pumpkinandwhiskersmom
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JadeIcing wrote:
:yeahthat: very well said!
:yeahthat: very well said!
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Wow! You are dealing with a lot. I can only imagine your feelings...wanting to be caring and help...but also wanting to feel safe. There just HAVE to be options for him besides living with you. Maybe you can help to research what they are (though I admit that I wouldn't quite know how to begin that). That way you really would be helpful and still be taking care of yourself.
Does he have a therapist, caseworker, or some other professional who could help you find options for him? If so, contact that person and start to look into them.
Though I am not dealing with a mental illness situation, I am currently dealing with a family issue that is very sensitive. It sucks to be so torn about how to help and yet also feel like I just don't want to/can't stand to deal with someone else's "problems". I will be thinking of you through all of this. Keep us up to date.
~Mary Ellen
Does he have a therapist, caseworker, or some other professional who could help you find options for him? If so, contact that person and start to look into them.
Though I am not dealing with a mental illness situation, I am currently dealing with a family issue that is very sensitive. It sucks to be so torn about how to help and yet also feel like I just don't want to/can't stand to deal with someone else's "problems". I will be thinking of you through all of this. Keep us up to date.
~Mary Ellen
undergunfire
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This must be very hard for you. Ryan has a sister who goes through manic states and forgets what happened while she was in them. If she was in a manic state for a week, she doesn't remember that week of her life....it was as if she was sleeping.
Ryan doesn't talk to his sister and hasn't since March, when she was in her "crazy state" and hit him.
I would really put my foot down and not let him stay with you guys. That would terrify the heck out of me and I would hate to live in fear in my own home while he is there. Mat shouldn't make you go through that, as much as Jody is his brother.
Ryan doesn't talk to his sister and hasn't since March, when she was in her "crazy state" and hit him.
I would really put my foot down and not let him stay with you guys. That would terrify the heck out of me and I would hate to live in fear in my own home while he is there. Mat shouldn't make you go through that, as much as Jody is his brother.
twich
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I wonder what they do in this situation if the parson has no family for them to ask about staying with, or if any of them refused to let the person into their homes.
Making excuses for her son doing such horrible things is really not healthy
, and she really needs to see that it's not normal.. Maybe something happened to her as a child and the abuser used that as the excuse. It's great he turned himself in, too... But if he did hoping people would feel more sorry for him or be more accepting of it because he told people as opposed to being found out through the girls.. Well, let's just hope that's not why he did it, cause no matter who tells first, it's still a sick thing which should have much harsher punishments than it does in most places. There is NO excuse for doing that to children... Ever.
I'm sorry you're dealing with this, I guess we got lucky with my cousin. He was about 25 years older than me, but I knew him really well- He was schitzophrenic and really unlucky, but he had a heart of pure gold. NEVER would he ever harm another person.. Meds or no meds, he fought really hard to do the right thing despite any voices only he heard or people only he saw telling him to do the wrong thing. He'd just go to the window and scream out at the people he saw who were calling him God or whatnot at the time and if he felt like he may harm someone, he took it upon himself to get to a hospital so he couldn't.
Schitzophrenia can be a really frustrating mental illness to have to deal with when it comes to someone you know having it, but I fully agree with everyone here that you shouldn't have to be put in such a position that you don't feel safe in your own home...No one should ever feel unsafe in their own home, ESPECIALLY since he drinks and smokes pot. He doesn't really seem to want to help himself if he's doing such things, because there's no way his doctor didn't tell him about any interactions those things may have on his medication. Neither you nor his brother (or his Mother for that matter) should have to be responsible for him and his actions... Which you basically would be if the police had him move in with you. Hopefully, though, the fact that you live so close to schools and daycares will make it so he can't come stay with you... But unfortunately those rules don't normally start until after the court hearings are done and over with... Maybe it will be different and immediate since he already admitted to it.
Making excuses for her son doing such horrible things is really not healthy
, and she really needs to see that it's not normal.. Maybe something happened to her as a child and the abuser used that as the excuse. It's great he turned himself in, too... But if he did hoping people would feel more sorry for him or be more accepting of it because he told people as opposed to being found out through the girls.. Well, let's just hope that's not why he did it, cause no matter who tells first, it's still a sick thing which should have much harsher punishments than it does in most places. There is NO excuse for doing that to children... Ever.
I'm sorry you're dealing with this, I guess we got lucky with my cousin. He was about 25 years older than me, but I knew him really well- He was schitzophrenic and really unlucky, but he had a heart of pure gold. NEVER would he ever harm another person.. Meds or no meds, he fought really hard to do the right thing despite any voices only he heard or people only he saw telling him to do the wrong thing. He'd just go to the window and scream out at the people he saw who were calling him God or whatnot at the time and if he felt like he may harm someone, he took it upon himself to get to a hospital so he couldn't.
Schitzophrenia can be a really frustrating mental illness to have to deal with when it comes to someone you know having it, but I fully agree with everyone here that you shouldn't have to be put in such a position that you don't feel safe in your own home...No one should ever feel unsafe in their own home, ESPECIALLY since he drinks and smokes pot. He doesn't really seem to want to help himself if he's doing such things, because there's no way his doctor didn't tell him about any interactions those things may have on his medication. Neither you nor his brother (or his Mother for that matter) should have to be responsible for him and his actions... Which you basically would be if the police had him move in with you. Hopefully, though, the fact that you live so close to schools and daycares will make it so he can't come stay with you... But unfortunately those rules don't normally start until after the court hearings are done and over with... Maybe it will be different and immediate since he already admitted to it.
