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This will be a bit long but bare with me.


So my boyfriend's Aunt's girlfriend, Shelly has a 17 year old daugther, Kaylyn who tries acting like a wh0re to be quite blunt.

Awhile back she was messing with Randy's ex brother in law, Joey, and the boys' friend. He's 16 and this little innocent nerd. So any female attention would be a good thing. We all talked to him and told him that Kaylyn acts like someone he hates and is EXACTLY like her... his sister. (randy's ex wife). So anyway we cleared it up with him to stay away from her.

I always see her with her hands all over Randy's younger brother, Nick, and then Joey, and she gets flirty with Randy.

Like almost 2 weeks ago, Sue (randy's mom), talked to her sister, about Kaylyn, saying she needed to talk to her girlfiend and get her to leave the boys alone. That none of them like it, and that she needs to watch doing it to Randy.


So, Sunday night, I agree to go down to Randy's mom's for dinner with everyone. It's his mom, step dad, Nick, Joey, their grandma, his Aunt, her woman, Kayln, and a few of the foster girls.

It's seriously like low 40s weather here, she's dressed in really short shorts, and is bugging Nick and Joey the whole time. The second randy leaves my side to walk into the living room and picks up the one cat, she immediately gets up off the floor and is against him petting the cat too, acting all cute, and just too close. Too close for a 17 year old child to be to a 26 year old taken man.

So after randy comes back in the kitchen she goes back to the other 2 boys. Touching them and just obviously trying way too hard.

Later she comes in the kitchen and the level randy is sitting in a chair her ****s are in his face. So she's almost smacking him with them and showing him her belt that she decorated with duct tape. The one person in that whole house who would care less the most, and she's just tossing her ****s and crotch basically in his face.

I didn't say anything for the fact that Randy's grandma was sitting by me and Kaylyns mother was also at the table and is too blind to see what her daughter does. And I didn't know if the boy's aunt had talked to her yet or not.

I talked to Randy's mom last night about it asking if her sister did say something. She said she did. I told her that was Kaylyn's last chance and I'm done. That I frankly don't care if everyone else gets pissed at me. And she said she had hoped I would have Sunday night.

Joey complained because while he was laying on the couch she came over and sat infront of him and purposely kept messing with her hair and would move her head making her hair rub across his crotch. Him and Nick see it, I don't think Randy does.

Randy's mother also informed me that the Sunday before, they had dinner at his grandmas and while randy was getting pizza Kaylyn waited til everyone was out of the kitchen and came in by randy and was rubbing her foot up his leg. and she ran out of the kitchen when Sue walked in and wouldn't come back in the whole time randy ate because Sue sat with him. I didn't see this one, and sometimes Sue I think can lie..... She just better never ever let me catch her doing that.

Nick and Joey finally see what the girl is like. I don't think Randy does. Sunday night after they had left it was Randy, me, joey, nick, and Sue left in her house. And Joey brought up how her hair was too close to his 'business' and when Randy was making fun of him I said what the **** do you think she was trying to pull in here?!? 'Look at my belt, Randy!!' And he kind of ignored it. I think he's just blind to that.

But suposively after they left sues they went to Randy's grandmas with her. When nick went up there she ahd her hands all over him and her mom finally bitched her out and told her to get in the car and she took her home.






Soooo anyway, would you guys say something to her? There is a chance her mom may be mad at me, and Randy may get pissy, but he will get over it. Or would you let it go? Obviously her mother talking to her isn't doing any good, so would someone else bringing it up to her publicly while she's doing that? I'm afraid, or I know, I will loose my temper one of these times and its not going to be pretty.
 
I'm sorry to hear your going through something like this, and unfortunately I'm no stranger to family drama.

Normally I would say that you should leave it alone, her parents should be the one to deal with it. But it looks as if it's affecting a lot of people. I remember what being a teenager was like, and had you said something to me in public, I would have just made things worse. If you really want to say something, I would do it in private, and let her know that EVERYONE is aware of what she is doing and no one things highly of her at all. I had a bad superiority complex as a teenager, so you need to take her down a notch or two, but I don't think that in public is a good idea.
 
I'm kind of afraid that if something is said in private then she can lie about stuff that was said.

I really wish the boys would say something. I know atleast the 2 younger ones see what she's doing, but I think my boyfriend is just a blind idiot to it. I had made comments months ago about her, and he just doesnt see what I see. And I'm kind of embarrassed to ask him how he feels about the stuff she does to him, IF he truely isnt seeing it, because he knows I can be a jealous person, and I think he'd just think that. I may bring it up anyway. Mentioning that he's blind to his mother she just laughs and says he's not....... but her baby boys can't do anythign wrong lol.

Thank you so much for your imput. What would you say to her in private if it were you talking to her?
 
She's looking for attention, she sounds like she is an insecure person....honestly I would just let it go or have the boys say something to her....if you do, she will simply think you're jealous.

It doesn't sound like the boys are giving her the attention she is looking for so she will eventually give up.
 
This has been going on for months. I've seen it with the younger two since atleast June when I moved back.

I'm waiting to see Sunday night, if this past sunday had any effect on her, when her mother bitched her out AGAIN.
 
Apparently she didn't have her foot going up his leg. That one was blown out of perportion. I just got done tlaking to him, and explained before hand he is innocent and nothing being blamed on him. But I asked if he noticed that she flirts with him the way she does with the other two, he said no she doesnt. I explained there were a few times just this past sunday because he said he never sees her. and he just yelled that 'jesus, she's ******* 15'..... and thus he had to be reminded he wasn't being accused of anything. And that he's not happy if its out that he said she was doing this....and I said it wasn't anything like that.


but basically its I'm being stupid....and he's blind as ****


p.s. excuse my language.
 
if she does something in public, call her out on it. it may be rude, but it will embaress her enough to get the point. she may hate you and talk bad about you but thats ok life goes on
 
She is lucky it isn't me. I would have said point blank to get her chest out of my boyfriends face. Than again I have no problem pointing things out.
 
I'd have my boyfriend understand that it's inappropriate not to stop the behavior then I'd definitely say something if she still continues even after she has been rebuked and a little bit embarrassed by the ones she is targeting. But that's just me.
 
Reprimanding her in public will hopefully embarass her enough that she won't act like she does anymore, and she will leave Randy and the other boys alone. Does she know that with her being 17, Randy can get into trouble if he does anything to her, and does she even care? I am not saying that he is doing anything to her. I applaud Randy for ignoring her when she is flirting with him.

I would, if I were you, reprimand her in public so that she is totally embarrassed and won't act the way she does and she will leave Randy and the other boys alone.

Another thing, Randy can tell her off, and tell her that Teddy (his monkey) would probably like her much better.

Before she meets Teddy, don't tell her that he is a monkey. When she meets Teddy, let Teddy do his thing scarying her away from Randy. I say this because I have read that Teddy don't like females.

Hey, it might work to get this 17 year old who is acting like she is 2 or 3 years old away from Randy and the other boys. This 17 year old is acting very immature for her age, in my opinion.
 
What a lurk, I didn't realise 17 years can be that immature. If it were me I'd definitely say something and say it kind of harshly. I'm one of those types who would have no problem giving it to her.

If that doesn't work, get her to send a resume to Hugh Hefner, she'll be old enough soon.
 
irishbunny wrote:
What a lurk, I didn't realise 17 years can be that immature. If it were me I'd definitely say something and say it kind of harshly. I'm one of those types who would have no problem giving it to her.

If that doesn't work, get her to send a resume to Hugh Hefner, she'll be old enough soon.
LOL I knew I liked you.
 
If you have the nerve to do it, say something to her in public and make sure it's sarcastic. It's worked for me on many occasions with people I didn't even know, of coarse if I had known what my (now Ex) boyfriend was like, I should have just left him there with those girls . . .
 
I've just let it go. Her mother has yelled at her in front of everyone a few sundays ago. I don't go for the family dinners all the time, I just can't stand them. And when Randy came over to the house he was laughing and said she got bitched at big time.

I trust him, had a talk with him, and he is blin and dumb. Or just is man enough to ignore children trying to hit on him. =p

and like I mentioned, his mom did lie about a few of the things to me for some reason?
 
I am really blunt about these things.

Franky, girls like that fight for what they want, and guys can be* painfully weak minded. Last time a girl did that stuff to my boyfriend, eventually the worst happened. He was also oblivious to her advances (and he honestly was), but booze can do a lot and she offered it to him. Being a "family friend", I was negligent and knowingly let her pull him into a bad situation because I didn't want to "offend" her by showing my concerns.

I really would watch it. Sometimes guys are oblivious to those things and sometimes they pretend to be. Either way, a girl that desperate acting usually has self esteem issues, and will use sneakiness to get their way.

If I were you, I'd keep them apart as best as possible. Being family, that may be hard. If you talk to her, I'm sure she will just claim she is not being flirty or that that's just how she is. I'm with everyone else, embarrass her, big time.

*Don't be offended by my statement. I have been hurt by literally every guy I have dated, so I am surely biased.
 

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