International Adoption

[JadeIcing]

My husband and I are considering adopting. Do to a lot of personal health issues and family health. (Mental health) We are debating just adoption. Was wondering if anyone knows anything about it.



Right now we are considering from China or Colombia. Each has the good points.

http://www.childrenshopeint.org/china.htm

http://www.childrenshopeint.org/china.htm

This is one site I saw. Any info would be welcomed.



P.s. I know this seems early but I just want to start research.

 

[m.e.]

I'd recommend finding forums that are geared towards international adoption, especially from those countries you're interested in. Mothering.com has an adoption board that's very helpful:

http://www.mothering.com/discussions/forumdisplay.php?s=0dfdf0203230c83ec6ba285f9ffb0825&f=165

I don't have any personal experience with it, but I know several families who have adopted internationally, and I've visited orphanages in other countries. It's such a wonderful thing to open your home and hearts to a child :hug2:

 

[JadeIcing]

Thank you. So many things are holding me back and from having my own.

Adoption in this country is out of the question. I have had very strong reasons why.

Plus have always wanted to do this.

 

[JadeIcing]

http://www.gwca.org/

Bumping.

I am still very intrested in this. I like these two agencies.

This re affirmed my decision today.

http://childrenshopeint.blogspot.com/2007/11/national-adoption-monthcelebrate-day-28.html

 

[okiron]

I'm actually planning to adopt too someday. I would just love a child from Vietnam. Good luck, I think the biggest hurdle I'm going to face is the money. $30k is a big sum.

 

[JadeIcing]

Ditto, the rest we are both clear. Veitnam may have differenent regulations.

http://www.childrenshopeint.org/vietnam.htm

 

[okiron]

JadeIcing wrote:

Ditto, the rest we are both clear. Veitnam may have differenent regulations.

http://www.childrenshopeint.org/vietnam.htm

Actually the Vietnamese has one of the easiest regulations. If I had 30k, I'm eligible to adopt right now

 

[JadeIcing]

I thought about going throughVietnam but I don't know why China to me is it.

okiron wrote:

JadeIcing wrote:

Ditto, the rest we are both clear. Veitnam may have differenent regulations.

http://www.childrenshopeint.org/vietnam.htm

Actually the Vietnamese has one of the easiest regulations. If I had 30k, I'm eligible to adopt right now

 

[Flashy]

Do abroad adoptions not worry about mental health issues? Because Ithink in the UK you can't adopt if you have them.

 

[Flashy]

I don't know why that posted twice.

 

[okiron]

Flashy wrote:

Do abroad adoptions not worry about mental health issues? Because Ithink in the UK you can't adopt if you have them.

Some countries do, some don't. China is one of the strictest ones.

 

[SnowyShiloh]

Perhaps she meant that her family has a history of mental illness that she's concerned could be passed on to a biological child, and not that she herself has a mental illness.

Jade, have you checked out holtintl.org? They have a China adoption board and the people are quite friendly and helpful. The Korea and Post Adoption boards are great, too. I post every once in a while, but have been a lurker for years! Also, I recommend you check out a4everfamily.org as it talks about attachment problems and how to foster healthy attachment with an adopted child. Attachment is a huge, gigantic thing when it comes to adoption and it's best to know as much about it as possible before bringing your child home. There are a lot of books about attachment in adoption as well.

I'm only 22, but I've wanted to adopt from China since I was 10 years old. Still have 8 years to go until I qualify, and I'm using that time to learn more about international adoption and Chinese culture. I'm learning Chinese in college right now, for example. I've pretty much always considered adopting from China to be an eventuality for me and how I will have my kids. My boyfriend and I talk about it a lot and if we marry, we will likely have one biological child and then adopt two. For my age, I probably know way more about international adoption, specifically Chinese, since I've been reading whatever I can get my hands on for about 8 years!

While these books aren't specifically about how to adopt from China, I think they're very valuable and will give you a broader view of Chinese adoption. I own both and really enjoyed them and learned a lot. The first is the most educational, the second is informative as well but is more of a personal story:

Wanting a Daughter, Needing a Son: Abandonment, Adoption and Orphanage Care in China
http://www.amazon.com/dp/0963847279/?tag=skimlinks_replacement-20

The Lost Daughters of China
http://www.amazon.com/Wanting-Daughter-Needing-Son-Abandonment/dp/0963847279/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1197247000&sr=8-1

There's also a book called Mei Mei which isn't really informative, but is full of photos of little girls in Chinese orphanages. It's very sweet:

http://www.amazon.com/dp/0963847279/?tag=skimlinks_replacement-20

Best wishes to you and I look forward to hearing what you decide!

 

[JadeIcing]

Yup not me but in my family. Also has to be on record you are. I refuse to get checked.

No but I will check it out. Thanks for the links.

SnowyShiloh wrote:

Perhaps she meant that her family has a history of mental illness that she's concerned could be passed on to a biological child, and not that she herself has a mental illness.

Jade, have you checked out holtintl.org? They have a China adoption board and the people are quite friendly and helpful. The Korea and Post Adoption boards are great, too. I post every once in a while, but have been a lurker for years! Also, I recommend you check out a4everfamily.org as it talks about attachment problems and how to foster healthy attachment with an adopted child. Attachment is a huge, gigantic thing when it comes to adoption and it's best to know as much about it as possible before bringing your child home. There are a lot of books about attachment in adoption as well.

I'm only 22, but I've wanted to adopt from China since I was 10 years old. Still have 8 years to go until I qualify, and I'm using that time to learn more about international adoption and Chinese culture. I'm learning Chinese in college right now, for example. I've pretty much always considered adopting from China to be an eventuality for me and how I will have my kids. My boyfriend and I talk about it a lot and if we marry, we will likely have one biological child and then adopt two. For my age, I probably know way more about international adoption, specifically Chinese, since I've been reading whatever I can get my hands on for about 8 years!

While these books aren't specifically about how to adopt from China, I think they're very valuable and will give you a broader view of Chinese adoption. I own both and really enjoyed them and learned a lot. The first is the most educational, the second is informative as well but is more of a personal story:

Wanting a Daughter, Needing a Son: Abandonment, Adoption and Orphanage Care in China
http://www.amazon.com/Wanting-Daughter-Needing-Son-Abandonment/dp/0963847279/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1197247000&sr=8-1

The Lost Daughters of China
http://www.amazon.com/Wanting-Daughter-Needing-Son-Abandonment/dp/0963847279/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1197247000&sr=8-1

There's also a book called Mei Mei which isn't really informative, but is full of photos of little girls in Chinese orphanages. It's very sweet:

http://www.amazon.com/Wanting-Daughter-Needing-Son-Abandonment/dp/0963847279/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1197247000&sr=8-1

Best wishes to you and I look forward to hearing what you decide!

 

[Bo B Bunny]

I have a couple of friends who adopted little girls from China and they have done REALLY well.

I know it is costly because you have to travel to go work on the things but that's about it.