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Just because you got married today is no excuse for not updating us and posting pictures. (I hope you know I'm joking) I can't wait to hear how your special day went.
 
NorthernAutumn wrote:
I NEED you to put your rings on somebunny's ears for the ceremony.
Please, please, please do it!!!
Little ringbearer Rory :D

My friends had their tortoise be the ring bearer, they strapped a pillow to his shell and their son carried him down the isle to them. It was adorable!

CONGRATULATIONS!!! on your wedding! Can't wait to see pictures
 
It's update time! We got back from the honeymoon on Monday and I've been busy doing other things, then the forum died so I had to wait to post.

All the pictures here are ones I took myself or ones that guests took! Some people are still going to send me photos and we have the professional ones to look at as well. The photographer did not stay for the reception (would have cost too much), so I'm relying on my photos and other people's photos. We had 4 disposable cameras sitting around too that the kids mostly used, I dropped them off the other day and we're going to pick them up tonight so I'm pretty curious about what we ended up with!

As for the actual wedding day, it started out very rocky. The night before, my mother was doing her dictator routine and acting like she was getting married. DEFINITELY a mother of the bride-zilla. She was very stressed out and argumentative and on the verge of a meltdown, which I think is absolutely ridiculous. She made me stay up with her until 4 am so I only got 3 hours of sleep. Worse than that, she made my aunt, uncle, cousins, brother, and brother's girlfriend get up at 7 am (after not being allowed to leave her apartment until 2 am) to help us set up the reception room! I felt like she was using my relatives as slave labor, but to say anything would have made it a thousand times worse. I just thanked everyone profusely for helping and will also thank them in the thank you notes. They really did so much!

The weather was great. We've had a cool summer and it was pretty gray and rainy in the days before the wedding, but thankfully there was not a cloud in the sky on the wedding day! This is something I'd worried about for months (even though I had multiple contingency plans) since we really wanted to get married in the garden. It was also the warmest day so far this summer- in the mid '80s. There was a breeze though, which was very nice because it kept everyone cool and we don't normally get breezes here. The breeze also meant my grandpa's wife could attend the ceremony. She's allergic to bees and the garden is full of them so she was going to stay in the car, but because of the breeze blowing the bees around she felt comfortable coming to the ceremony. I'm so thankful for the blue sky, warm weather, breeze, and lack of smoke from forest fires as the night before had been a little smoky.

So, the morning was spent setting up the reception room. Mom had a mild freak out when one of the flower arrangements came out of the fridge partly frozen. I had warned her about putting them close to the back of the fridge on the top level. Please note that *I* was perfectly calm and knew it would be just fine- I ended up buying some white roses at the grocery store and simply rearranging it a bit. It looked fine and no one was the wiser.

How the tables were arranged, we had 2 long tables. You can see the napkins are folded into hearts and my cousin wrote the names in calligraphy, which I stuck into the fold in the middle of the heart.
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Our place settings:
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An arrangement with the candles lit later:

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Candy buffet. The candies ended up being taffy, Raisinets, jordan almonds, dark chocolate kisses, almond kisses, malted milk balls shaped like eggs (we had a slight bird theme), pastel colored M&Ms, peach slices, meltaway mints, gummi berries (I'd been trying to keep the colors white or pastel or purple or chocolate colored but my mom wanted to add them even though they're black and red and I didn't want to say anything), and jelly bellies. I think I may be leaving something out too. Instead of plain scoops and tongs, we used some of my mother's antique ladles, spoons and sugar tongs. It was very cute and a ton of work went into it!!

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The bags for people to fill- I found purple ribbon with white dots that matched the napkins and the little tablecloth the bags are sitting on.

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We finished getting everything set up at about 11, then went to get the cake from the grocery store and a couple extra bags of candy for the candy buffet as well as lunch from the deli. The cake was so beautiful! Some girls dream of their wedding dresses growing up, but I dreamed of my wedding cake. It tasted even better than it looked. The middle layer was chocolate and that's what most people ended up choosing.

After eating lunch and finishing the reception room, my cousin and friend did my hair and make up and everything while our other relatives went out to the botanical garden to set up the benches and arbor. We were all finished by about 2:30. No one else was ready to go, so Paul, my friend and I headed out to the botanical garden to get dressed out there. The photographer was due to arrive at 4 and my mother took her sweet time getting there, which was making me nervous because I had of course forgotten to bring my bouquet and necklace and she had them. We got started a bit late with the photos, but it was okay. It was just photos of Paul and me walking around the garden. I'm so glad we picked such a nice photographer and can't wait to see the pictures.

When we were done with photos, it was wedding time at 5 pm! Everyone was there. I couldn't believe it was finally time. I was excited, giddy, overwhelmed, thrilled. I of course ended up crying my way down the aisle with Paul, which was uncomfortable because I am very not into crying in public because I'm a pretty private person. I managed to pull myself together though as the officiant did her thing. Paul's brother, my friend, and my brother did their readings. My brother's reading was from The Velveteen Rabbit. Very appropriate because our mother read us that book all the time when we were kids and I am a huge bunny lover of course. My brother got very choked up and cried during his reading, which made me cry. We ended up alternatingly crying and laughing, which made a lot of the guests cry and laugh too. It was pretty sweet :)

After the readings came the vows. I practically whispered mine to Paul and he said his very loudly so everyone could hear. For the ring exchange, his mother handed him my ring and my mother handed me his.

vows:

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me putting the ring on Paul's finger:

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A bit more talking from the officiant, a rather awkward kiss, and we were married! Hooray! Everyone blew bubbles and we went back down the aisle, me crying happily of course.

The ceremony surprised me in some ways. First of all, I loved the ceremony itself- we were able to pick everything we wanted to be read. It lasted about 10 minutes, maybe a little less. I had been worried that a bunch of people would stop and watch us the entire time, but honestly, I wouldn't have noticed if an entire tour bus of people were watching (which the garden people told us might happen!). I couldn't even tell you where any of the guests were sitting. I also am not a very sentimental person and managed to not cry through the entire ceremony (only parts of it!), and I wonder how other women make it through their wedding ceremonies without crying. I'll never forget looking into Paul's eyes as I recited my vows or sliding the rings on each others fingers. I was also surprised by how not nervous I was in the days before (and minutes leading up to) the wedding! Stressed and tired, but not nervous. As much as I love and adore my mother, I know I would have been significantly less stressed and tired if she hadn't acted the way she did. I'm just thankful my mother is alive and could come to my wedding though!

After the ceremony, there was of course lots of hugging and tears and the photographer got a picture of all 28 of us together. Several people told me how much they loved the ceremony and how touching it was. Then we signed the marriage license and everything and headed to the reception.

When we got to the reception, first thing we did was take the family photos out in the gazebo area. It was so nice of the photographer to be willing to come out to the reception for photos- we only paid him $500 for the portrait session (which was going to only be Paul and I at the garden, ceremony pictures, and family photos at the garden) and it was his idea to come to the reception to take family photos. He also got some photos of the cake and the candy buffet. This isn't really bad, just weird... remember Paul's cousin who invited herself and her Paul and child to the wedding and Paul didn't even know this cousin existed because no one ever talked about her and he apparently only met her once as a very small child? And then when they returned the RSVP, they wrote in the name of someone else? That someone else was their brand new foreign exchange student who just arrived less than a month ago. Very sweet girl. Cousin insisted on the foreign exchange student being in the photos of Paul's side of the family. I didn't want to fight it, so there is now a cute little Thai teenager in several of the family photos. A little odd. I was a foreign exchange student for year and would have felt very odd being included in the wedding photos of a random relative of a family I had just moved in with. My brother's girlfriend wasn't even in any but 1 picture. I don't blame the exchange student of course, just think Cousin is a rather odd, though nice person!

After photos, people dug into the appetizers, which were crab stuffed mushroom caps, smoked salmon canapes, and potato skins. The potato skins weren't fancy, but they sure got devoured! So did the other appetizers. The catering folks actually pushed dinner back to 7:30 because people arrived so late from the garden (they wanted to look around since it's beautiful, of course!) and the photos took about 20 minutes. Dinner was buffet style and completely beautiful. The food was fantastic. We had caesar salad, plain green salad with assorted dressings, rolls, rice pilaf, garlic mashed potatoes, a great veggie blend, halibut dijon, and prime rib with horseradish sauce. People in particular went on about the halibut and several people said it was the best wedding food they'd had.

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After everyone ate, both of our fathers, my brother, my mother, and a few random aunts and uncles made toasts. I wasn't sure if there would be any toasts so that was a nice surprise. Then Paul played his cello for everyone.

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After he finished, I let everyone know about the guest book table (we had an awesome guest book, we set up a separate table with the pages and markers and pens and let people go to town) and explained the candy buffet, since people had been ogling it but no one had dug in yet. I also encouraged people to move around to the other tables if they wanted and to go outside if they liked. In addition to the room we rented, we got the beautiful gazebo area which has lots of flowers and a patio with several tables. So people went to work on the guest book pages, loaded up bags of candy at the candy buffet, went outside, and generally relaxed and had a good time.

Guest book table earlier in the day:

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I bought some extra giant take out containers for the kids to fill with candy. They definitely approved! The boys are my new nephews :D

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Some time after that, we cut the cake because the frosting was melting! It was fairly warm in the room- I thought they had air conditioning, but apparently not. It wasn't too uncomfortable for us though (and it was much nicer inside), though it did make the cake suffer some. Paul and I cut slices for everyone. We also had lemon tarts that came from the catering people (they actually cost more than the cake!), but they weren't that great and not many got eaten. Paul had really wanted wedding pie but the catering folks said we could not bring in pie, but they could make the tarts. Everyone liked the cake though!

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melting, oops!
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After cake, everyone pretty much just mingled and got to know each other more. There was lots of laughing. I think people enjoyed themselves. I was happy for the small number of guests because I got to talk to everyone for at least 15 minutes or so.

There were two catering people taking care of everyone, and they were so nice. They thanked me for being such a nice bride (apparently they've had bad experiences!) and said they really liked our reception. We gave both of them flower arrangements to take home and encouraged them to take candy from the buffet. They said they'd never seen anything like the candy buffet and one of them took pictures of it to post on Facebook, which I think is pretty funny.

People started leaving at about 11 pm and Paul and I left at 11:30. All in all, it was a wonderful wedding. Perfect for us. Paul and I had a great time and I think our relatives did too. The planning and preparations were excruciating at times, and I wouldn't want to do it again, but (hokey as this sounds), I think it was worth it in the end! Our wedding was definitely a bit different- small number of guests who were all family (and one friend who is more like family to me than most of my relatives), a nonreligious ceremony, no dancing or bouquet/garter toss, but with an awesome candy buffet, cello playing from the groom, and a pretty nifty guest book. I wasn't sure if people would really want to fill out the guest book, but of 26 guests, we got back 22 pages and several of them were a couple filling out the page together.

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A random picture my aunt took- our hands are over my bouquet, which was peach roses, white spray roses, purple stock, and baby's breath. Just like the flower arrangements.
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:D
 
Nawwww...*melts down* Looks like you had a wonderful day, Congrats! I love the pictures, it's so sweet. I'm glad everything went well.:heartbeat:
 
Wow - what a beautiful day you had (in spite of your mom) - and what great memories you'll have of it.

I can hardly wait to see the photos you'll be getting from the photographer.

I love the candy buffet idea....awesome.
 
What a beautiful wedding! I have to agree, sometimes the simplest things are best, why complicate perfection? :) I'm sure your wedding was like a breath of fresh air for your guests :) Most importantly, you and your husband will always remember the day fondly.
 
I didn't mean to complain about my mother so much- I belong to another wedding forum where I shared all of my wedding plans and preparations with a bunch of other women, and was very open with problems with my mother so it was relevant on that forum. I didn't want to type that giant thing twice so I just tweaked it a bit when I posted it here. I probably should have left out the mom stuff. My mom is very overbearing and controlling, but I also love her more than anyone else in this world aside from Paul. We actually DO have an excellent relationship too. It's just our personalities are quite different (I'm much more laid back... if that wasn't clear already) and she is very high strung and gets stressed out easily, which leads to giant screaming fits on her part. My wedding was definitely stressful for her! It all ended up great though and once the ceremony and reception were underway, she was perfectly wonderful.
 
Sounds like an awesome day - you and Paul look so relaxed and happy.

I think most moms' stress out at their daughters' wedding. I know mine said she wished she could do mine again, just so she could relax and take more of it in!

Congrats :)

Jan
 
Exactly, Jan- and it seems like the more you love someone, the better they are at driving you crazy. Thankfully, Paul is very good at not driving me crazy, but my mother most definitely IS.
 
Congratulations! I am so happy for the two of you.

What a great wedding! I am glad everything turned out so well and some how it was magical. The cake looked wonderful. This is the first I heard of a Candy Buffet too. I would of loved the Jelly Bellies. :biggrin2:
 
Thanks, Stan! The candy buffet really went over well. Who wouldn't like getting a bag to fill with 11 different kinds of candy as their wedding favor? Since we didn't do any other decorating really (the room was already decorated in a style that coordinated well with what I was planning), the candy buffet ended up being a good focal point. The jelly beans were good, too- the orange colored ones were pink grapefruit flavored, the white ones were coconut, and the more clear white ones were cream soda flavored. I picked them based on their colors, not their flavors, but they did taste good. The jelly beans in the champagne flutes were supposed to look like champagne- do you think I accomplished that?
 
SnowyShiloh wrote:
The jelly beans in the champagne flutes were supposed to look like champagne- do you think I accomplished that?
Yes the cream soda jelly beans would be the bubbly in the champagne. :biggrin2: The champagne flutes are unique too. It must of took alot of jelly beans to fill them.
 

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