I'm really upset..

[gentle giants]

Moominmoo wrote:

And now Badger and Sunny are fighting. Everything is falling apart here.

Is this my fault? Are they feeding off of all the negativity that must be oozing out of me at the moment? Have I done something wrong? Did I do the wrong thing by keeping all the Dinkies?

I definately think they feel your emotions. I have learned the hard way that if I am having a bad day, to calm down before I go out and feed my bunnies. I almost never get bitten or scratched by any of my guys, but if I go out there all worked up, it never fails somebody will freak out on me. I have a scar on my arm that is finally healing from where Sammy decided he didn't like my mood a couple of weeks ago. (Did you know Flemish have really big teeth?)

I have been in a similar situation to yours too, without going into long gruesome details I will jsut say I know it sucks!! I know you are incredibly stressed out right now, and everything is getting you down, but I really think once the situation with this person harasing you is resolved, the bunnies will settle too. Mabye you could just wait a while to try the bonding? If there is some reason you can't wiat that I missed in your posts, I apologize fro missing it. But we really are all here for you, so please know that you have people all over the world rooting for you!

:hugsquish::rainbow:ink iris:

 

[NZminilops]

I didn't think you sounded like you were abandoning them , I know you are crazy about your rabbits, like I am about mine. Don't tell anyone , but I see them as my children.

And it's OK to waffle on! Honestly, if you knew me and how I go on and on on MSN to some of the members off here, you'd be horrified. We do all understand though and in my books? Waffling is most welcome . I'm the biggest waffler I know.

Forums are all about talking, and you can sort of hide behind your user name, ya know? I like that about forums. You can choose to be close to people, or not...and still blather on about what's bothering you or the things that get you happy. And RO is an awesome place to do that, there is a caring attitude here which I just love. I feel RO is like a comfy bed, you can just sink right in.

Social anxiety sucks! I'm working through it though.

Anything else you want to talk about, seriously, do it! Or not, if you don't feel like it. I enjoy yours and everyone else posts and threads immensly. It help to know there are all these people all over the world, and we all have one common goal. To make our buns happy .

 

[Bunnicula]

Moominmoo wrote:

Back on 4th August she came back into my life. I didn't want her to take RO away from me by finding out I was there (she knew all about my buns, and we had a mutual friend who knew I was on RO, I don't think she'll tell, but I wasn't going to take any chances). Which was the first reason I can't come to RO.

I met her on the web and whenever I see her name I panic and freak out. She scares me so much. Hard to believe that she used to be the person I confided everything in, and vice versa.

Oh, I am so very, very sorry about all you've been going through. Now I totally understand. For a while I had seen you "lurking" (i.e. making posts, but not showing up as "on-line" on the home page). I hoped that none of us here on the forum had hurt or offended you (especially me...as we had been chatting so much just previous to this).

I just don't know what to say...I am angry with this person for hurting you again. You are a wonderful, intelligent person who is such an important part of the RO family. It's so d*** unfair that another person has the malice in their heart to hurt/stalk anyone.

*sigh* Please know we're all here for you whenever you need us. And we'll understand if you don't show up for a while again. It's just so important to me to know you are safe. You have been a good friend to me, and I hurt with you.

About the bunnies - I guess I don't have any really good advice. I agree that Sky probably likes it inside with you. And I think it's not unusual to notice tremendous personality adjustments after neuters. Just hang in there and keep loving them all. They all know how you love them! You are not doing anything wrong with them. You are doing your best. Sometimes things just go all wacky on us.

I can relate...we're having major cat fighting/litterbox issues the past few months. There have been days when I wanted to get rid of them all - especially Nora who has to live in the basement or isolated in a room because she fights savagely with the others. I think sometimes that she'd do better to live where she could be an only cat. But then, just like you worry that another person might not care for your buns like you do, I think that someone else might not understand Nora's special needs like me. It absolutely STINKS (figuratively and literally)when the other cats pee where Nora's scent is...and I sometimes want to give up...or at least scream.

So...you are definitely not alone in animal stress...or your other stresses. I will be praying for you and hoping you can feel comfortable to be part of the forum again. Please feel free to PM me at any time - I'm always happy to be there to listen.

-Mary Ellen

 

[polly]

Oh sweetie big hugs:hug:you should be over here with me nice weather makes it all seem a bit better.

Take a deep breath it will sort itself out, write it down andb think it over thats what i do if the buns are playing up. You never said you were having probs with Sky i thought he was doing ok he must just need your company at the mo. I would make him your priority at the mo the dinkies will sort themselves out.

Pm me if you want i just tried hotmail and its not working so i will try it a bit later.

:hug::hug1:hug:

 

[Flashy]

Thank you everyone. I'm sorry I keep whining on, but I do appreciate your comments.

This thing with this girl isn't causing me great stress, it's just meant that I have had to adapt my life and the way I live to make sure I feel safe.

If my mood is doing all this, then its all being caused by an illness that I have, and that I can't get help for, so I don't even know what to do about that. :/ I'm by far at my least worst when I'm with my rabbits, apart from with Star and Dawn (and now Sky) who see me at my very worst given they are sharing a room with me.

Which I guess brings me onto the three of them. I took a mix of advice from this thread and Sooska's thread, and yesterday put Sky next to Star and Dawn in the run and just let them all get on with it, whilstkeeping a distance, but also being near enough to stop things if they got nasty. Star started getting at Dawn at the start, but then after a while he just walked parallel with wherever Sky was, so it seemed like a sort of truce of some sort took place.

Then, somehow, I moved a heavy, chunky hutch up into my room (not bad for someone with only one decent hand, lol). It's not majorly big, infact it's only 4ftx1.25ft but needs must (it's only temporary) and I put that along the length of my bed and put Sky in it, and put Dawn and Star in their cage and I was prepared for fights, but nothing. All fine. Star and Dawn slept as near to his cage as they could get last night, but today they are back in their normal routine. Sky is FAR happier even though the hutch is smaller, he's stuffing his face, he's DBF-ing everywhere and is much happier.

So that situation is very definitely good enough for a temporary situation.

After Badger and Sunny fighting last night, I tried to put them back together today and there was proper fighting this time, so that's a no no. They have been separated, and to do that I had to empty my shed to access anothersmaller hutch to keep her in the porch.

My bunnies are all in a transitional phase at the moment that won't end for at least another six months. It's all about neutering (and even possibly spaying bunnies-which I have never had done before, so that's rather terrifying. Having suffered so many losses of my special buns I'm very reluctant to put anymore at risk. Having Sky neutered nearly killed me, so spaying someone would also be a great stress that I don't need just right now) Dinkies, bonding rabbits, getting a better caging/hutch setup going, and it's unsettling for them and me. Once we come out the other side, things will be tonnes better, but getting there is an uphill struggle.

I truly am sorry for whining, but thanks for reading



PS-NZminilops, good luck tackling your demons. It will be worth it in the end, no matter how hard it is

Oh, and Polly, I didn't know I was having problems with Sky really. I thought it would take him a while to get used to being outside again, but he never settled and just looked so very sad. And I would have talked to you about it once you came back form holiday, but I don't overly remember making this thread or writing the posts about what has been going on because I was so out of it, so I wasn't thinking clearly enough to be rational and talk to you, lol. Hope you're still enjoying yourself.

 

[Flashy]

You read about yet another tragic loss and yet again the forum is shaken by another loved bunny departing.

I feel awful for getting like I am when all mine are currently ok (I'm touching lots and lots of wood here), and then I realise that I'm getting like this because I'm deathly terrified of the 'RO 'curse'' striking me and my furriestoo, that I'll lose another part of my heart and I want to give them all the best that I possibly can.

I guess I'm scared they will go feeling unloved, or not having had the very best I can provide.

I'm going to ask for mansion size hutches for Christmas, then I can know that they are in better size hutches.

I know that Sky, Dawn, Star, Cloud, Angeland Badger all know they are loved by me. The Dopeys love each other deeply, as do Lightning and Dusk, and Sunshine and Sweep. Hope doesn't seem to care (he is one very strange little creature, in human terms he reminds me of a person with the social difficulties that someone with Aspergers Syndrome has). That leaves Sunny and Sandy. I know Sandy is happy here, this is the longest she has ever been anywhere. Sunny is alone for the first time and I feel sorry for her, but she's not one for strokes, or anything, just is very interested in anything and everything so that's what I have to play to.

I'm so sorry.

 

[Leaf]

I don't know you, but just wanted to say it sounds like you have great support here - and from personal experience I can say, with time things will improve in your life.

 

[Flashy]

Thanks. Yeh, you joined just after I went AWOL.

I joined in April (despite what my profile says, my original and preferred account is under the name 'Flashy') and the people here are so fantastic They rock

And a belated welcome to the forum

 

[ellissian]

Hey you I'm so glad your back, I've missed you so much :hug:

If I had bothered to come on here more often I would of realised you came back a few days ago. :?

This blog is not pathetic as you said in your email...I really wish you would think more of yourself,you had me worried for ages...nevermind your back now and I hope you god dam stay here, right were you belong!

As you can see we all think alot of you here and you know were we are if you need to talk about ANYTHING!

Just want to say again....SO GLAD YOUR BACK!!!!:hugsquish:



Eta Ive got loads to tell you but it can wait a while