Important Life Lesson

[myLoki]

My sister has always had a "holier than thou" attitude toward everyone in her life. She takes every fault or flaw a person has very personally. It's almost like she thinks that as long as she has these impossible standards for everyone around her that they will always be met. She's had her first few disappointments with those around her not staying on her pedistal. I thought she was on the verge of learning an important lesson about realistic standards, but she's become even more stubborn about looking down on others. I think she has a very unhealthy attitude and one of two things will happen. She will either except that everyone is human and makes mistakes or she will loose all her friends. If the latter should happen, her first fall from her own pedistal will be a hard one because she will have no one to catch her. There's nothing I can say because she shuts me down and probably rights me off as one of the flawed anyway. Not sure what to do anymore.

I wrote this in my online blog which I hope she reads. Can anyone give me some advice? Any at all would be greatly appreciated. She's 18 btw.

Set realistic standards. It is critical to your happiness that you do not put the people you love on a pedistal. If you place impossible standards on those around you, it will not be long before they disappoint you. Realize that people are human and have enormous, inumerable faults. One day you too will fall. Will someone be there to catch you? That depends on how harshly you've judged. t.

 

[okiron]

Only ask of others what you would be willing to do yourself. I've learned that when people have perspectives like that, there's nothing to do but wait for them to just fall. If there's no one to catch them, well the better they learn. You don't learn much if there's someone there to catch you. You just start relying on them to catch you so you go about your merry way, not worrying about it.

 

[naturestee]

I actually dumped a boyfriend because he put me on a pedestal. It's lonely up there, and boring. Nothing I could do confinced him I was a mortal human. Blah.

From an "old married woman" (26, LOL!), the best friendships and relationships are between people who respect each other for what they are, with no illusions. Playing king of the hill, either physically or morally, is for children. Humans are pack animals and do best when working as a group, supporting and helping each other. If you're good at something, help those that aren't. They'll be good at something you're not and might be able to help you in return later.

If she's a religious Christian (no offence but this mindset seems common with some of them), tell her that the only person without sin, ever, was Jesus. Nobody else can be that perfect. It's not possible and it's not expected.