Bunny passed away, can’t seem to overcome grief and guilt..

[Imbrium]

I had Holly cremated and have a little urn with her ashes in my room where she likes to hang around, and I still speak to her daily, although I know she isn’t here. That might be a bit weird to others.. :/

I literally laughed out loud when I read that last sentence and got out of our warm and comfy bed to get on the actual computer and post this picture for you:



This is Layne, who passed last January 19th during a bout with stasis. We arguably couldn't even afford cremation after the vet bill to try to save him, so I just couldn't spare the extra $15+ to upgrade to a real/fancier urn and we got stuck with the free tin. His little tin was so plain and sad, so I decorated it for him! I carried it everywhere at first (it's small enough to fit in my purse) and sometimes slept with it in my hand. We still talk to him sometimes and periodically put little "offerings" in his tin (like a craisin or a bit of hay; the ashes are in a sealed zipper bag inside, so we can put gifts to him in there and then clean it out later). We even took him to the Houston zoo on the free Tuesday in February and scattered a little pinch of his ashes by each of our favorite exhibits. He still sits on our little bedside table.

 

[huffl]

Sorry for your loss. I understand what your doing through as we lost Annabelle in the beginning of October this year. I miss her dearly and this community’s support has helped greatly. Remember all the good and silly times you had with your bunny.

 

[Rsjm]

Ok, I have just lost 14 rabbits thru GIStasis and I’ll tell you what...I thought I was prepared...but I wasn’t..next time.. I know everything now...I am an expert unfortunately now from everything I was forced to learn. We have a hobby farm and I have..had 32 bunnies..I give them away for fun...they are such a joy..please please do not beat yourself up..that disease comes on so fast..this was my third time dealing with it..each time is different..so you had no way to know it would go that fast..focus on her good years..please...and get a new bunny..do you live anywhere near NWPA. I’d love to give you one. Here some of mine there’s even a bad picture of Sally my house bunny..her litter mates died so I brought her in..she loves it but I just haven’t gotten a good picture yet..lolView attachment 43859View attachment 43860View attachment 43861View attachment 43862View attachment 43863View attachment 43864View attachment 43865View attachment 43866View attachment 43867View attachment 43868I hope just one of these pictures will make you smile. Hope to hear more from you tomorrow

I am so sorry to hear of your experience as well.. I’m sure you loved each one of them dearly! Thanks for your offer but unfortunately I’m not located in USA. I would love to one day own a big enough place to have many bunnies as well though.. and yes you are right, each time is different from the other, I guess what the others have said is true, Stasis is more of a symptom rather than a disease itself, so now I am more alert to subtle changes in behaviour of the bunnies, rather than waiting for stasis to occur (as that will probably be too late..)

your bunnies are really adorable. Although they change once they grow up, I personally feel like their personality sticks with them, and it doesn’t change all that much. Wishing you and the rest of the bunnies good health and well wishes!! What a nice big happy family you have there <3

 

[Rsjm]

I literally laughed out loud when I read that last sentence and got out of our warm and comfy bed to get on the actual computer and post this picture for you:

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This is Layne, who passed last January 19th during a bout with stasis. We arguably couldn't even afford cremation after the vet bill to try to save him, so I just couldn't spare the extra $15+ to upgrade to a real/fancier urn and we got stuck with the free tin. His little tin was so plain and sad, so I decorated it for him! I carried it everywhere at first (it's small enough to fit in my purse) and sometimes slept with it in my hand. We still talk to him sometimes and periodically put little "offerings" in his tin (like a craisin or a bit of hay; the ashes are in a sealed zipper bag inside, so we can put gifts to him in there and then clean it out later). We even took him to the Houston zoo on the free Tuesday in February and scattered a little pinch of his ashes by each of our favorite exhibits. He still sits on our little bedside table.

Haha that’s a nice enough urn!! That’s really so sweet of you. I’m sure he’d be so happy if he could see you from the rainbow bridge. I would love to bring her everywhere I go, unfortunately her urn is a little too big so she’ll have to settle with being at home at her favourite spot haha. How much is an urn where you’re at? The pet cremator actually offered the scattering off ashes at sea at no charge, but it was a definite no for me cuz Holly hated water and getting wet so she’d definitely be mad if I had agreed to that!

 

[Rsjm]

Sorry for your loss. I understand what your doing through as we lost Annabelle in the beginning of October this year. I miss her dearly and this community’s support has helped greatly. Remember all the good and silly times you had with your bunny.

thank you for your kind words. Yeah that’s what I’ve been doing, I’m sure you’re going through the same thing and I can only hope that this community has made u feel better, just as much as it has made me. Sending love and well wishes to you! May Annabelle binky free at the rainbow bridge

 

[Imbrium]

We could've had them scattered for free or returned in the default urn (tin) for free. It's also tons cheaper at the place we use if you agree to a sort of group-cremation-ashes-spread-at-pet-cemetary deal, but we always cough up to get individual cremation and ashes returned.

Regardless of the urn, the ashes themselves (in my experience) are always in some variety of plastic bag. Layne's amounted to a 3'' x 2.5'' x 1.5'' (max) baggie for a nearly 8 lb rabbit.

Urns at the cremation place we use start at $15 and go up from there.

 

[Rsjm]

We could've had them scattered for free or returned in the default urn (tin) for free. It's also tons cheaper at the place we use if you agree to a sort of group-cremation-ashes-spread-at-pet-cemetary deal, but we always cough up to get individual cremation and ashes returned.

Regardless of the urn, the ashes themselves (in my experience) are always in some variety of plastic bag. Layne's amounted to a 3'' x 2.5'' x 1.5'' (max) baggie for a nearly 8 lb rabbit.

Urns at the cremation place we use start at $15 and go up from there.

If you’d ever like to upgrade Layne’s urn, or do anything in his memory, I would like to contribute towards one for you. I’d like to do something to give back for all the kindness that you’ve shown me. I really do appreciate it.

 

[Imbrium]

Aww, that's very sweet of you! I'm happy with his decorated urn, though - it makes me giggle when I look at it and remember him fondly. If you wish to repay me for my help, then I'd love you to 'pay it forward' instead by helping out others on the forum with advice or comforting words. Give back by giving to bunnies .

 

[Rsjm]

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Aww, that's very sweet of you! I'm happy with his decorated urn, though - it makes me giggle when I look at it and remember him fondly. If you wish to repay me for my help, then I'd love you to 'pay it forward' instead by helping out others on the forum with advice or comforting words. Give back by giving to bunnies .

I will do just that. Been terribly busy recently with work, and I still think of her everyday, and the happy memories we had. Had a rough day few days back, and broke down when I remembered and thought of her last day with us. It'll take time, but i'll slowly get better, just like all of you have had.

I've taken some of your advice and been attending adoption drives in look for a companion. My remaining bus is really picky, seems to only like females.. will be fostering a female bun for a week, and if all goes well i'll be able to give her a home :') (poor girl hasnt had a home for the past 1-1.5 years..) will update with pictures

 

[MacDennis]

This sounds almost identical to what happened to me and my best buddy. I'm struggling with the guilt and pain. I treated my baby several times for gut stasis over the last year. This time I just assumed it would work out the same and I would nurse him back to health. Unfortunately the meds and feeding and heat bottles didn't make this better. It was too late by the time I realised he was suffering from a GI blockage. I watched him die in agony only about 24hrs from when I noticed him hunched in pain not eating. It happened too fast and I beat myself up for not taking the day off work to take him to the vet in the morning. He wasn't even 2 years old, yet it feels like we were connected all our lives. He leaves his strongly bonded brother behind too. It's so tragic and I can't cope with this grief.

 

[john.thorpe1952]

I can totally sympathise. The fact that you feel this way shows that you cared a great deal,and that can never be bad.If you made an error of judgement,join the great universal club! Anyone who has cared for animals has made mistakes,it's unfortunate but inevitable and even the best vets can do it.Blaming yourself is natural too,I've done that may times,and in the end you can only do the best you can,from a standpoint of love and concern.He knew you loved him,and all you can do is learn from it and apply what the lesson taught you if you're ever in the same position again.best wishes from someone who has been there.