I'm so angry!!!

[mouse_chalk]

Seriously, I don't know how I'm managing to sit here...

So I posted in the 'Food' thread about how my partner Steve is really fussy about food? Like, really fussy? Well, tonight I really fancied chicken salad for tea, and obviously, he didn't. So I said I'd make him meatballs, pasta and a tomato sauce to go with.

So I spent some time preparing mine, chicken in oven, made salad dressing, etc etc. And spent a while preparing Steve's dinner tea too. I was rushing to get everything done, but paid special attention to the tomato sauce cos I know he likes it. I was feeling quite proud of this sauce (I always make them from scratch), and asked Steve to taste it to make sure it was ok.

Well. He near enough spat it out, and looked at me in disgust 'what have you put in here?' Me: 'the usual- onions. garlic, tomatoes, salt, pepper, and a little bit of sugar'.

Steve: 'Well it's far too peppery, it's horrible. I can't eat this.'

Me (flabbergasted) 'What, so you want me to start again?'

Steve: 'No, don't worry I'll make my own'

Me (hold hand to my side to stop from throwing the pan over his head) 'Well fine, if that's how you feel'

So he justleaves the room (?!?!?!), and I dutifully alter the sauce, add more tomato and a bit of vinegar, to try to make it 'less peppery' (I SWEAR, there was only one twist or something in the first place!!).

Me: 'Steve, will you come taste this again, I've changed it'

Steve: 'No, it's not worth the hassle'

Me: 'IT'S WHAT?!! I'VE JUST SPEND HALF AN HOUR MAKING THIS SAUCE AND YOU WONT EVEN COME AND TASTE IT?????'

So he eventually comes in and tastes it, and apparently it's now more to his liking and will do.

I'm still trying to stop myself from hurling the pan of sauce at the wall at this point, or over him. So then he starts on at me about why am I mad and being stroppy and that I'm being ridiculous! So I yell back that I always try to accomodate his preferences even it means cooking 2 meals, and that I NEVER complain about doing so, and that if I had spoken to him like that about his cooking he'd go mental, and quite rightly so, but he wouldn't ever have to, because I would NEVER EVER say something like that. It's true- if the sauce wasn't too peppery, a simple 'babe, it's a bit peppery, could you maybe make it a bit less strong?' would have been fine! I'd have gladly changed it so he could have eaten a meal he liked! But no, he had to say 'I can't eat this, it's horrible, I'll make my own'??? So then of course he didn't say anything of the sort, and I was just being childish...

So I said that I didn't want to talk about it anymore because I was just too angry (had a big sharp knife in my hand at the time lol!), and he says 'well, get out then!' So I just look at him and say 'excuse me? I'M COOKING!!!' And then he storms out.

We're currently both sat on the couch in silence, I'm not sure how long it'll last.....

Sorry to go on so much, it's probably given someone a laugh, but I just had to let the anger go somewhere!!! :grumpy:

:rant:

P.s: Oh, and this is the very heavily edited version lol!!


Edit: I said couch! You guys must be rubbing off on me....

 

[trailsend]

I did laugh - but not because it's funny, because I know how you feel! Relationships can be so much fun. Sometimes I seriously have to wonder. I am always amazed after Kevin & I get a in a big argument over nothing, how long we can drag something out for no good reason. But you know what *not said to offend men on the forum* very often men say the wrong thing. At least I know Kevin does, and then when I try to nicely explain to him that I am reacting to his reaction, he doesn't get it. Yet if I said something like *that's horrible, I'm not eating it* he'd flip!

You are aloud to rant. Just remember to not let it eat at, fogive each other, and move on, because it really is silly in the end. But it doesn't make it any more fun, or less annoying at the time!

I still would have thrown a pan at him though :biggrin2:

 

[mouse_chalk]

Oh man, trailsend you made me laugh at the last comment, and it ruined my perfectly formed angry face!!

Yeah, I know it's silly in the end, and we never let these things drag out for long... but I am a typical Gemini, so I tell you, I will NOT budge until he apologises! If I do something wrong, then I'll always apologise, but if I think it's even slightly his fault, I'll keep it up for ages if needs be lol...

It's bad isn't it?! I blame it all on my starsign lol! :biggrin2:

 

[trailsend]

I'm all for that! I'm a Leo Bossy, bossy, bossy.

Never good to drag things out, but in this case, it is HIS fault, and he does need to apologize. Big time. Lets see... flowers... depending on how long he takes to apologize, I would demand at least one diamond... :biggrin2:

 

[mouse_chalk]

Hmmmm, well I just got this email.....

Subject: New message from idiot sat next to you

Dear Ms Jen,

I am quite ashamed of myself. I didn't mean to upset you or be so rude about the sauce you made me. It was completely out of order, and I don't know what happened - I don't remember saying it that rudely, but you're probably right and I am clearly a rude *person*.

I then did my patented rude and over the top saying things I don't mean. I love living with Jen and bunny rabbits. I am a fool.

You probably won't forgive me but I wanted to say sorry anyway and I'm scared to disturb you with your headphones on.

I really, really, really, appreciate you making me food and looking after me. I don't say it enough but I do. And I'm sorry I don't like much foodwise. I do like a lot more than I used to...but still not much. I'm sorry. Blame me or my mum. Either is fair. But hot/peppery food is something that just doesn't agree with me. I am useless in the heat stakes. I find even a small amount of black pepper too much. I am sorry.

Steve is a grumpy, mean,*person* to live with. I try so hard not to be. But it is default Steve, it slips out. And I hate it about me. But it is part of me. It's worse when I'm stressed, which I always am at the moment - but still isn't fair on you. I am sorry.

I love you baby, if you can see your way clear to being less mad at me, a hug would be very nice.

Attached is something I'd like to hand to you.


xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

So, should I forgive him, or insist on a diamond?!! :biggrin2:

Nah, I'd be waiting forever for that one lol- I'll forgive him!

 

[trailsend]

awww that is very sweet - he did a good job! I suppose it would be hard not to forgive him now, but I would still insist on the diamond

 

[mezeta]

HAHAHAHAHA I'M sorry Jen but your rant cracked me up so much. It's the way you word things it was sooo funny and all for a tomato sauce, bless ya hun. Awww the message from steve was well cute though. Maybe you could forgive him but insist on a diamond to make you feel better?!? Or better still a compromise maybe another bunny hehe

 

[mouse_chalk]

LOL @ you guys- I'm too weak! Maybe I'm not the gemini I thought I was?! :shock:

Yeah, it's all over now lol- he's very very sorry- and so he should be!

Looking back, even so soon after, it does sound like the most ridiculous thing to argue about, but I tell you, it's the PRINCIPAL of it all! :nod

And there's no way I'm ever gonna let a smelly boy diss my cooking

 

[maherwoman]

Aww...I didn't see this thread before...and reading the whole thing was so sweet...

Relationships are so difficult...two people that are so different trying to get along in the same house, or in a relationship...it's hard to meld two people together!

It was nice reading it get resolved, though. You two obviously love each other.

 

[Bo B Bunny]

LOL! Oh man! MEN!

Hubby will say "what's for dinner" when he walks in the door. If it's not what he wants he will say "ewwww YUCK!".... he forgets that when he's done that in the past... I quit cooking for about a month.

 

[mouse_chalk]

MEN indeed LOL! Can't live with them, can't live without them.... :dunno

Rosie, you're right- I do love him very much! We've been living together for just over 2 years now, but we moved in after only 4 months together, and BOY were there some arguments. We actually split up for a bit in the end, but he vowed he'd change (stop being so rude and grumpy)and he really has. We drive each other up the wall at times, but even at my maddest I know I'd never leave him- that's how I know he's 'The One'!!

Lol, I'm so soppy!

 

[SnowyShiloh]

Jen, I would be angry too! :grumpy: I'm glad everything's okay now! Do you feel completely better now? :hug: How good of a cook is Steve? How often does cooking and food cause problems for you two? If it does often, I'd say, have Steve cook his own meals if he doesn't like what you're making. You don't need to cook twice. You could have fun cooking together and providing you bring up the idea of cooking for himself when both of you are calm and happy, I don't see why it should cause hard feelings. He's not your child and I don't think you should have to stress over making sure he's eating properly.

 

[mouse_chalk]

Shiloh, Steve is a TERRIBLE cook! Lol! He can put stuff in the oven, and follow instructions if I literally stand there repeating them, and he makes a very good sandwich, but anything other than that and he's lost!

(I just wrote a whole paragraph and lost it :grumpy:Gonna have to try and remember...)

We do eat some meals together, but I like to try and eat quite healthily if I can. But if I say that I want chicken or fish or something, he'll say something like 'oh.... ok, poor Steve will get his own dinner' and give me this puppy dog look! So I'll end up making him something that he will eat, which I don't mind in the least, I really don't! In fact I'd rather do that than have him eat an oven-ready pizza or something like that. I'm big on making things from scratch so I know exactly what's in them, and don't like eating anything processed, so when I realised Steve liked to eat frozen burgers and frozen chips, I started to make them fresh for him (and he does love them!), which I'm happy with, I just wish he'd compromise the other way round and try some new things every once in a while lol!

Sigh... most of the time it's ok though, until he makes comments like that!!

 

[trailsend]

Cheers to you for making things from scratch I make everything from scratch too, and even though I complain about it sometimes, it's SO much better. I can't even eat pizza anymore unless I've made the entire thing myself lol.

Steve needs to open up and try new things. Maybe you could sneak them into his meals?

 

[Luvmyzoocrew]

mouse_chalk wrote:

So I posted in the 'Food' thread about how my partner Steve is really fussy about food? Like, really fussy? Well, tonight I really fancied chicken salad for tea, and obviously, he didn't. So I said I'd make him meatballs, pasta and a tomato sauce to go with.

I first off have to ask for a translation. I really wanted chicken salad for ? (tea) what is that. I mean i know tea is something you drink but what is it for you is it a certain time of the day?





I secondly want to say he would have been wearing the icky sauce,lol. You have a good man there , even though he was rude he was man enough to ADMIT it, and too me that means the world. I am adult enough to admit if i was in a bad mood and took something out on my hubby or i was wrong, but him he will say it only because he knows it is what i want to hear, i want him to say it because he means it and sees his behaviour. so sorry he was a booger

 

[MsBinky]

Hahaha

Not funny but it is... And you know what... I sooooooooooooo would have told him that he will make his own meals for a while until he learns to appreciate I's mean like that. You don't like, "arrange toi". (Obviously it's because he is picky, not because you made a crappy meal which can happen)

As for the sucking up... "Where's my bunny?" :biggrin2:

I's evil I reckon

 

[mouse_chalk]

Luvmyzoocrew wrote:

mouse_chalk wrote:

So I posted in the 'Food' thread about how my partner Steve is really fussy about food? Like, really fussy? Well, tonight I really fancied chicken salad for tea, and obviously, he didn't. So I said I'd make him meatballs, pasta and a tomato sauce to go with.

I first off have to ask for a translation. I really wanted chicken salad for ? (tea) what is that. I mean i know tea is something you drink but what is it for you is it a certain time of the day?





I secondly want to say he would have been wearing the icky sauce,lol. You have a good man there , even though he was rude he was man enough to ADMIT it, and too me that means the world. I am adult enough to admit if i was in a bad mood and took something out on my hubby or i was wrong, but him he will say it only because he knows it is what i want to hear, i want him to say it because he means it and sees his behaviour. so sorry he was a booger

LOL! Sorry I should have known I'd put something too English in there!

'Tea' is dinner, i.e evening meal. It gets confusing though as some people over here say dinner meaning evening meal, but other people say dinner meaning lunch! :?

And Ms Binky, yeah I should have used that as a tool to get me a Flemish Giant! (I've decided I HAVE to have one now lol...)

Trailsend, I DO sneak stuff in! Celery for example goes in every soup, stew, casserole, and spaghetti bolognase.... and he never notices a thing, but yet if I eat celery as a snack, he goes on and on about how much he hates it! :biggrin2:

 

[trailsend]

LOL at the putting celery in everything! Good girl!a small form of revenge!

 

[Luvmyzoocrew]

mouse_chalk wrote:

LOL! Sorry I should have known I'd put something too English in there!

'Tea' is dinner, i.e evening meal. It gets confusing though as some people over here say dinner meaning evening meal, but other people say dinner meaning lunch! :?

And Ms Binky, yeah I should have used that as a tool to get me a Flemish Giant! (I've decided I HAVE to have one now lol...)

Trailsend, I DO sneak stuff in! Celery for example goes in every soup, stew, casserole, and spaghetti bolognase.... and he never notices a thing, but yet if I eat celery as a snack, he goes on and on about how much he hates it! :biggrin2:

Ha thanks for the translation, I think it is so funny how two people can say the same thing so differently .