What do your husbands do around the house?

dungeonbunnies · Nov 8, 2012

I also have a problem sleeping, so Mike will occasionally get up with Zack and let me sleep.

SnowyShiloh, what about a "chore list"? This may help divide the housework, AND keep hubby from getting hurt feelings by having in print who does what.

Example:
I clean bunny poo
Mike cleans the cat poo
OCCASIONALLY, we switch, I'll clean the cat box, and Mike will clean the bunny boxes. Because we BOTH have cats and rabbits.

I usually do all feeding and watering. (I own 3 out of 6 rabbits, Mike has 2, Zack has 1. and I own one of the 2 cats) But Mike will feed for me when I'm tired, or not feeling good.

It's not always easy getting chores divided up, but it does help smooth things over. I still have a few things he doesn't help with, but it's ok. As long as he's helping in some manner, I don't complain. (I even make it seem like it's a big deal when he does something he's supposed to, positive reinforcement!)

littl3red · Nov 10, 2012

My boyfriend and I aren't married, but I know that he does help out a lot around the house. He enjoys cooking, doesn't mind mowing the lawn, I don't know if there's any chores he really dreads doing. Unless I'm not working, and especially if we move in together after graduation (I'll be working AND going to college, he'll just be working, but he'll also be in the Air National Guard) I will fully expect him to split the housework with me pretty evenly. I think that would go over pretty smoothly, he's pretty fair about things like that.

HolyHandGrenade · Nov 10, 2012

Mine makes messes. Oh and yesterday he let Monty out of the kitchen into the living room and then ignorantly did not watch her every move. Result? 2 chewed cords and some postage stamps chewed up. WHAT THE FUZZ? It wasn't just a little nip either, it was a good full minute worth of damage. She works fast, and I've already told him this and demonstrated on cardboard. Yes, she's chewing when you think maybe she's just licking or sniffing. If she shouldn't eat it, don't even let her sniff it. Tell her no and separate her from it.

Duh.

Seriously, I'm still pissed about this and I found the evidence 12 hours ago. All he's supposed to do is let her out of her crate to hop around the kitchen with the gate shut, supervised the whole time, for like 15 minutes while I'm at work. What possesses someone to let an animal that is NOT theirs go wander into a room that has NOT been made safe for it, and then look the other way? rant rant rant he's sleeping alone for much of tonight.

Troller · Nov 10, 2012

Hmm, can a husband speak out? Lets see, my wife does most of these too, its just I do all the following tasks and either an equal amount or at a majority of the time: Cook, clean, laundry, fold clothes, handle the disgusting home jobs, wash dishes, clean the pets, get the gas, throw the trash, handle the bills, minor maintenance, take care of a disabled mother and work. Her job is much more intense, but we work about the same amount of hours (I do the occasional overtime where available). I guess it evens out but if I slack around the house its very telling. The only thing I refuse to do is iron clothes. Never understood the need and I will utterly rebel against such a task!

whitelop · Nov 10, 2012

HolyHandGrenade wrote:

Mine makes messes. Oh and yesterday he let Monty out of the kitchen into the living room and then ignorantly did not watch her every move. Result? 2 chewed cords and some postage stamps chewed up. WHAT THE FUZZ? It wasn't just a little nip either, it was a good full minute worth of damage. She works fast, and I've already told him this and demonstrated on cardboard. Yes, she's chewing when you think maybe she's just licking or sniffing. If she shouldn't eat it, don't even let her sniff it. Tell her no and separate her from it.

Duh.

Seriously, I'm still p*ssed about this and I found the evidence 12 hours ago. All he's supposed to do is let her out of her crate to hop around the kitchen with the gate shut, supervised the whole time, for like 15 minutes while I'm at work. What possesses someone to let an animal that is NOT theirs go wander into a room that has NOT been made safe for it, and then look the other way? rant rant rant he's sleeping alone for much of tonight.

Sometimes I just don't think they understand the animals. Not just rabbits, but animals in general. I know you only have Monty, but I have a house full. Sometimes my husband does things and I just want to punch myself in the face, he does things too with our son that make me scratch my head. I just don't understand him sometimes. I don't understand how he doesn't understand either.

The other night he DID manage to hurt my feelings though! I spent a good amount of time scrubbing the bathroom and cleaning the living room. I didn't get to my son's room, the kitchen. I cooked dinner and everything! There were a few dishes in the sink and a wine glass on the counter, he goes into the kitchen and was like "uhh...are you going to get to the kitchen tonight after you watch the office?" I just looked at him.
I was thinking "wow, I did so much today and you just don't see it. All you see is my wine glass on the counter!" Sometimes he's such an jerk!

Imbrium · Nov 10, 2012

Troller wrote:

Hmm, can a husband speak out? Lets see, my wife does most of these too, its just I do all the following tasks and either an equal amount or at a majority of the time: Cook, clean, laundry, fold clothes, handle the disgusting home jobs, wash dishes, clean the pets, get the gas, throw the trash, handle the bills, minor maintenance, take care of a disabled mother and work. Her job is much more intense, but we work about the same amount of hours (I do the occasional overtime where available). I guess it evens out but if I slack around the house its very telling. The only thing I refuse to do is iron clothes. Never understood the need and I will utterly rebel against such a task!

sounds like you're well-trained! hehe. my idea of ironing is to put stuff in the dryer on high heat for 5-10 minutes.

JessicaK · Nov 10, 2012

He's currently deployed, so I do everything around the house. But when he is home, we split the chores.

Nancy McClelland · Nov 10, 2012

Larry here. We pretty much split up all the jobs and have for 4 decades. I'm a neat fanatic, so I do about 60% of cleaning, laundry, etc. I do 99% of the cooking and always have. If you start keeping score, you'll only drive yourself off a big precipice. The person your with is how they are and always will be, so get over it or interview replacements. Also, I take care of all automotive issues, yard care and the other assorted things outside, i.e. Xmas lights, concrete work, electrical,plumbing, etc. We both were working full time, raising kids, getting several advanced degrees, so I guess we may have been too tired to keep track of who did what let alone resent our spouse for not doing i what needed doing. I retired 15 years ago, and Nancy was a Vice Principal till she retired 3 years ago, so it left me to do most things anyways, although when I was working I pretty much put in the same amount of hours as she got to.