I'm going away AGAIN...

[mouse_chalk]

AGAIN!!!

Steve's Dad lives in Oman normally, but is visiting the UK for a couple of weeks. He's staying with Steve's aunt in Middlesborough, which is really near to Steve's Mum (they're divorced). So, we're driving up there later this afternoon (probably about 5.30pm ish) and staying overnight with his Mum, seeing his Dad tomorrow and then coming back late tomorrow evening.

His Mum has also been really poorly recently- she has such bad arthritis in her wrists that she's not been able to cook properly and has been living off of microwave meals So we're going to try and cook a roast dinner for her while we're up there. Considering it's about a 5 hour drive, that's a lot of stuff to pack into 24 short hours! :shock::shock::shock:

I'll be sleeping in the car I think lol....

My mum is looking after the bunnies, and she seems quite excited. She popped round earlier and the first thing she did was go up to the cage and say 'how's my bunnies? I'll get to feed you later!'

So, I'll be back late tomorrow night!
:running bunny

 

[Becca]

Have fun and how lucky is your mum getting to look after those adorable bunners :shock:

:thumbup

 

[Bo B Bunny]

Have a good time!

Sounds like your Mom is really loving those little bunners! That's great

 

[mouse_chalk]

Thanks guys!

We're back.... and it seems that I created chaos while I was away!

We left earlier than we should- a big row.... We'd been to see his Dad (first time I'd met him!) and his auntie, and went back to his mum's. We were planning on going out for a meal with his mum and one of his brother's, who has recently moved out of his mum's but is still staying there a couple of nights a week cos he works nearby.

Anyway, so they were talking about Christmas, and his mum was on about getting a futon or sofabed for when extra people stay over, as it's only a 2-bed house. Steve mentioned something about how we wouldn't be there for Christmas Day this year, and then I mentioned how it was really hard to get someone to look after the bunnies on Christmas Day itself. Steve's brother replied with 'that's a vile excuse, saying the rabbits are more important than seeing your own mother'. He was saying it to Steve but he meant it about what I'd said.

So Steve said that wasn't what was meant at all, but we just couldn't make it up there for Christmas Day this year. (It is a 5 hour drive and it's really unfair to ask my mum to feed the bunnies on Christmas Day, although we could find someone if we really needed to). And his brother just started having a go at him, saying he was totally selfish, putting the rabbits before his mum, etc etc. He said he found it offensive! Really sarcastically, he said 'well, it was really nice to see you' and Steve replied 'well, it wasn't nice to see you'. Then his brother stormed off upstairs yelling at Steve that he should grow up sometime! Steve then decided that we should make a hasty exit and the meal plan was abandoned.

Poor Steve's mum was a bit upset I think, and spent ages trying to convince me that it hadn't all been my fault, but I feel like it was. His brother has never liked me, and has always been really rude, and clearly the reason he was having a go at Steve was because of what I said! Steve says that it's not me, and that he's been digging at him for ages for not visiting enough and for living 300 miles away!

But I still feel bad. I feel like I've created the impression that I don't want to (or want Steve to go up there) for Christmas Day (we usually go up Boxing Day for one or 2 nights) just because I'm an evil so-and-so and his brother now hates me

I feel really sick about it all Why couldn't I have just kept my big mouth shut? I honeslty didn't mean it the way it sounded, I was just passing comment on how it was hard to find someone to come in and look after them. :? :cry1:

But, apart from that, it was a nice trip!


Edit:

Oh, and I realise that a lot of that is probably rambling- sorry, I've been travelling for about 11 hours of the past 24 and I'm sooo tired. I also have barely posted in threads other than my own the past couple of days- I'll have a big catch up with everything tomorrow when I've rested.....

 

[nermal71]

Just have to learn to not let it bother you hon. My hubby's family gives us a hard time for not flying from Illinois to Florida (about 1k miles) for the Christmas holidays. They don't understand the cost of boarding 2 dogs (both over 50lbs), 3 cats and a rabbit for a week or two. And while my mom can come stay for a day or two....two weeks is just out of the question. As long as your other half says do not worry about it I wouldn't let it bother you.

 

[Pet_Bunny]

Don't worry about it. Tomorrow things will clear up after you rested up.

I'm on the forum every day and I can't catch up with everything.

 

[BethM]

I used to date a guy whose *whole family* thought it was rude of us to not spend each and every holiday with them. They said that holidays were a "family tradition" and it didn't seem to matter to them that a holiday with them was a holiday I didn't see *my* family. (We broke up for other reasons.)
It's sort of different but a little the same, I think. At least, I know how you must feel.


I think Steve's brother probably has issues with Steve and just uses anything that comes up to needle him.

 

[JadeIcing]

BethM wrote:

I think Steve's brother probably has issues with Steve and just uses anything that comes up to needle him.

I agree!

Ugh. My husband family harrass to no end about going. First year I let it slide. Last year everytime they callled (Yes they would call when I was with my family.) I added 10mins to when we were leaving. When it got to the point that they called like 5 times (When we first got there they started calling.) I added 30mins. We ended at their place for maybe 2hrs.