Any One With a Sleep Disorder?

[jcottonl02]

Wow Sunnycait that picture is jst gorgeous! Tell me that's not u lol......you look like a mix of Charlize Theron and Marylin Monroe.

The envy

I just thought I'd let you know I split up with my bf.
I'm not going to go through the reasons why; only he and I could (and should) understand that, but it's to do with the depression he has. I couldn't stand the clinginess, the threatened by all other men, the anxiety and depression I had to deal with 24/7, especially around the most important exams of mine.

We are still the best of friends though, and I'm still trying to get him to see a therapist. I still care about him deeply and want him to sort this out. We are going on holiday together (see we are still v good friends) and he needs to get a good nights sleep otherwise the holiday could be ruined for him.

Thanks for all ur help with it though- I feel I understand it much more now. And I hope ur gf is okay (and you!) and hope everything continues to get better

 

[jcottonl02]

And yes (soz I hadn't replied earlier) he could well have been bipolar.
Bless him. I feel for him so much, and I feel like such an awful person for not being able to deal with his problems like someone so close to him should.

It was just more stressful being his gf that not, and I'm still helping him through- any good mate would. But being his gf rather than his good friend meant a whole new load of problems that could never be solved: I could never revise- he would just ring and ring with different, unimportant questions even though I asked him to leave me for an hour to revise. If we didnt speak for a day he would be so so down and depressed.
I could never get a good night's sleep when I was alone because he would just ring all night (as he doesn't sleep much) and keep ringing and babble to keep me on the phone.
If a guy so much as looked at me, or tell me (or my bf) he thought I was beautiful, if would ruin his night, and he would be depressed for the whole evening.

He is such a good person, with such a good heart, but he was driving me insane for about 4 months solid. We'd talked and talked about it, but it just wouldn't go in.

I just feel so awful and selfish, but you can't understand unless you've experienced it.

 

[SunnyCait]

Haha, no that's not me! I'm a wee shorter and not blonde, nor as stunning, LOL. That's the love of my life, Katherine Heigl. Don't let the GF hear that though, haha.

Aw, I'm sorry to hear that. But I totally understand the decision. It might actually be better for you two this way; at least you can remain really good friends! Which is awesome, because he sounds like he really does need a good friend.

Don't feel guilty. There were a few times in the beginning of our relationship where I was like "I can't do this, I can't be this person" and it was really scary. Well it's scary to think about now, seeing what we have now and all that. That's not meant to make you feel bad, I just meant to show you that I get it. It doesn't make you a bad person at ALL. As you said, you're still really good friends! That's probably even better.

My parents have been married for some 20 years, and they are divorcing this year. My mom is bi-polar and a whole host of other things, and my dad finally buckled. Which, good for him, he shouldn't have to live this way. But it was a really hard choice for him to make because he does love her. But when you're with the person you love you shouldn't be hurting all the time.

 

[jcottonl02]

I was gonna say- thats not fair. Really not fair at all. Bet u r v beautiful tho- ur just being modest.

Thanks. I do think we are better as friends.

But it just hurt him so much for me to do it. He had no idea......he really didn't know how on the rocks our relationship was. Which was even worse.

But considering what a terrible few days they were when we broke up, we are on surpisingly good and close terms.
I thought id lost him forever- he's...well this doesn't make him sound to good but he really is- he's been with a lot of girls, but he's never had a proper relationship. And I was worried that if we broke up he wouldn't...know how to be around me or something.

Thank god we are okay becuase he really is one of my best friends.

I can't help feeling terrible. Like a selfish person who doesn't care what troubles someone else is going through, and is just in life for themselves.

I know this isn't true. I keep telling myself it. But it's hard when ur the one to hurt someone else so badly.
Everyone kept telling me it wasn't fair on me, and I am finally starting to believe them.

Thanks for ur comfort. It's nice to know u can understand without really knowing the full story- which would take a while to really convey how I feel lol. And that's a thread hijacker lol!!

Thanks x

 

[SunnyCait]

Yeah I'm all kinds of modest. JK. I'm okay but I'm no KH! Haha!

I'm glad you're starting to believe them, because it's so true! Anyone who says otherwise has either never gone through it and had to make that decision or never been around it.

I'm also glad you guys are cool now... And that you can be friends despite the fact that you guys are broken up.
Maybe this will help him see that what is going on with him isn't just affecting himself and he needs help.

If you ever want to PM me, feel free to! I won't mind and I'm a decent listener, haha.

 

[jcottonl02]

Thanks Cait I really appreciate that. You are a good listener and a good advice-giver etc.

He needs 2 sort this out- he won't be able 2 hold down a relationship like this.
I'm really hoping some of his qualities etc. will go with age (I haven't really spoken about them).
I might pm u when I have a free moment to babble lol. Thanks for the offer.
Jenx