just need to vent

[bat42072]

my dads brother died last 8-9-07... my dad or my step mother still has not bothered to call me to tell me... I had to find thru my moms sisterinlaw and she only found out because the funeral is going to be at her church on tuesday... i know my dad and him had their problems theese last few years... but I was close to him growing up... my dad and his wife are planning the funeral so i wonder why he didn't call me... they didn't even send me an invitation to my step neices graduation this year( who lived with them) they said the didn't have my adress... i only live 15 minutes from them and they have to pass my house to go to town... and they have my phone number.... I am sure it has to do with my step mother... She is mad because i didn't give my step neice money for graduation... I would have except they didn't invite me so I feel I wasn't good enough for an inventation then they don't need a gift from me... but still i am angry that they haven't even cared enough to tell me about my uncle...I am sorry I just needed to vent....

 

[SOOOSKA]

If I was you I would still go to the funeral, like you said you were close to him when you were young. I'm sure his family would appreciate you being there.

Regarding not giving a gift for the graduation I totally agree with you if you are not good enough to be invited then they shouldn't expect a gift from you.

Like the old saying goes "You Can Pick Your Friends But You Can't Pick Your Family" how true is that.

Susan

 

[undergunfire]

SOOOSKA wrote:

Like the old saying goes "You Can Pick Your Friends But You Can't Pick Your Family" how true is that.

Thank god you can pick your friends. I have a very uncaring family.


Psssht, my friends ARE my family now :hug:.

 

[AngelnSnuffy]

undergunfire wrote:

SOOOSKA wrote:

Like the old saying goes "You Can Pick Your Friends But You Can't Pick Your Family" how true is that.

Thank god you can pick your friends. I have a very uncaring family.


Psssht, my friends ARE my family now :hug:.

Me too, especially aunts, uncles and grandparents on my mom's side who don't speak to her or us, and I haven't spoken to my dad in like 11 years. It's disgusting.

Thank god for partners and friends and RO!

 

[undergunfire]

AngelnSnuffy wrote:

Thank god for partners and friends and RO!

 

[bat42072]

I don't know why that side of my family is so disfunctional... he doesn't like any of his brothers or sisters.... Hwe only has one living sister now.... I am sure this won't bring them closer... all he ever did was talk bad about them... I Talked to one of my sisters and she won't go to his funeral even if she lived near by... sh said he was mean to her growning up... I never saw it... but I was much junger than her... My husband won't take off from work for his funeral because he didn't like him... I am at least glad my mommas family is sooo much nicer... they all call or see each other all of the time...

enough of that... thank you for your responses... I will think about going... if anything I would at least see some long distance relatives i haven't seen in awhile....

becky

 

[bat42072]

i went to his funeral... it was sa... hardley anyone came....so i am glad that i went...his adopted daughter was their telling evryone what a great person he was and how eveyone loved him....not exactly true... she was hardley around him because her parents devorced... I now know why my oldest sister would not come to the funeral... when she was younger he would get drunk and make moves on her... my cousin told me at the funeral that he did the same to her and also tried to beat up her mom(his sister)... i was yay younger than anyone else that was around him but i don't remember him ever getting out of the way with me or anyone else....but still i am glad i went for my dad... i still haven't asked him why he did not tell us... maybe i won't.... my sister talked to my step mom and she told us it was at a different church... (any guess why she would do that)... she used to treat us better than that... but theese last few years my dad has been really sick with heart trouble.... i guess she is trying to keep us away from him... i only go there when she is not home now... i am sorry that i vented to you all... I just needed to get it out... thank you all for your responses... its good to know my family isn';t the only one with problems...

 

[SweetPeasMommie]

It is ok to vent, we all need to vent sometimes. Telling it to friends or online friends is better than family. I know exactly what you are going through.

I have not spoken to my drunk, druged dad in 2 yrs. He does not want to make an effort to pick up the phone and call me way before I moved and got a new number. He claims that I changed the number after I talked with him.

My sister out right hates my DH and I don't know why. I have not seen her or talked to her since May of 06 and that hurts cause she is not doing well. She is 36 and just had heart op in April. I cry every night hoping that God will change my sister's heart cause she is my only sibling I have.

I am here for ya as well as we are too. We all have something in common that we can vent about.

 

[girlzilla]

oh dear, you poor thing sometimes people just don't use their common sense and don't even realise that their actions could possibly be regarded as thoughtless. as for venting, vent away! families can be very difficult whether they are nuclear or stepfamily. i've been pretty blessed with my family, we all get along very well for the most part, but of course we have our jerry springer moments lol. i've also previously been in a stepfamily situation so i can possibly understand a bit of what you might be feeling.

look after yourself ok?