another confused time for me

[irishlops]

hi every one.
my mum and dad broke up about 3/4/5 years ago.they got back together and did not tell the authoritises. now my dad has been kicked out and has told his solictor taht my mum did not tell.
my mum also wrote a note and left it in his car when he was kicked out out. some of it
(from memory)
You have hurt me for the last time, you treat her like she has the ring on her finger, you will never do this again.. etc
and if i was a random person i would take this as a threat.a nd the socilcer sees it taht way.
my mum can .
1. be sent to prision for a while. 2/3/4 years but im not sure. the chances of that are high
2. kicked out of house and my dad takes care of me- also very high but im not sure i want to
3. WE move so i live with her- the very very very last thing i want to do is move inalone with an abuive mother in this state of mind.
i REALLY REALLY dont know what to do
i dont want my life pulled in all directions because of this.

 

[fuzz16]

how old are you?

is there other relatives you can stay with

 

[irishlops]

fuzz16 wrote:

how old are you?

is there other relatives you can stay with

im 13years old, and not 14 till next year.
my other brother and my granda

 

[Sabine]

Elena, a threatening note from your mom will not lead to her arrest. I cannot imagine that a solicitor would be stupid enough to go on such little evidence. Police are usually very reluctant to get involved in domestic situations.
As regards your mom and dad getting back together without telling the authorities at the most it can be considered tax or social welfare fraud and if your dad passed on the relevant information to the authorities he'd be in just as much trouble. I doubt the solicitor would advice him to do so.
I also cannot imagine your mom and you will be kicked out of the house for those reasons but of course you are worried.
Have you tried to contact any of the places that offer help and councilling in situations like yours? Didn't Tracy find some addreses for you?
My heart goes out to you. Try and be strong.
Sabine

 

[irishlops]

Sabine wrote:

Elena, a threatening note from your mom will not lead to her arrest. I cannot imagine that a solicitor would be stupid enough to go on such little evidence. Police are usually very reluctant to get involved in domestic situations.
As regards your mom and dad getting back together without telling the authorities at the most it can be considered tax or social welfare fraud and if your dad passed on the relevant information to the authorities he'd be in just as much trouble. I doubt the solicitor would advice him to do so.
I also cannot imagine your mom and you will be kicked out of the house for those reasons but of course you are worried.
Have you tried to contact any of the places that offer help and councilling in situations like yours? Didn't Tracy find some addreses for you?
My heart goes out to you. Try and be strong.
Sabine

i cant contact them!!! i dont have any way of contacting them. im not allwed out on my own or use the phone.
i know the letter will not be enough its so very little.
but the fact about the tax fraud or what ever it is she could, my 2 brothers looked it up.
my dad also wants some terms and in some rambling on thing i dont want to sepend typing out it is clear it may involve my mum leaving the house

 

[Sabine]

Could you maybe confide in one of your older brothers and ask them to come along to a councillor? It's really difficuilt to be stuck in the middle of all this not knowing what's going to happen. I really think some outside help is necessary.

 

[irishlops]

Sabine wrote:

Could you maybe confide in one of your older brothers and ask them to come along to a councillor? It's really difficuilt to be stuck in the middle of all this not knowing what's going to happen. I really think some outside help is necessary.

i have 2 at the moment that is in the house.
john- he is throwing him self into work and is in a foul mood all the time now.
domonic- just failled his exams and has been kicked out of uni, and not only that he is normally soically akward and avoids things like coulliers and people.
i think i should just wait and see what the main situation is.
ill try and get outside help.

 

[missyscove]

Do you have a teacher you trust at school that might be able to help you find some kind of counseling, or even a counselor at school.

 

[irishlops]

i dont really trust any teachers in school
(sound hard to belive) but yeh, i dont really trust any of them.

 

[Luvr of Wabbits and Polar Bears]

Elena I'm sorry things aren't looking up for you. Looks like some days you and mom are ok, IE looking at places to visit, and other days not so good.

You know i'm here for you if you need to chat.

:hug2:

 

[irishlops]

thanks.
ill look then.
(i have a science test tomorrow and i need to revise.. so i will be on 2morrow for longer.)