Need to vent

[Amy27]

I don't usually post on Let Your Hare Down but I am having a rough time and just want to vent to some people who understand. My friends are not bunny owners and they just don't get it.

I am so stressed with Chase's surgery and trying to keep her healthy. On top of that my buns hate each other since being apart. Even though they have been able to see each other since I brought Chase home. So they were apart like 12 hours tops. They are both sad because their routine has changed. They both want in their room and they can't be together because the Little Bunny is being so mean. Usually the Little Bunny follows Chase everywhere and I think she gets upset when Chase is gone. I don't think it is Chase's smell because she has been home a week. So I am trying to rebond them and today did not go well. Chase is so sweet and the Little Bunny is being so mean. I just want them to be happy and that won't happen until I can get them back together and get them both back in there room. They sit around looking sad and it just breaks my heart. It breaks my heart the Little Bunny is being so mean to Chase. Chase has enough on her plate and she just wants her home life to be back to normal.

I am sorry if none of this made any sense. I am just stressed to the max and want to go on vacation and leave someone else to deal with this mess, but I won't because I love my buns. I just want my happy buns back. Noone has to reply. It felt better just typing this out. My friends all think I am crazy. I get nice comments like why do you have rabbits if they are so stressful. Why don't you just put chase down or give her away. Don't you wish you never got them. UGHHHH I just want to be done with it all.

Thanks for letting me vent.

 

[Bo B Bunny]

:hug:

I hope it gets better. I know sometimes it just feels like you can't take any more!!

 

[pla725]

Perhaps Little Bunny senses that Chase is not well that is why they aren't bonding right now. Give Chase sometime to heal. Then try to rebond.

 

[Amy27]

Thanks Bo B Bunny.

pla725, I thought about giving it more time but I am afraid the longer they are apart the harder it will be to get them back together. The vet told me after 2 days I could start bonding but I wanted to wait until Chase was allowed to return to regular activity.

If I had another place one of the buns would be happy in it would be easier. But whatever bun is not in their room they sit in a box depressed not eating or drinking as much. I have been rotating them every night so they are both getting to use the room.

Last time Chase had surgery the same thing happened and it took about a week to get them back together. A week isn't that long I just need to keep telling myself that. Next week at this time it will be over.

 

[NorthernAutumn]

I was very scared of breaking Stu and Evie's bond when it was time for her to be spayed. I asked my vet if I could send him with her...
Seems kind of mean, to cause him a bit of stress in the vet office for 6 hours or so, but the bond didn't break.

I'm wondering if you could take Little Bunny with Chase the next time you go. Some people use car trips as a bonding exercise anyway (terrorize the buns to make them like eachother:biggrin2: [joking,,,] ). Perhaps that would help things?I think Little Bunny probably feels a bit abandoned, and now her buddy smells funny, and feels ill. Poor little gal just doesn't understand... It'll work out.

I'm sorry you are feeling so rough right now. It is really hard to think of much else when a pet is really ill.:hug: Hugs to you, Amy

Autumn

*** BTW, I think I reply more to your posts than to anybody else's posts... I guess you strike a certain chord with me Dunno! You're going to get through this, girl.

 

[BethM]

When Nick had stasis, Amelia avoided him. She did not go to him, and she would run away when he would approach her. When I would spend an hour to coax him into eating one piece of parsley, Amelia ran up and stole it right out of his mouth.

It broke my heart, because those two are almost inseparable. I also felt bad, because I thought he could have used the love and support.

I think she sensed his illness, and she also sensed my stress, and that Nick was getting more attention than she was. I was fortunate that she wasn't aggressive towards him.

But, in the end, she took him back. Bunnies have their own ways, I guess.

And as for friends not understanding.....I had to take time in the middle of the day for almost a week to go home and give oral fluids and medicine. I got a lot of unpleasant comments from some co-workers for that. But I decided that was their problem, not mine. (Though it did kind of sting at the time.)

 

[Amy27]

NorthernAutumn you have been so awesome to me and helped me so much. I look forward to your responses to me because they always contain something helpful. And it put a smile on my face and made me feel good that you reply to my posts.

The Little Bunny doesn't mind if Chase is gone for a day at the vet. Like when she went to the ER or I took Chase for tests. The problem is after surgery I separate them because the Little Bunny has a habit of over grooming Chase. The Little Bunny is really Chase's slave and I worry about the Little Bunny taking Chase's stitiches out. I wish they would do internal stitiches on Chase because it would eliminate this problem but my vet doesn't do that.

I did do a modified car ride last time. I put them in separate carriers and then brought them home and put them together. I don't really have anyone to ride with me to put them together in the car. It did seem to help. It is so cold out right now that I don't want to take them out. I would think from Chase's surgery her immune system is low. Chase does have to go to the vet twice this week so the Little Bunny may come a long for the ride.

I think the main thing is the Little Bunny feels abandoned. She follows Chase everywhere and now he left her and I think she is mad.

BethM you have also been awesome. You have really helped me have some faith in myself to give the sub q fluids. I really appreciate it.

It does break your heart when the buns loved each other and then are mean. You love the buns and you want them to be happy and try to protect them. I think that is what bothers me the most. I just want my happy pair back. I can tell especially with the Little Bunny she is lonely and sad. She doesn't have anyone to follow around so she hides in her box.

I am lucky that my boss use to be a director of a humane society so she understands. I have only had this job for 3 months and when Chase got her first stone I had been there a week and she has been awesome. Asks me how Chase is doing and has understood me taking time off. She really is an amazing person. My friends and family not so much lol they like to make comments and it does sting.

Thanks everyone for being here for more. More important then me this site and the people that have helped meis actually giving Chase a better life and a better chance at surviving. The vet didn't offer sub q or tests I got all that information from members here and she agreed. I started off with 2 buns from a petstore following what they told me, I just didn't know any better. I have learned so much from the members at this site. It is so much more then a message board. Soemtimes I read threads about people here who want to help buns and I wonder if they realize they do just by posting here and helping the owners help the buns. Whoever said you can't help everyone. You guys all make such a difference.

Ok sorry it got so long lol If you don't have 3 hours to read this reply NorthernAutumn I understand lol

 

[NorthernAutumn]

Hope today is going a bit easier... You'll be a whizz at the sub-Qs in no time!
(I'll read your posts no matter how long!)
Keep your chin up, Amy
:hug:

 

[Amy27]

Thanks NorthernAutumn for caring and being supportive. Today is a better day.

 

[Flash]

Sorry to hear your bunnies are going thru a rough time. How's Chase doing? The other bunny knows something is wrong and I'm sure they will work it out soon. What about putting the bunnies, when Chase is healed up, on the washer machine. I've heard that works too inside of the car ride. It will all work out.

 

[Amy27]

Thanks for asking Flash. Chase is doing amazing. She is such a fighter. I am proud of her. I have thought about the washing machine and car but I don't have anyone to help me to do the car thing. What freaks me out about the washing machine is that they are so close together I would have to reach in and grab one out and am afraid to get biten. I have been using the bathroom because at least them Chase will run from the Little Bunny and the Little Bunny doesn't chase her. Plus it helps I start spraying with the water bottle and banging on my pot with a spoon. I am afraid the fight would last longer if they couldn't get away from each other.

 

[Flash]

Hey that's good news about Chase. I know what you mean I could use another set of hands sometimes so I have to improvise. I'm sure your doing all you can to get those cute bugger's back to loving each other.

 

[BethM]

Glad to hear Chase is doing well today!

 

[Pipp]

This is actually venting about rabbits, so it's not off topic.

We can move it to the main forum or to Nutrition andBehavor. Do you have a preference?

I've found that the best bonding trick is a lot of space and nerves of steele. I just let mine run in a big room so somebunny can get away if somebunny else gets aggressive, and hope for the best. Almost always the damage has been limited to hair pulling. (And human stress).

And I've had cage fights solved by adding space, too. Just one extra shelf in a big cube cagethat already had two or three made all the difference. And even putting a little barrier up inside an x-pen made a difference. I was just reading a post on Binky Bunny from someone who put an an extra two or three cube panels in an L-shaped configuration inside a pen, and that stopped the fights.

sas