undergunfire
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A lot of you know that me and my mother had a very rocky relationship. I won't go into the story here because it will take too long and I just don't care to relive a lot of it.
Recently, my mother has been talking to me lately because of my upcoming wedding on May 2nd. Her, my brother, and my grandmother and flying out here to AZ from NY.
While talking on the phone with my mom for the first time in 1.5 years, I found out that her husband (I think they got married, who knows) is losing his battle with stomach cancer and only has weeks left. He was told 5 years ago that he would only live 6 months. They recently went to a Florida doctor, who told Tom that the cancer had spread and the tumors have doubled. Tom is now on morphine, lost 45 lbs, can't talk well, can't eat much, and is pretty much bed ridden. Tom is 60 years old....my mom is 46.
When he does pass away, which could be in a few weeks to maybe 1.5 months....I don't know, my mom won't really say when she thinks he might pass....then Ryan and I will be flying out to NY to spend a week or a tad less, so we can be there for support and the funeral.
Some stuff to add that is pretty important....
Tom is a multi-millionaire. My brother said he has around 8 to 12 million...or more. He is leaving my mom their $600K Upstate NY house, their $300K luxury RV, their two cars, lots of money (millions), etc. My brother is getting $125k to his name along with a college fund. Tom also has 5 young grankids and a son & daughter in their 30's...which I imagine he is leaving quite a bit of money to. I do not know if he is leaving me anything, but my brother thinks he is. They aren't all really talking about it much.
My 16 year old brother lives with mom and Tom. My brother and I have been talking a lot recently about every thing that is going on. He wants to try to convince my mother to move him and her out here to Prescott because my brother really likes it out here and wants to go to Northern Arizona Uni when he graduates HS in 2 years. I, personally, think it is a bad idea because Ryan and I do not want to live in AZ for any more years then we need to. My brother has said that he wants to live near us because with mom getting older (but she's only 46, lol!) and now going to be alone....he wants help with her because he is only 16 years old and she is a former alcoholic, but has been sober for 4 years (says my brother).
My mom wants to move my brother and her out to NC once Tom passes on. My mom LOVES North Carolina (Cape Hatteras, Kitty Hawk, etc) and so do I. Well....Ryan and I told my brother that we will see what happens and we will move to NC if we need to....to be closer to him and my mother. There has to be warehouse jobs there for him and hopefully something for me. I really want to go to college/trade school for dog grooming or something of the sort, so this might be my opportunity...if my mother can help us out with living money for a little bit
I am just hoping my mother really has changed from the person she was. I hope being left with all this wealth won't make her worse then what I knew her as. I am worried for my brother.
Ugh....sorry, this post is a bit scattered. It is hard to put all my thoughts together and views on things, without writing a book-long post.
I guess I will learn more and get a better feel for things once my mom comes out for my wedding. She will be here on May 1st.
Recently, my mother has been talking to me lately because of my upcoming wedding on May 2nd. Her, my brother, and my grandmother and flying out here to AZ from NY.
While talking on the phone with my mom for the first time in 1.5 years, I found out that her husband (I think they got married, who knows) is losing his battle with stomach cancer and only has weeks left. He was told 5 years ago that he would only live 6 months. They recently went to a Florida doctor, who told Tom that the cancer had spread and the tumors have doubled. Tom is now on morphine, lost 45 lbs, can't talk well, can't eat much, and is pretty much bed ridden. Tom is 60 years old....my mom is 46.
When he does pass away, which could be in a few weeks to maybe 1.5 months....I don't know, my mom won't really say when she thinks he might pass....then Ryan and I will be flying out to NY to spend a week or a tad less, so we can be there for support and the funeral.
Some stuff to add that is pretty important....
Tom is a multi-millionaire. My brother said he has around 8 to 12 million...or more. He is leaving my mom their $600K Upstate NY house, their $300K luxury RV, their two cars, lots of money (millions), etc. My brother is getting $125k to his name along with a college fund. Tom also has 5 young grankids and a son & daughter in their 30's...which I imagine he is leaving quite a bit of money to. I do not know if he is leaving me anything, but my brother thinks he is. They aren't all really talking about it much.
My 16 year old brother lives with mom and Tom. My brother and I have been talking a lot recently about every thing that is going on. He wants to try to convince my mother to move him and her out here to Prescott because my brother really likes it out here and wants to go to Northern Arizona Uni when he graduates HS in 2 years. I, personally, think it is a bad idea because Ryan and I do not want to live in AZ for any more years then we need to. My brother has said that he wants to live near us because with mom getting older (but she's only 46, lol!) and now going to be alone....he wants help with her because he is only 16 years old and she is a former alcoholic, but has been sober for 4 years (says my brother).
My mom wants to move my brother and her out to NC once Tom passes on. My mom LOVES North Carolina (Cape Hatteras, Kitty Hawk, etc) and so do I. Well....Ryan and I told my brother that we will see what happens and we will move to NC if we need to....to be closer to him and my mother. There has to be warehouse jobs there for him and hopefully something for me. I really want to go to college/trade school for dog grooming or something of the sort, so this might be my opportunity...if my mother can help us out with living money for a little bit
I am just hoping my mother really has changed from the person she was. I hope being left with all this wealth won't make her worse then what I knew her as. I am worried for my brother.
Ugh....sorry, this post is a bit scattered. It is hard to put all my thoughts together and views on things, without writing a book-long post.
I guess I will learn more and get a better feel for things once my mom comes out for my wedding. She will be here on May 1st.
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