Feeling Totally Used

[Sabine]

Yes, good idea. I think I move to the States. Florida sounds just fine. Patti, can I stay with you for a MONTH OR TWO. We are two adults and five children and 15 rabbits.:biggrin:

 

[slavetoabunny]

Sabine wrote:

Yes, good idea. I think I move to the States. Florida sounds just fine. Patti, can I stay with you for a MONTH OR TWO. We are two adults and five children and 15 rabbits.:biggrin:

Let me know when you are arriving so I can move in time, LOL!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[SnowyShiloh]

Okay, Sabine's last post and Patti's reply made me laugh and laugh Sabine, you're handling this really well. All you need to do is have a chat with the other couple and DO NOT HOLD BACK. I mean, you don't need to yell or anything of course, but don't try to tiptoe around for the sake of politeness. It is entirely possible to be very polite and very direct at the same time.

 

[jcl_24]

How did things end up with that family Sabine? Are they out of your life now? *I strongly hope so

Jo xx

 

[Sabine]

jcl_24 wrote:

How did things end up with that family Sabine? Are they out of your life now? *I strongly hope so

Jo x

This is strange to find a reply to this topic when just a few minutes ago I got a text from the man (after not hearing from him for a months)
When they moved out they took our bed sheets with them apparently to wash. I wasn't happy with it but they had already packed them and I didn't want to kick a fuss. Needless to say I didn't get those sheets back for weeks until I sent her a text. I ended up calling around and telling her how I felt. Apparently the couple is going through a separation right now. Anyhow she must have told him how I felt and in his text he apologizes profusely and wants to patch up things when he gets back from Germany. To be honest I'd rather never see him again and am trying to figure out how to say this politely:?

 

[jcl_24]

Hmm, maybe say his text made things very clear and there's really no need for him to call round. If his wife has explained things, he might justquietly take the hint.

It's like him coming around would be an excuse for them to open the communication or "favour" barriers again.

I know we haven't talked before Sabine, but I wish this couple would leave you alone!

 

[Sabine]

Thanks for the support. I told the wife I utterly disliked the man and always have. If someone felt like this about me I would never want to see them again. What is he hoping to achieve:?

 

[AquaticRex]

i'd have gotten a restraining order a looonnnggg time ago lol, and would have strated picking up my kids from school every day so the woman would have to take responsibility and never answered any texts or the phone when it has their name and if they call from a blocked number, talk until they say "i need a favor" as soon as they say that i'd hang up. i find with those kind of people, the best and easiest way to say no, is to just walk away from them. you dont even need to confront them, just close the mouth and walk away and dont listen to their next words. btw when it does get around to where they just drop their kids at your door, bring them to a really expensive child care place, then leave an address on your door for the child place where they can get their kids, and go out for the day and let them pick up the bill.

 

[jcottonl02]

My God Sabine! This felt like I was reading some creepy novel! Honestly it's weird. I wouldn't have been surprised if then the parents had disappeared and suddenly legally you were the carer for their children or something and there's nothing you can do but add them to your family and have to financially support them for months or something. Lol!

I think ignore any texts or calls from them again. They are WEIRD with a capital W. They are scroungers. They don't listen to you. Sounds like they will just suck you dry and leave you to become parasitic to another innocent victim.

Funny how when the guy's life suddenly turns a bit upside down, NOW he wants to be pleasant to you etc. and a decent human being. I say ignore him. You have no ties to him.

Good luck with it all

Jen

 

[Sabine]

I haven't responded to the text by the guy. I really really don't feel I want to talk to him. No matter of explanation will make me feel better about the things that happened. I can only imagine a conversation will lead to me feeling pressurized to be pleasant and say it's all fine now. I just do hope he doesn't suddenly appear on the doorstep:scared:

 

[jcottonl02]

Isn't it such a shame that this is what you get for being nice to people?

That's just wrong on so many levels lol.

Jen