One thing I've tried to make me AND the bun more comfortable (thank Spring for this idea) is this:
Put together a carrier, and put a towel down inside the carrier (folded and sides kinda folded accordian style at the sides of the carrier). Get Dori to go into the carrier, and then take off the top (leaving the door on), and take the folded sides of the towel out, so you can drape them over Dori...
Then, put one hand under her chest, so your thumb is under one armpit, index finger between front legs, and the other fingers under the other armpit. Start lifting up her front, and while lifting, slide your other hand under her rump, supporting her hind legs and bum.
Doing all this, as quickly as you can pull her up and to your chest, and the arm that was holding her chest area go over her body, to make her feel more comfortable. Hang onto her bum and back legs...as long as those are supported, and you're hugging her close, she'll calm down. You've gotta take the time at first to help her calm down...tell her she's okay, think "secure" in your mind, let yourself be CALM (that'll help HER stay calm), and then do what you've gotta do.
If you need to trim her nails, give meds, groom, and other such things, take her to a flat surface that's a good height so you don't have to bend over TOO far, and put her down, but keep her head covered to keep her calm, and let your body kinda drape over her so she still feels secure, hugging her to you.
Then, just take out one paw at a time from inside the towel (being sure her head's still covered by the towel, so she doesn't SEE what you're doing), and clip her nails (being sure to clip so you don't cut the quick...which is the pink area you'll see in the nail...if she has black nails, shine a light underneath the nail and you'll see the quick) one at a time.
If you're giving meds, take the meds in a feeding syringe, and put it in the side of her mouth, where there's a gap between her teeth...syringe a little at a time, and you'll know she's getting it if she's "chews" a bit.
My suggestion: Try holding her in your arms, just holding her, the first few times...give her about a week before you start doing other things...so she knows it's fine, and she's safe. That way you're also used to holding her.
And first and foremost: BE CONFIDENT!! Be, as Buck Jones would say, the Big Kahuna Bunny. Let her know you're boss, and don't worry about hurting her. Also, hold her tight when she struggles...so she cannot get away. The more confident you get in holding her, picking her up, etc, the easier it will get. Remind yourself that you WILL NOT HURT HER...it's necessary for a bunny owner to be able to pick up their bunnies when they need it.
Now, this is not to say I'm perfect at it, or even seasoned...but I recently had to do A LOT for my Fiver that involves picking him up twice a day, and doing all sorts of things. And with my getting eleven buns total soon, I had to buck up and be that Big Kahuna...and it WORKED!! I was SHOCKED!! I got to be able to trim nails, groom, medicate, I even learned how to do Sub-Q fluids with a needle and fluids from my vet! I NEVER thought I would have the guts...but I just forced myself to be strong and confident, and WENT FOR IT...and it was FINE!
Hugs to you, and here's sending you lots of confidence!
And feel ABSOLUTELY free to PM me if you need a friend to remind you that it's all okay...
Rosie*