Bailee's Buns in 2011

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[align=center]I'm so PO'd. Solara scratched me. Made me bleed. She's SOOO mean to me. ALL THE TIME!!!!! She's a giant B-WORD. Dx

I genuinely dislike her =( That's why I never take pics of her. She's just horrible to me, to Sabriel, and to everyone else.

Also, last night, Sabriel tried to hump Solara and she was getting mad so I tried to stop him, got in the way, and he bit my finger and LATCHED ON AND WOULDN'T LET GO. It hurt, but I don't blame him, it was an accident. I have two red bite marks there now lol

 

[JadeIcing]

Bunnies can bring great joy buy also make you want to tear your hair out.

 

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JadeIcing wrote:

Bunnies can bring great joy buy also make you want to tear your hair out.

[align=center]Solara more than makes me want to tear my hair out. She literally attacks me. She comes at me. =/

I don't understand. I work hard to be nice to her and give her treats. I go out of my way to let her come to me and sniff me and stuff and i dont try to pet her. I do all the "suggested stuff".. =/ Ugh

 

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[align=center]A picture of the boo-boo from Sabriel biting me (instead of Solara's fur to hump her) and not letting go... surprisingly didn't break skin:

I cried. I dunno why- cause I've experienced worse. lol

And then a picture of where Solara scratched me today:

Burned so bad.

 

[nochoramet]

I'm sorry that you've been having a tough time on the forum. And I know exactly how you feel with Solara. That's kind of what Fiver did to me, only he wasn't quite as aggressive to me. He would attack if I tried to interact with him though. Rabbits are so weird. The guy who took Fiver has a buttload of lionheads that he rescued from some lady and there is one that I'm IN LOVE WITH but i'm not sure if I should get him or not.
I can't get over how adorable Nala is! Although I think Sabriel has top priority on my bun-napping list XD

 

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nochoramet wrote:

I'm sorry that you've been having a tough time on the forum. And I know exactly how you feel with Solara. That's kind of what Fiver did to me, only he wasn't quite as aggressive to me. He would attack if I tried to interact with him though. Rabbits are so weird. The guy who took Fiver has a buttload of lionheads that he rescued from some lady and there is one that I'm IN LOVE WITH but i'm not sure if I should get him or not.
I can't get over how adorable Nala is! Although I think Sabriel has top priority on my bun-napping list XD

[align=center]It's okay D;
Yeah... I'm working with her. She seems to be doing better. Craisens and sunflower seeds really help because those are the only things besides fruit that she'll take from my hand! Hm, maybe you can make a deal with the guy since you already have bunnies in the home, and see if he'll allow you to bring the bun home, see how he acts, and then if it doesn't work out, bring him back.
I know right?! She has such a cute baby face. It's seriously so exciting having a young-bun. Soooo difficult though. She's such a troublemaker lol.
XD I lovveeee my Sabriel =D

 

[nochoramet]

He probably wouldn't mind that at all. He's super laid back and thinks it's cool how much me and Michael love animals. He's not as sentimental about them but he's a great owner!
And yes Nala is just so adorable. Oh yeah, remember a while back when you asked if Blackie's third eyelid showed a lot? It didn't before, but now that's she's getting big and lazy, it's showing a lot. But she doesn't look crazy, she looks tired all the time lol.

 

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[align=center]Aww =) You should talk to him about that then ^_^
And lol!
I bet it's the older they get... XD
Silas's third eyelid shows a LOT! XD
I've seen Nala's like once XD

Here is proof that Nala LOVES the litterbox... XD

 

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[align=center]Bonding between Solara and Sabriel is going horrid. Sabriel keeps humping Solara and she grunts (a very high-pitched squeaky grunt) and then attacks him. And when he got a good grip, he bit her ear!

And he's ripping the fur from her forehead and eating it because it still smells like banana from yesterday. She likes that though.

But a lot of times he'll go up to her and she does that squeaky grunt and gets defensive and looks like she's gunna lunge. She lunged at me and bit me during the session.

And Sabriel doesn't give two craps about her besides eating the banana off of her head and humping her.

I put Sabriel's cage next to her pen so they can see each other more often so we can make the bonding easier hopefully. They seem really interested through the bars too.

Nala seems like she MAY be getting the hint with the litterbox training! I put the newspaper that she peed on in the litterbox and she hasn't peed on the newspaper since. And she hasn't laid in the litterbox. *crosses fingers and knocks on wood* I hope she stays this good!

 

[Bunny parents]

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Beware of rant

I'm so tired of "getting in trouble" in this forum. :tantrum:

I'm borderline-wanting to REALLY leave. :sigh::bawl:

I can't defend my rabbit/former rabbit without getting my post pulled. I can't say one INNOCENT thing without getting my post pulled or getting in trouble for it. I can't voice a HARMLESS and NOT RUDE opinion without also getting "smack on the back of the hand". :banghead

It feels like I'M the only one who ever gets in trouble when I see other people doing the same thing ALL THE TIME. I am getting really sick and tired of it. ullhair:

I feel like I can't say ANYTHING on here anymore. This has been going on for months!!!! I'll probably get in trouble for posting this too. (the reason I'm posting this now is because I'm just finally so tired of it) :X

But whatever. :grumpy:

Rant over

I'll go back to being the "happy-don't-say-anything-that-MIGHT-offend-anyone-else-RO-poster" in a day or so.

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So I guess I'll be back then so I don't get in trouble. :sigh::dunno

I just saw this post of yours. Take it easy, okay ? Writing is sometimes annoying 'cause some people might get our lines in a different way. Lots of hugs for my lovely Bailee :hugsquish:
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[align=center]PLEASE READ ALL OF THIS IF YOU READ ANY OF IT

Please don't judge me too harshly on any of this, I WILL leave RO... =/

You guys are totally gunna hate me... but I really regret getting Nala. I don't know why. I don't think I was ready for another bunny and I wish I had waited. I feel so bad. I'm SERIOUSLY sobbing. I've been upset all day. Crying all day. Thinking about this since around Tuesday. I haven't cried this hard since we gave up Soleil.

I dunno why I'm so scared. I feel like it's underlying... like part to do with Soleil, and how she seemed so great and then I had her for 9 days and she went and almost had Sabriel killed. I feel like Nala, once her hormones are gone, won't pose a threat to them, and I feel like she'll be more calm when she's older, but I'm still afraid that I rushed into this and if I should have just left it with my three bunnies. I feel like I'm ruining the balance, and I'm really really scared.

The thing is, I felt doubt about Sabriel after he bit me hard, once, and Silas when he wouldn't be litter box trained, but they went great. So I hadn't been worried when I regretted getting Soleil, and after a couple days, I got over it. Then Soleil happened and I had doubts and got over them and then... that whole "thing" happened... And it's been more than a couple days with Nala, and I'm still regretting it. Even my friend Chelsey, whom I used to be enemies with, noticed I was "down in the dumps" today. But of course, I just lied and said I was tired....

I go and pet her, I feel alright about having her, but every other time, I'm dreading coming home to her, I'm dreading seeing her. It's HORRIBLE! I don't know what's wrong with me! I mean, I really do like her, and at the sanctuary I felt like I really had a bond with her... but now that she's home, I look at her, and I can't describe what I see. But it's nothing good. But when I pet her, I see a sweet and gentle bun. But then I pick her up (we were gunna let her have some free time in a room) and she was like grunting and biting me! I usually wouldn't worry, but now it really scares me- ever since Soleil... The first night we had Nala home, I kept waking up throughout the night, afraid she was out and hurting my other bunnies. That whole event still haunts me. The whole week after we took Soleil back, I had nightmares and constantly woke up through the night.

I keep thinking of the negative over the positives of her being here it seems... I made a list.

Positive
-She's really sweet, loves pets.
-Might grow up to be an awesome bunny.

Negative
-She pees everywhere. I know she'll grow outta it but it really annoys me.
-I feel strange with her in the house, and I actually dread getting home sometimes.
-Bites me if I hold her and she doesn't want me to. (I know this isn't a big deal, but she's grunted at me in my arms and such.)
-The "looking at her" thing I mentioned above.
-Might not grow up to be an awesome bunny... (Might end up like Soleil?-- I mean I loved Soleil but she was a nightmare at the end of her stay here...)
-Feels like getting a fourth bunny is ruining the balance. I should have WAITED!!!!


See, the negative outweighs the positive....

But there are negatives of taking her back:

The people at the sanctuary will probably think poorly of me if they don't know my reasoning-which many probably won't (which the reasoning is I'm pretty sure the fact I am not ready for the responsibility of another bunny, I fear it). Another is I might actually miss her- and miss out on seeing her grow up and such. My friends will think poorly of me/think I'm crazy cause I was so excited to bring her home... and now I'm super upset. I would feel so bad, I feel like it'd be abandoning her... So anyways the negatives of taking her back and the negatives of keeping her are about equal, so I don't want to do either.

I feel so bad because I don't want to interact with her because I'm feeling so miserable and scared and regretful about all of this. I mean, I do... but still...


I think I want to take her back. I feel so ashamed, heartbroken, regretful, hopeless, upset, miserable, and I can't stop crying...

I will make the final decision when I talk to my mom (she knows about all of this, just doesn't know my decision.) She will have a better home with someone else. I wasn't ready and I wish I could take it back.

I'll keep you guys updated if you want to be... and I guess I understand if you hate me for feeling this way. And if it makes any of you feel better, I hate myself too.

 

[TinysMom]

Bailee,

I'd like to share a story with you and I hope that it helps you.

We had several rabbits when my story happened - more than you have - but still yet - there was a feeling of "balance" before I did what I did.

We had a flemish giant named Tiny. I adored Tiny (as did many on this forum) and Tiny, although neutered - was a real "ladies man". He just loved my lionhead does that I bred. He even loved babies.

I was at a show and I found this french lop doe that someone was rehoming because she was not showable. She seemed very sweet and I thought about it for a bit. I'd already been thinking about getting a doe for Tiny that would be his size...I thought it would make him happier.

Art & I decided to go ahead and get her.

I changed her name to "Beatrice" - which means "bringer of joy" if I remember right.

HA HA HA.

From within the first hour - I knew it wouldn't work out. She hated him with a passion - and he hated her. If she was let out to play - I had to lock him up or put him outside. If she went outside - he had to stay in.

It was a miserable time for us and I could sense her unhappiness with us and honestly, I was miserable. I felt like I was failing both her and Tiny.

After about 3 months (maybe) someone drove 5 hours one way to come pick up some lionheads they wanted. They saw Beatrice and fell in love with her - and we offered her to them. They said no. The following weekend - the husband drove the distance again to come get her - because the wife realized she wanted her so much.

Beatrice LOVED her new home and I had pictures of her for a while. It was like as soon as she was in their arms - you could see her give a sigh of relief that she was where she was supposed to go.

Meanwhile - Tiny was happy and I was happy - in fact- we all were happy.

I learned a hard lesson from that experience. I used to think it was ok to take in almost any rabbit and that it would "work out".

But sometimes - it is best to let a rabbit go. Sometimes - the rabbit isn't a match for you as a person and by keeping them....you're keeping them away from their "true" home.

You have several things to consider in this decision...you have Nala....you have your other rabbits....and you have yourself.

If Nala is not a good fit for your home and your family - she will feel it too and be unhappy.

As I've read through your blog over the last few days, I've seen a very mature young lady who tries to do the best things for her animals - you're great about taking them to the vet, etc. Its obvious you spend time with them and care about them.

I'm sure you will make the best decision - even if it is the hardest one.

Peg

 

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[align=center]Your whole post made me cry. Thank you so much for sharing your story, really.

I really don't want to give her up, I feel absolutely horrid, but that balance isn't there... I just feel like she's so out of place in this home. Like, here's my three buns that I've always grouped together as "Solara, Sabriel, and Silas"... And then there's Nala...

I feel like I don't have enough time for all of them, so it makes me feel like I'm not giving the other three enough attention, or I'm not giving her enough attention. I don't hate her, but I can't say I love her like my other rabbits. I don't think I'd be able to at all. And this feeling is not something I want for her. I want her to be loved unconditionally. I really like her. But she's not "my baby" like the other three.

It's just not there.

I just... compare the way I act towards the other buns... it's very enthusiastic (more laid back with Solara because I'm trying to stop her aggression) and I call them baby and I smile when I see them. And with Nala, I don't. It's just not that way. And it's not that she's a bad rabbit. But she doesn't love me- and I don't love her the way that the other three and I do. I... I think I need to stick with just the three. I love them so much, and they love me, and that's all I need.

Thank you so much, Peg. I'm more grateful than you probably know.

 

[TinysMom]

Bailee,

In the past - we as a forum have encouraged people to keep their bunnies - because at least they have a "good home" and get what they need. In some ways - I think that is good because it is easy to look at rabbits and get discouraged and think, "I'm working too much - I don't have enough time for them..." etc. etc. etc.

But I think there are other things to consider in your situation - and I hope I don't come across as putting you down - because I'm honestly not doing so.

The fact that you're a teenager says to me you have a lot on your plate with school, etc. and you don't need the additional stress of a rabbit that you don't feel bonded with. Being a teenager is tough enough.

In addition - you're having some struggles with one of your rabbits (I'm sorry - with all the S's...I can't remember which one). I think having a fourth bun will take time away from you and her...and it is probably time she needs with you.

I would explain to the sanctuary that you thought this would work out - but that it isn't working out and you've decided to commit yourself to ONLY your three rabbits....and stick with that.

If they criticize you or something - can I say something? What will their comments or thoughts about you matter to you in five years? Ten years? two years?

They don't know you and they aren't in your shoes. Trust me - if they talk about you - it will only be until the next "case" comes in and they have something new to discuss.

One thing I've learned in my 50 years of life - is that you can't base your decisions on what others might think of you - particularly in a situation like this where you have three other buns to consider.

Talk to your mom - and I'm sure whatever you decide your family will back you on it.

We're here for you - and even if you do get criticisms in private messages or in your blog - please don't leave the forum. That would sorta be like throwing the baby with the bathwater - know what I mean?

I wish I was there to give you a hug. I understand what you're feeling right now and I struggled so much with guilt about Beatrice. In the end - I know I did the right thing for her and for our family.

 

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[align=center]Yeah, I figured, that's why I was so wary about this all. I would work with her, I really would, if I didn't have enough on my plate. Not only do I have school, teen drama, plus my three rabbits to take care of, I am going to college next year! It's going to get even harder!

I don't feel like you're putting me down- I feel so stressed so I get what you're saying.

And yeah, Solara, with her general aggressive/skittishness.

I did send Carol (the woman who does the adoptions) an email, explaining how I was feeling. I hope she understands. I feel like she will, but there is still that worry. I want to keep volunteering there for as long as I live in this area, so I just don't want the "Poor Lulu (her old name) is back..." Cause I feel really bad already, and they did that when I took Soleil back to Huron Valley. I have only been there once since because I wanted to properly say goodbye. =( But I see what you're saying, and I understand, and that is why I decided on taking her back. If I was just going by what people would think, I wouldn't have sent the email. But I want the best for the bunnies and that is what I told Carol, which I think is the main goal for any rabbit lover.

I probably won't leave if I get criticism... I mean I did get criticism when I had to give up Soleil. But if they put themselves in my shoes, and felt what I was feeling, I'm pretty sure they would decide on the same thing. I'm so glad I have a great mom.. she said she's behind me 100%.

Through the computer hugs do good too... =)

 

[nochoramet]

Oh no Bailee I just now saw this. I was wondering why I haven't been seeing any new photos or statuses about Nala.
I hate that you feel this way, but it is another situation where it wasn't a proper match between you and the bun. And please don't leave the forum, you're one of the few people who talks to me on here and I enjoy keeping up with!!
I hate that you feel this way, but please don't feel like a horrid person because you don't like her as much, or feel like you don't want to keep her. Fiver was my bun like that. And even if you do catch crap about it, don't listen to it because of the fact that it's YOUR situation, YOU are the one that has to deal with it, NOT them. And if you don't feel like Nala is the right bun for you, then that's YOUR decision. You are a very loving, caring, responsible pet owner and this does NOT make you a bad pet owner. People do impulsive things (like me buying Fiver when I wasn't over my other bun's death) and it takes a big person to admit their mistake and make it better.

 

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nochoramet wrote:

Oh no Bailee I just now saw this. I was wondering why I haven't been seeing any new photos or statuses about Nala.
I hate that you feel this way, but it is another situation where it wasn't a proper match between you and the bun. And please don't leave the forum, you're one of the few people who talks to me on here and I enjoy keeping up with!!
I hate that you feel this way, but please don't feel like a horrid person because you don't like her as much, or feel like you don't want to keep her. Fiver was my bun like that. And even if you do catch crap about it, don't listen to it because of the fact that it's YOUR situation, YOU are the one that has to deal with it, NOT them. And if you don't feel like Nala is the right bun for you, then that's YOUR decision. You are a very loving, caring, responsible pet owner and this does NOT make you a bad pet owner. People do impulsive things (like me buying Fiver when I wasn't over my other bun's death) and it takes a big person to admit their mistake and make it better.

[align=center]=(( I won't leave...
I'm so confused. You don't even know. I dunno what to do. I cry every time I turn around.

I'm growing more attached to her and when I'm with her I feel like "I want to keep her." and when I walk away I doubt that and thing "I dunno if I can do this.."

But now I'm starting to think.. "But if I take her back I'll never see her again when she gets adopted by someone else..."
But then I think.. "If I don't, I'm stuck with her even if I do feel overwhelmed still..."

Both situations suck for me and I'm so upset. Is still feel so horrid.

 

[nochoramet]

I understand ( That's almost exactly how I felt with Fiver... I mean he kind of gave me a reason to dislike him but then he'd do something sweet and I'd try to give him another chance and I got attached, and I still miss him sometimes... but for me it was the right thing to do. He was just not in the right situation, we weren't bonded, he hated the other rabbits. etc etc. You've heard the situation too many times already XD but point is, if she's not in the right situation, and she's not the right bunny for you it would be better to give her up. But if you get attached, then maybe it would work out... I really don't know what to tell you only you know how you feel in your heart. I'm so sorry you're in this situation... (

 

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nochoramet wrote:

I understand ( That's almost exactly how I felt with Fiver... I mean he kind of gave me a reason to dislike him but then he'd do something sweet and I'd try to give him another chance and I got attached, and I still miss him sometimes... but for me it was the right thing to do. He was just not in the right situation, we weren't bonded, he hated the other rabbits. etc etc. You've heard the situation too many times already XD but point is, if she's not in the right situation, and she's not the right bunny for you it would be better to give her up. But if you get attached, then maybe it would work out... I really don't know what to tell you only you know how you feel in your heart. I'm so sorry you're in this situation... (

[align=center]It's so hard. Because I don't feel like I can give her what she needs (out time, attention). And when I do I feel like I'm not giving enough to Solara, Sabriel and Silas. But then I turn around and I'm thinking "How is she gunna feel when I take her back? She's gunna think 'What did I do wrong?'" And I feel so bad I can't even describe it. I want to keep her so bad but I don't want to not be able to provide her with what she needs, or my other three...

 

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[align=center]Also- some news on me.

I have an E in Accounting. I'm feeling absolutely miserable. I just wanna sleep for dayyyyyssss and just not have to deal with all of this. I'm feeling so down in the dumps.