual folder with all sorts of info and what to do in different situations might be worth doing.
I feel as though I've soaked up so much info. from reading and talking to vets, but it still seems like it isn't enough. This stasis issue just seems to elude me and crop up too frequently for my comfort.
I've saved somethreads under my favorites list in the past, but should certainly do so with this one. Thank you for that reminder.
Just this morning I took Cloud to the vets, after noticing some gut problems on Saturday (slightly moist poo, lump in his gut) I took advantage of a prebooked appointment and asked for a checkup. He has gut slowdown, and its not working as well as it should, but he has been sent home so that I can get his gut back in good working order, Fibreplex, Metacam, lots of moist greens and lots of hay. His gut is not great, but it is functioning and so getting that is shape is more important than having his spur done, so that's what we are doing. That's just another indication that a gut problem doesn't have to mean automatic emergency admission or emergency measures or anything, they can be solved or sorted with simple means, often.
I can't gauge how long I can/should wait before freaking out over Emma's stasis (small poop) issues. Technically, she's had smaller-than-normal poops for 24 hours' now. (She has had some normal-sized ones, too; but her overnight output consists of nearly all smaller-than-normal ones.) It would seem that the extra fluids that we gave her yesterday and the extra-wet (pre-soaked) leafy greens that she got last night haven't helped much.
Having just said that, I don't think you have Fibreplex over there. It can be very useful for this type of problem. Maybe it might be worth seeing if you can get some delivered over there, or maybe me and you could work out a way to get you some.
No, we don't have Fibreplex here.
But I'll look into the possibility of getting some. (Cost will be a factor, though.)
There is a possibility that she does have spurs, in which case getting the vet to look with an Otoscope would be sensible, and if you are worried about tooth root problems then an x-ray is worth doing. Often though, the full extent of teeth problems can only be assessed under anaesthetic although a basic gist can be gotten whilst awake.
Multiple past viewings with an otoscope have revealed no oral issues.
What confuses me is that she continues eating; it's not as though she stops due to mouth pain and then develops stasis.
Are you by any chance a perfectionist? Or have low self esteem? Have you failed someone before?
The only reason I say that is because of your great worry or failing them. Do you think maybe this is the main reason why you are hypervigilant about any problems they might have?
I am a perfectionist, yes. (I drive myself nuts, to be honest.) I
did have low self-esteem as a child/teen. And I feel that I did, in a sense, "fail" our kitten, who had to be euthanized five years' ago when experimental treatment for a normally-fatal disease didn't work.
What you must remember is that rabbit's are prey animal and so hide any sort of problem, and whilst we (as vigilant owners) often see them, we don't always. That does not mean we failed them, it means they out smarted us, or that they did what is in their instinct to do. It is how you deal with a problem when you notice it that is the important thing, and also learning from each situation. I know that's completely tricky to work out sometimes what a rabbit needs, when, why, how, but having a rabbit is a steep learning curve, even for seasoned owners. A lot of people are forced to deal with problems at home, and only seek help when there is no option. An example of that is Peg, whose nearest vet is 2 hours away or something (that's off the top of my head) and Peg has learnt to do a great deal of stuff at home through necessity, yet will make that trip if it comes to it. I think it is finding a balance and learning and knowing your girls and what works for them.
I made 32 medical-relatedvisits to myformer vet--35 total visits, if you include picking up meds. To be honest, I'm also simply worn out from running to vet visits, for paying for vet visits. So every time that Emma's fecals get small, I get a knot in my stomach.
My hubby's the only one working right now and gets extra stressed (from a financial standpoint) every time the stasis bout hits. And while he is a nice guy, he gets cranky about the whole thing; so I feel stressed having to tell him that Emma may need another vet visit.
I know that he won't act very supportive because he's focused on all of the past money spent on animals' care, which, to be fair, is an
insane amount. (We could take several nice vacations that amount now gone.)
I imagine life is pretty scary for you now, in a lot of ways. Aside from the rabbit issues, do you have any sort of help for your anxiety problems?
I hadn't thought about it until now; yes, you're right: It's rather scary for me. I worry about the rabbits' health and the cost of their ongoing care; I worry about being able to get a job after the New Year; I worry that we may need to bomb our house, if this mite issue doesn't subside. (We already moved ourselves and the animals out once before, so that my hubby could spray the flooring/upholstery/curtains with a pesticide.)
Currently, I do not have help for my anxiety problems. And, to be honest, I hate America's health "insurance" policies, which still require that you pay more money after paying your deductible. So cost is a factor as to why I've not sought help. If I were working, I'd consider it.