Raising teenage boys

[Bo B Bunny]

I am dealing with so much stuff and I swear I'm going to lose my mind if things don't change with my son. He's 17.5, will graduate in June, and he's defiant, hateful and won't get up half the time for school. It's like pulling teeth just to wake him up!

Has anyone raised boys that can give me advice? I'm not getting any help from the hubby - he's been a jerk too!

 

[pamnock]

I'm not sure if there's any help - just sympathy from a mom who has raised3 boys!

There are a lot of on-line resources with tips to connect with your teen.


http://www.parentingteensonline.com/



Pam

 

[Flashy]

I don't have any advice, but my 17 year old brother is exactly the same.

No advice, just sympathy.

x

 

[pamnock]

Focus on the Family can be a great resource.

Need family help?
Call (800) A-FAMILY (232-6459)

My husband called them for advice when our our 60 year old pastor developed a crush on our 15 year old daughter. The Focus on the Family counselors were of immense help and offered wonderful advice and support.

Pam

 

[bat42072]

im sorry i cant give you advice on teenage boys... I am having problems handleing 3 teenage daughters

 

[Luvmyzoocrew]

Bo i was so afraid to open this and see what i might be in for down the line with my guys,lol. I was thinking a cattle prod to the leg to get him up and out of bed,lol!!!!!!!! I hope you are able to get some answers.

 

[PepnFluff]

Getting them outa bed I used to love this It always worked with my two older brothers 20 and 18. This was always my job lol go in whip the covers completly off them they then resume the fetal position go in 2min later and spray them with ICE cold water from a spray bottle LOL the only downside to this is that "apparently" this can take place of a shower so you may end up with a smelly boy:vomit:I feel your pain thoughullhair:

 

[LadyBug]

pamnock wrote:

Focus on the Family can be a great resource.

Need family help?
Call (800) A-FAMILY (232-6459)

My husband called them for advice when our our 60 year old pastor developed a crush on our 15 year old daughter. The Focus on the Family counselors were of immense help and offered wonderful advice and support.

Pam

i love them:biggrin2:! their Plugged In web site is great for movie/music/game reviews, i check 99% of my stuff through them first

 

[wabbitmom12]

Bo B Bunny wrote:

I am dealing with so much stuff and I swear I'm going to lose my mind if things don't change with my son. He's 17.5, will graduate in June, and he's defiant, hateful and won't get up half the time for school. It's like pulling teeth just to wake him up!

Bo B, I don't know if it helps, but you're not alone! Our boy (who happens to turn...guess how many years?....on December 26th... YEP!! 17!!!!) is a handful too. He has bi-polar disorder and is in total denial. He has a genius level IQ and is barely passing high school. Last trimester just ended, and he got F's acrossed the board, because he didn't go to school for almost a month. He had severe insomnia and just couldn't function! Except, of course, when there was something HE really wanted to do. The insomnia was real, but some days there was also a good bit of "I don't want to go and you can't make me!" Sometimes I'm not sure that I will survive this roller coaster ride.:?

 

[NorthernAutumn]

I'm not sure how the school system works down there, but...
We have programs to transition kids into the workplace, often in apprentice positions (eg. mechanic). You earn money and your highschool diploma at the same time.
I definitely do not have any kids but fur babies, but I remember a lot of guys in my highschool who weren't academically inclined, but loved to work. One is now a carpenter (age 23) pulling in $60,000 a year (and handsome too, with a sportscar!!!). Perhaps it would be possible to get a co-op work placement in the January semester (if you have those?) ?

He's gotta finish his highschool though. I don't know what the plan is for you guys after that, but maybe it would be time to go to work, and see how challenging it is to survive on minimum wage.

I know some parents give their kids the boot after grad if the kids aren't either working or going to post-secondary ed. ... Sounds mean, but I'm glad my parents kept on me, or I would've just coasted along. Maybe it's time to sit down and figure out what you/he intends to do come June?

Just my inexperienced .02

 

[wabbitmom12]

Yeah, actually our guy is taking what they call "Career Center" part of the day. It's like a technical college, only its for high schoolers. He is extraordinarily talented at working with computer hardware, writing code, etc. He will have a couple of college credits and some certifications when he finishes next year.

Good news, though, is that his guidance counselor started him on a new schedule this week: 10:30 am - noon regular high school classes (Algebra 2), 12:30-3:00 pm, Career Center computer networking class, 3:30-5:30 pm, back to the school for Chemistry B and English Lit. So far he really likes it. Since his insomnia often has him awake until 3:00 am, he can still get 7 hours' sleep.