AshAndMaple
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Hi, so I'm bonding Ash (intact male) and Bluebell (spayed female). Background - I know this isn't recommended, but Ash is high-risk for anaesthetic and their personalities seem pretty compatible.
It seems to be going well - they both groom each other, cuddle up together etc. Every now and then there is a scuffle. Mostly it's Ash mounting Bluebell which I expected (occasionally she mounts him too) - he has pulled out small clumps of fur and in the small bald patch this has created there are some bite marks. Most of them are just red marks, but a couple look like they have broken the skin. None have bled other than possibly in the little dip of the mark themselves. Is this something I should be concerned about? I don't want to separate them when they're doing so well, but I don't want the bites to get worse and for it to get to a point where a vet is needed. As I'm typing this, Ash is grooming her ears and then nipping her back slightly. I don't think his intention is to cause her harm, and they haven't had any proper fights - I just think he's nipping her slightly too hard. The mounting seems very much dominance-based, and he's running around her in circles while she sits there and ignores him, and he's spraying and asking to be groomed etc.
Thoughts on this would be appreciated! (I am supervising 24/7 - sleeping in the kitchen with them etc. and I don't need a lecture on neutering Ash - keeping him intact was a difficult decision and it's what's right for him.)
It seems to be going well - they both groom each other, cuddle up together etc. Every now and then there is a scuffle. Mostly it's Ash mounting Bluebell which I expected (occasionally she mounts him too) - he has pulled out small clumps of fur and in the small bald patch this has created there are some bite marks. Most of them are just red marks, but a couple look like they have broken the skin. None have bled other than possibly in the little dip of the mark themselves. Is this something I should be concerned about? I don't want to separate them when they're doing so well, but I don't want the bites to get worse and for it to get to a point where a vet is needed. As I'm typing this, Ash is grooming her ears and then nipping her back slightly. I don't think his intention is to cause her harm, and they haven't had any proper fights - I just think he's nipping her slightly too hard. The mounting seems very much dominance-based, and he's running around her in circles while she sits there and ignores him, and he's spraying and asking to be groomed etc.
Thoughts on this would be appreciated! (I am supervising 24/7 - sleeping in the kitchen with them etc. and I don't need a lecture on neutering Ash - keeping him intact was a difficult decision and it's what's right for him.)