mum kicked out dad

[irishlops]

irishbunny wrote:

I think talking to a counsellour, or better again a trusted adult family member, would help too, in many of your posts you have said your Mam physically and mentally abuses you and you have said life isn't worth living and about self harming. It can really help to get things off your chest to someone you trust
I'm sorry things haven't been great *hugs*
PM box is open for you!

OK,i said i would read through it slower tomorrow, and i have.
*self harming:? nope, i dont remember saying it or thinking or doing it, i might be making you think of someone else*
ok, a counsellour. its summer hoilidays so i cant go to one in school. the counseller in schol does not like me for some reason. and out of school like my own time...
how????:? like im not allwed outside only to play/mess about with my 2 friends and thats only in my culdesac.... so how on earth am i ment to see a counceller in my provate time?
*i only said life is not living a few time when i was really down, and i have stopped that now*

 

[irishlops]

Flashy wrote:

A counsellor can help you work through your pain. They also have the knowledge and skill that family members generally don't have and are outside of the situation and so they are often easier to talk to once you work out that basic trust.

Counsellors generally just listen whereas different types of therapists might help you in a more proactive way, such as by helping you develop strategies to use when things are rough.

There are lots of different ways that therapists can work, you can talk, or do art (collage, drawing), writing (poems, letters, spider diagrams), all sorts. Sometimes it can be hard to speak what you feel and so they can help you communicate in other ways. My therapist sometimes suggests I write her letters or draw what's going on for me.

There are/t different types of therapist who do different things and work in different ways, a counsellor is only one type, also, all people are different so not all counsellors/therapists work for all people.

I do definitely think it is something worth looking into. You can go via school, or your doctor, and there may be charities and organisations in your area that also help teens who need emotional/mental support.

doctor.. how am i ment to ask- my mum always comes to the docotors and stays in the room with me.
orgs an d charites.... not taht i know of in either in donegal(im a 5 or 10 min walk from the border)
and none in derry or even co. derry near by.

 

[irishlops]

arrgghhh!!!
ill explain more later

 

[irishlops]

mum going to soliciter tomorrow for money and legal stuff

 

[SweetSassy]

irishlops wrote:

mum going to soliciter tomorrow for money and legal stuff

soliciter? Do you mean a lawyer?

 

[mouse_chalk]

SweetSassy wrote:

irishlops wrote:

mum going to soliciter tomorrow for money and legal stuff

soliciter? Do you mean a lawyer?

A soliticor in the UK and Ireland is the same as a lawyer- I believe they deal with the out-of-court stuff, like divorce, etc, but don't hold me to that completely!

Elena, I'm sorry things are so rough at home for you at the moment. I really hope things start to look up for you soon....

:hug: (even though you say you don't need one!)

 

[SweetSassy]

Oh, ok. Thanks Jen.



Sorry Elena. We're here if you need to vent. :hug2:

 

[Luvr of Wabbits and Polar Bears]

Elena I'm sorry you are going through such hard times, I hope things look better in the next few months.

I know that really do need hugs. {{{{{{{{{{ELENA}}}}}}}}}}

:grouphug

Rebecca

 

[irishlops]

thanks every one....
ok, hugs accepted for now..
yep- a lawyer/soliter same sort of thing.
god my dad is not even paying for my school uniform this year!