It's over - Art's mom passed away this morning - I'm heartbroken

[TinysMom]

I really need to write something more about her - but I'm still very upset and not making much sense.

Art's mom meant as much - or more - to me than my own mom. Where my mom always had expectations for me to live up to - Art's mom loved me as I was - flaws and all.

There's a line from the movie Steel Magnolias where one gal says, "If you can't say something nice about someone....come sit by me...". That is my mom.

Then there is a line from Bambi..."If you can't say something nice - don't say anything at all." - That's Art's mom - and what I try to live up to.

I feel like I've lost my best friend...my confidante (many times I would call her during troubled times in our marriage and ask her to help me understand her son since I just didn't "get him".....and she would listen and then help me see things from Art's point of view (or say "Yep...that's the way his dad would act..").

I always knew when I picked up the phone to call her - there would be no recriminations that it had been a long time since our last call - only a "Wow - I'm so glad to hear from you...I've missed you."

The last time I lost someone was 21 years ago when my grandmother died....and I didn't know her that well.

Anyway - I just had to share.

I called her on Thursday morning and she could barely even speak to me on the phone - she did say "I love you" back to me and she knew it was me -but other than that - she couldn't understand much.

I may post pictures in this thread later on - but for now...I guess I'll just shut up.

I just want to pick up the phone and call her again and have things be as they used to be....

 

[Bo B Bunny]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I know it's hard when you lose someone so kind. That was how John's grandma was.... we just lost her this month..... :hug:

 

[JimD]

ray:

 

[Pet_Bunny]

So sorry Peg.

My Grandmother passed away 5 years ago, and my wife still misses her.

 

[NorthernAutumn]

ray::hug:

ink iris:

 

[Maureen Las]

I'm so sorry that you lost her Peg. it doesn't have to be your own flesh and blood that is the person that connects to you the most; that is probably why genetics or "blood" doesn't hold much weight with me. It isn't the blood relations that matters

Iam so sorry that you lost your real mom because it sounds to me like Art's mom was really your real mom; it is the one that sees you as you really are, accepts it and connects with you. unconditionally that you will miss ... and that sounds like Art's mom


I am so sorry that you are going through so much loss; this year has been terrible for you ;
i am thinking about you and wishing you the very best recovery from all your losses this year...

ray:

'hugs'

Maureen

 

[cheryl]

Ohh Peg..i'm so very sorry for you and Art...:hug:

 

[SnowyShiloh]

I'm sorry, Peg

 

[slavetoabunny]

I'm so sorry Peg. I'll be keeping you and your family in my thoughts.

 

[Elf Mommy]

I'm glad that Art had time to say goodbye. It's good that he was there with you to comfort each other when you heard of her passing. I'm so sorry that you've lost someone who meant so much to your family.

 

[BSAR]

I'm so sorry for your loss Peg.I'm gladthat Art got to see her and you had a chance to talk to her as well before she passed away.
:hug:

 

[wabbitmom12]

I just saw this, I am so very sorry.

**Wabbitdad (forgot to see who was logged in.)

 

[maherwoman]

I'm so so sorry to hear this, Peg.

My prayers and heart are with you and your family.

 

[anneq]

Oh Peg, I think I know how you feel.
Jim's mom was that to me - it was so hard losing her because we were so close, and in many ways, that helped my husband finally see her through someone else eyes.
You're in my thoughts - time does heal wounds, some just take longer.

/hugs
Anne

 

[Bassetluv]

My deepest condolences to you and Art, Peg...may both of you find comfort during such an emotional and hard time. ray:

(((HUGS))) to you both...

:hug2:

 

[pamnock]

Keeping your family in my prayers Peg.

Pam

 

[wabbitmom12]

ray:I'm sorry for your loss Peg. I will be praying for you, especially since I'm sure the funeral will be soon (if not already.)

We lost my grandma yesterday...it is so bittersweet. You really cry and mourn for the person they used to be, before they got very ill and/or elderly. Still,you don't want them to stay in this life when it is clearly time to go. Their departure leaves such a big hole in your heart...

 

[DeniseJP]

Sorry to hear of your loss -

Denise

 

[pumpkinandwhiskersmom]

I just saw this, Peg. I'm so sorry for your loss. How are you and Art and the rest of your family doing?

I know what you mean about just wanting things to be the way they used to be. I'm so sorry. Sending prayers and hugs your way!

 

[kherrmann3]

Sadly, I just saw this thread, too. I am so sorry for your loss, Peg. Hang in there. :hug: