Liung
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No, yeah, I had to withhold myself from getting pretty ranty myself. "Lahi was a great bunny" "just remember that you've given him a good life..." I restrained myself to "he's still alive, why are people using past tense?!" and one person backtracked "given him a good life up to this point" and just... I know what they meant, or rather, that they didn't mean anything by it. But it's kinda still a big neon "hey we think it's a foregone conclusion" sign.
No one's using past tense anymore, they're just talking about how hard it is to let a pet go and how I shouldn't worry, he knows I love him.
I did get one facebook message from my cousin though (doubly precious as his mother estranged herself from the family when we were children, and only now as adults are we starting to re-connect) and it just touched my heart with how supportive and non-judgemental it was:
Just explained why he understood, summed up the problem nicely, and then gave unconditional support without ever saying if he thought one way or the other was the right choice. :')
No one's using past tense anymore, they're just talking about how hard it is to let a pet go and how I shouldn't worry, he knows I love him.
I did get one facebook message from my cousin though (doubly precious as his mother estranged herself from the family when we were children, and only now as adults are we starting to re-connect) and it just touched my heart with how supportive and non-judgemental it was:
When i was younger my dog sophie got hit by a car and broke her hip sockets. We had to decide between surgery that would have left her in pain her whole life and unable to even use small stairs and putting her down. It hurts a lot to know your little buddy is in a bad spot, and its never fun having to decide how the rest of its life will play out. All you can do is make sure that hes as happy and healthy as you can make him. Do whatever you can to make him happy, because even if it turns for the worst he'll know you love him and that youve done everything you could to make him happy. even if it doesnt seem like it, he'll know you love and care for him.
Just explained why he understood, summed up the problem nicely, and then gave unconditional support without ever saying if he thought one way or the other was the right choice. :')