i was a child agency kid and unless he can prove to be a good host he cant take her in even on weekends. he needs to have transport and has to have a house that is clean and has a second bedroom just for her and he has to have the right amount of each food group and so on. you can ask for those things as compensation. yes he avoided you in the beginning, but there is little you can do to get rid of him now if he don't want to be gone. he will have to have supervised visiting and such cause of his past. and try to save all e-mails he sends you and show them to the person. you can also get a restraining order if you tell him to leave you alone. which will stop him from coming near you, your family, and especially your child. you will have to be or feel threatened by him, which personally i would if he kept messaging me and stuff telling you what he will and wont do when it comes to your child. my aunt did it. she went through the same thing you are, and she got a restraining order saying the x hubby was in jail and it intimidates her and she messaged him saying to leave her and her kids alone and he messaged back saying he would not, and she got the order just like that.