I don't think they will take her to a vet cause they have had her for a long time and she gets mites and they just clear up with oil. So since I'm becoming a vet myself I'm taking her on as my new patient
she says the bunny is totally normal/eating and drinking great
The thing is, this is a really severe case... she's surely miserable, her ears are possibly infected or on their way to being infected and the mineral oil won't get rid of the mites as fast as other treatments will. It's truly in the rabbit's best interests to see a vet who can prescribe all the medications she needs (Selamectin, probably metacam and possibly Baytril or another broad-spectrum antibiotic that's rabbit-safe; as a note, probiotics should always be given when an animal is on antibiotics).
I do understand, though, that even if I convince you that she *needs* a vet trip, she's not your rabbit and the decision regarding whether or not she gets taken to one isn't up to you. If you're unable to convince them to take her in, there are a couple options left, though they're far from ideal.
For pain, you can use baby (or low-dose) aspirin or baby ibuprofen in lieu of metacam (baby tylenol is NOT safe to give a rabbit). However, neither choice is without risks. Her ears looked bloody, so aspirin (being a blood thinner) could make that worse if she's still bleeding. Like metacam, Ibuprofen is an anti-inflammatory, which I think is a better choice in this situation... but it "can cause gastric irritation, or ulceration" according to MediRabbit. While that sounds scary, it's worth noting that
the exact same warnings apply to Ibuprofen when taken by humans. If her GI tract is healthy, she's eating well (meaning her stomach won't be empty), the dosage given is appropriately conservative and the baby ibuprofen isn't being given long-term, the risk of any side-effects should be extremely low. If it were me, I'd go with baby ibuprofen (available at Walmart, HEB, etc. in the infant section) and wouldn't give it for more than maybe 2-3 days.
Dosage info:
http://www.medirabbit.com/Safe_medication/Analgesics/safe_analgesics.htm
As for the mites, it IS possible to get ivermectin (to be administered orally) without a prescription - many feed stores sell it in a paste form, marketed for horses. If you tracked some down (shouldn't be hard, as there are a lot of feed stores in and around Houston), you could do the calculations based on the strength of the paste to determine the proper dosage for her. She'd need 2-3 doses total to completely eliminate the mites, each around 10 days apart.
Keep in mind, though, that the product is designed for horses and obviously they get a HUGE dose compared to rabbits - try to mush the paste around in the tube as much as possible before measuring out a dose (it'd probably help to squeeze a bit of it out into the trash to make room to mix it up better), as the ivermectin isn't necessarily distributed equally throughout the tube. Unlike with getting Revolution from a vet, I can't say with confidence that giving feed store ivermectin is totally safe. In my opinion, though, the risks are outweighed by the benefits in a severe case like this *if* Revolution simply isn't an option and *if* you're extremely careful and cautious in the dosing.
Dosage info:
http://www.medirabbit.com/Safe_medication/Anti_parasitics/safe_antiparasitic.htm