O/T Need Advice

[aurora369]

Well so far I haven't really had to work onbeing nice to him, because he's been doing everything he can to aviodme. I'm just going about my business like they don'texist. But if I do talk to them, I'm gonna be sweet as pie.

I would totally blow up at him if my bunnies weren'tinvolved. They will be the first thing I move out.And once I've moved them, I think I'm gonna give him a piece of mymind. Grrrr....

I talked to my landlord, and he said basically as soon as I get someoneto sign a sublet, I can move out. I'm so excited!!I could end up moving before Jan 1.

--Dawn

 

[KatyG]

Hi, just wondered how things were going. Have you found anyone to take your room yet?

 

[bunsforlife]

believe me... I was in a similiar situation not too long ago...

Moved in with my now husband, who was living in the basement of acoworker friend. before I moved in I would spend the night acouple nights a week and cook a big meal for hubby, roommate,roommate's Girlfriend and myself. Heck I'd even bake specialdoggie treats for her dog.

When Iw as staying a couple nights a week I would leave $100 a month as my 'rent' to help pay for heating and electricity.

When I graduated college, I asked hubby's roommate if I could move inwith him and was told yes, so the two of us (who lived in the basement,had no storage space, no heat during the winter) were paying 2/3 of therent. Wasnt a problem really, but when roommates GF went tomove in things went REALLY sour.

Was accused of breaking the dryer and the washer, trashing the kitchen,never asking to move in, never paying rent, etc etc. it gotso bad, I never left the bedroom. I had a chamberpot (gross Iknow...b ut I didnt want to go upstairs to use the bathroom and haveall the hostilites assualt me) we went to a friends house to shower, weused the George Foreman Grill and a hotpot to cook all our meals in thebasement and we snuck in and out of the apt through the basementsliding door.

When we got ourselves our own apartment, I felt threatened physicallyso I had a friend come up from New Jersey to help me move since myhubby was working at the time. I was terrified she would trysomething... (she was a violent person when drinking or off her meds...tried to kill her girlfriend one night by throwing her down the stairswhich Shawn and I intercepted and stopped) I was tempted to get apolice escort.

Which is why I refuse to have roommates again heh.

However... dont lock yourself in your room... becaus ethat will messwith yourself. Just do what your doing and refuse to clean upafter them, do what you need to do and show them you arent intimidated(hard to do I know)

Get out of there asap =) you will be so much happier!

 

[FlopsnWills]

Wow, I just want to let you know that I feel foryou. I can't believe this guy, he sounds like a real )(#*$ Just keepyour eye out for any differences in their condo and count down the daysuntil you get the heck out of there.

The feminine products thing also shows how weird he is.. just keep youreye out, there isn't anyway to get your rabbits to your parents houseor a friends house until January 1st?

 

[RebeccaUK]

Hi Dawn - keep hanging in there and when thingsget too much you can always log on the forum and chat to your bunny madfriends. I think we can all vouch for you that you're notoverreacting and that this is a bad situation but you will get throughit and come out of the other end.

 

[aurora369]

Well I have some good news!!

I'm moving out December 1st, yeah!! And I've already hadsomeone offer to sublet from me. She sounds like she'll dobetter as she mountain bikes and so does Andrew, so they'll at leasthave something in common to talk about. I told her I washaving problems with him, but she and her father talked and they stillwant the place. And I have two more people coming tonight tosee the place, and then my room mates will choose which one they want.

I really hope that who ever moves in does not have the same problems Idid, but even if they do, Andrew is only staying till April, then hegoes home for the summer.

Bunsforlife, I'm so sorry to hear about what happened to you!! My situation is not nearly as bad, but it still stinks.


Again, thank you every one for your support!!

--Dawn

 

[Stephanie]

What great news! You must be SO relieved.

I've had roommate situations like that before and it's just not fun. Nooffense, but a lot of younger guys are just slobs, I had one roomie whowas just impossible. It was really bad actually and I was so glad tomove out. I'm a tidy person too, and know how stressful it can get tolive in filth like that. I know he's doing it on purpose too.

Even though it was tough financially, I finally rented a small placefor myself and lived alone. I haven't had a roommate since I was about22 (I'm 30 now), although I have lived with a long term boyfriend,which doesn't really count as a roommate situation in my book.

I'm happy that you're moving out. You must be very excited about thattoo! Yeah, moving is no fun, but in a situation like yours, I'll betyou were praying for it!

 

[Nicky Snow]

:elephant:I'm glad for you. the less time there, the better. :bunnydance:

 

[aurora369]

I am so excited, less than two weeks now.

The roommate has now officialy stated that he is not talking tome... I honestly feel like I'm living with a spoiled rottensix year old.

I don't have the money to live on my own right now. But, nextyear, I might own an apartment. My mother and grandmothersold an apartment in my home town, and are willing to use that money asa down payment towards a little bachelor pad for me inVancouver. I really hope we can find something in time fornext year.

That would be the best solution, no roomies ever!!



--Dawn

 

[Nicky Snow]

Dawn, once you live alone, trust me, you will always want to live alone

 

[aurora369]

Arg!! My room mate is just infuriating.

Now he's accusing me of stealing...

I have started keeping all of my dishes, glasses, and cooking stuff inmy room, which includes my frying pan. I bought this copperbottomed frying pan off my friends mom, about two years ago, when theyhad a garage sale. It's an old one, my mother has somepots/pans from the same set that she inherited from my greatgrandmother, but it works quite nicely.

So, my room mate asked me if I knew where HIS silver frying panwas. I said no, I have MY copper bottomed one. Andhe then tried to tell me that his mother brought him that one fromhome, and that it's his. I told him it was mine, and I'venever seen his frying pan, there never has been one.

Well, he took that news rather badly. He told me that if I was going to start stealing stuff, I should just leave now.

After that incident, I took his advice. I called up my newland lady, and asked her if I could move in this week end and she saidyes!! So bright and early tomorrow morning, I will be leavingthis place forever.

So, bad experience led to good outcome.

I can't wait.

--Dawn

 

[Pet_Bunny]

While you're moving, he will be too occupied with the football game.

Hope things turn out fine.

Rainbows!

 

[ariel]

Dawn, that's great you can move early! I bet you are so happy, good riddens to bad stuff.

Start fresh and enjoy your new home

:bouquet:

Just remember to set the boundaries about babysitting and you will be fine

Goodluck and welcome to your hopefully new and happier life!

 

[Nicky Snow]

Dawn how's it going, i'm guessing you are in your new place? and how are the bunnies?

Nicole

 

[aurora369]

Hi,

Thanks for asking. I'm all moved in with my new roommates and it is so much better!!

It's completely different. I'm no longer hiding in my room toaviod my roomies, I now socialize with them in the common areas, sharemeals together. And my boyfriend gets along famously withthem too.

It was my birthday on Monday, and my boyfriend and new roommate Travisconspired and totally surprised me!! When I came home fromshopping with my boyfriend, Travis had set the table with a nice tablecloth, candles, the whole works. He served me and myboyfriend a wonderful dinner. It was a wonderful way to end abirthday.

Wildfire loves the new place too, my bedroom has almost twice the runaround space. She now lives in a "high rise" bunnycondo. Travis and I built a stand for the cage so I could fitall the food, litter, and hay under the cage for easystorage. The stand makes it so much easier to visit with her,I don't have to bend down at all to pet her, I can just reach my arm inthe cage.

Both room mates really like Wildfire. Although she's nolonger aloud on the couch, because something must smell like a potty toher on it, she pees everytime!!

But everything is awsome so far.

--Dawn

 

[Nicky Snow]

That's really good news and i'm glad everything has worked out. Happy belated B-Day.

:groupparty:

 

[aurora369]

Thank you.

--Dawn

 

[cheryl]

Dawn,that is great news,now you can finallyrelax and know that your bunny will be safe,i wish you much happinesswith your new appartment,anyway the guy your sharing with now soundsmuch better than the other loser.geez it sounded like he had someissues,maybe hes missing his mummy



good luck



cheryl.....

 

[AmberNBuns]

Dawn, sorry I missed all this in November - Ihave been there with the passive-aggressive freakroommante.Good job keeping your head through it all. I knowit is hard being the ONLY mature attitude in the house. Congrats onyour new safe place for you and your buns!

Don't hesitate to come here to vent if you have any other issues (which *fingers crossed* doesn't sound likely...)

Cheers!

Oh yeah, and Happy Birthday!