Just a rant.

[irishlops]

I actually feel like getting this off my mind, the past while my mum has been making diggs about scoliosis I have a good chance of having one of the types of it.

She has been saying I might have to get a rod in m spine- Ive has surgrey before so I wasnt scared and I was rational as The doctor has not diagnosed my serverity and

degree of the cruve of my spine. Its not so bad so I think i might just need a brace.
Now after I said that she said "Im your mother I know you will need the op"

Now people like this really really peeve me off big time so for some reason i chanangled her asking her why, what are your grounds for that, your prove.
And just said "I know so":grumpy:
Seriously And then not only that she said them sort of things randomly once a week,

Then (i think) yestetday she was like "I was taking to mary, her daughter had this and that and had to op, you will be in intensive care and maybe a life support machine for 2 weeks and cant move and bed bound and you tell your father when he comes to visit he can go at any time you wnat darling and tell him to stop being a **:tantrum:

* to you and me and you will be under alot of stress and emotional stuff taht week."
And not being able to get up and going to the toliet in tube and stuff. Like seriously what mother would do that. she said it with a hint of a smirk on her face.:tears2:
And I might have marfans aswell and making diggs about that. and my dyscalulia.

And the fact is she does not know anything about it and its not that sevre.
She also said I might dye during it. what a lovely mother i have indeed. and im also not sure if i can go to my doc about PTSD as i really think i have it, but i dont see the dc with out my mother making an appointment and she is there in the room all the
time,

Rant over for now.:soapbox

 

[fuzz16]

I have a messed up spine from sports. It doesn't curve but a disk is pressed in and instead of going straight it goes like this _______---- its kinda weird. but a kyropractor does wonders for it even though it goes right back, id look into that before surgery

and i would ignore her, sounds like she is tryin for pity...but you know moms know everything!! they just know!!!
but be strong, shes making a big deal out of nothin it seems and just stressin you out and you just need to not think about somethin like that until it comes to that point.

 

[irishlops]

fuzz16 wrote:

I have a messed up spine from sports. It doesn't curve but a disk is pressed in and instead of going straight it goes like this _______---- its kinda weird. but a kyropractor does wonders for it even though it goes right back, id look into that before surgery

and i would ignore her, sounds like she is tryin for pity...but you know moms know everything!! they just know!!!
but be strong, shes making a big deal out of nothin it seems and just stressin you out and you just need to not think about somethin like that until it comes to that point.

What pity? she does not desve it.
if moms know every thing then she would know she is drving me crazy and her abuse is cruela nd affecting me badly.
so dont and say they know every thing.

 

[Luvr of Wabbits and Polar Bears]

Elena "mom knows everything" is just an expression people use. All Mom's know everything or best.

Dont take it to heart. You know more than you think you do. Hang in there, you're doing good.

:hug:

 

[irishlops]

Luvr of Wabbits and Polar Bears wrote:

Elena "mom knows everything" is just an expression people use. All Mom's know everything or best.

Dont take it to heart. You know more than you think you do. Hang in there, you're doing good.

:hug:

thanks sorry brenda i did not know.
hug back:hug:

 

[SunnyCait]

Elena, I am sorry your mom is so horrible. She sounds like a real friggin' witch, someone who probably shouldn't have had children to begin with.

She sounds an awful lot like my mother. Some of the things you say she says or does are things my mother has said and done. The PTS the dog thing? My mom totally did that, to a dog we had had for 6 years and a cat we'd had for 8. Luckily I was able to find someone else to take them, but it was very scary seeing how she could just throw life away and seem so smug about it. My mom has a lot of mental issues, and from what it sounds like, so does your mom. Anyone who can treat their own child like that has something wrong with them. She needs help. You need to get out of there and she needs to go somewhere where they can help her. She is vindictive, manipulative, and she hurts you. You just need to remember she is the one with something wrong with her, it's NOT you. SHE is the driving force behind her OWN choices.

I'm really sorry you have to deal with things like this. It's not anything anyone should have to go through.

 

[fuzz16]

irishlops wrote:

Luvr of Wabbits and Polar Bears wrote:

Elena "mom knows everything" is just an expression people use. All Mom's know everything or best.

Dont take it to heart. You know more than you think you do. Hang in there, you're doing good.

:hug:

thanks sorry brenda i did not know.
hug back:hug:

Oh, ya, i meant it in sarcasm way. i hope things get better.

honestly...all moms do it. ima single mom living wit my parents and reminded daily ima screw up for every choice i make. but they dont realize im proud of where i am. in turn-dont worry about what anyone thinks but you!

 

[Yurusumaji]

Don't let mum get you down, Love. Mine's evil too and I just stopped listening to her because even though she's your mom, that doesn't mean she's psychic and knows all about your medical problems.

Mine keeps telling me I inflicted myself with Chron's Disease. LOL. I just ignore her. Everyone has the capacity to be an idiot and it sounds like your mum has found hers.

Rely on doctors and professionals to tell you what is and is not going to happen to you medically and remind your mother that she doesn't have a PhD, so she can stuff it 'cause everything she says is pure speculation.

 

[irishlops]

Yurusumaji wrote:

Don't let mum get you down, Love. Mine's evil too and I just stopped listening to her because even though she's your mom, that doesn't mean she's psychic and knows all about your medical problems.

Mine keeps telling me I inflicted myself with Chron's Disease. LOL. I just ignore her. Everyone has the capacity to be an idiot and it sounds like your mum has found hers.

Rely on doctors and professionals to tell you what is and is not going to happen to you medically and remind your mother that she doesn't have a PhD, so she can stuff it 'cause everything she says is pure speculation.

I know thant i should rely on doc and people who know that area of whater well, so thats why im ignoring her, just it got to me when i ranted.

:hug:thank you for your advice, if you ever need to talk about your mom, im here on pm for you.