I work with the public, but don't like crowds -

[Leaf]

I have a pretty busy life, but a lot of times when I try to evaluate my life - it seems like I'm living for helping everyone else, and I really have NO life of my own.

I'm more solitary and the most interaction I have with people outside of work is on this forum - or with a friend through YIM because she lives almost 200 miles away.

Anyhow, I've been invited to go to the bowling alley Saturday. I don't even know who all from work is going (I never mentioned here that I started a new part time day job) but the lady who came by my work station seems nice - loud, extroverted and funnier than anything. I have a dry sense of humor and it was funny, because when I worked with her one day I gave her a run for her money - her whit against mine. Someone pulled me aside later on and he told me he was suprised Chris took my banter so well because so many people are intimidated by her. Anyhow, she seems funny so maybe the group going with her will be ok to get to know?

I am sick of being 32 with no social life, and no offence - but the internet is great, but shouldn't be the *main source* of my social interaction. In all honesty, when just working one job I could go home on weekends and not see or speak to a soul until I went back in to work. Sad, huh?

Anyhow, I'm really thinking about meeting up with the group Saturday night but I know myself and how I am - now it sounds like a pretty good idea, but I guarantee I'll think of a million reasons (excuses) NOT to go. Then later I'll kick myself for not...

Gawd, I'm such a recluse!

How do you guys talk yourselves into doing something that kind of intimidates you?

 

[Bo B Bunny]

Well..........

My life sounds pretty close to yours! LOL!

Force yourself. You just have to do it. Think about the fact that you are trying to improve your life.

 

[slavetoabunny]

I really hate going out with groups also and try and avoid it. When I do force myself to go I usually end up having a lot of fun and am glad that I did.

Go out and enjoy yourself - you deserve a break!!

 

[NorthernAutumn]

All of us antisocial rabbit ppl...
Sigh...

Come on! I bet you are the baddest bowler that side of Missouri! Get those ugly-cute shoes on, and let'r rip!

[Have a SINGLE shot if you need to... not like I'm promoting alcohol dependency, but they don't call it the bravery juice for nothing... I feel ya, I really do.. Here I am on my birthday writing on RO, instead of going out to a party or whatever... We should have a big RO party and be anti-social together:biggrin2:]
:highfive:You'll be more fun than cotton candy! Have a good time

 

[Luvmyzoocrew]

Leaf i say go for it!!!!!!!!!!!!! But this is coming from someone who could have written your post,lol. I am a very to myself type of person and look for a million excuses not to interact and do things, then when i am forced to do so i actually have a good time, but i go kicking and screaming the whole way. This is hard to because i have kids and they suffer because of it.



Go for it

 

[mouse_chalk]

I have a massive group of friends (about 15 in our immediate group- although we've recently 'downsized' due to drama, but that's a whole other story!) and I love them all dearly- but sometimes I really do have to force myself to go out. I just think of staying, on the sofa, all comfy and cosy with a glass of wine and the bunnies and it seems like such hard work.

Then I think that of course it's easy to stay in and not go out- it's the easy option! And I make myself go out. It's usually that forcing myself to get ready, actually leave the house etc, and then as soon as I'm there, I have a great time and forget that I ever didn't want to go out in the first place.

Anyway, my point? You really should force yourself to go! You'll have fun! And if you don't, you wont have lost anything. Bowling is a nice thing to do as well- not like a noisy bar that'll be crowded with loud music etc- you'll only be mixing with the people in your group and you'll have your own little area.

You should go! :nod

 

[JadeIcing]

I work in retail and I have enough reason not to go into public and be around people.

 

[kherrmann3]

Ahh... I know that feeling. I normally do stay inside and be a hermit. I hate people, plain and simple. There are very few people I like. I tend to not hang around with other girls because we just don't "get along". I get along fine with other guys, but I think I can be more of "one of the guys" than "one of the girls". Perfect example; I was in a garage rock-band in high school (electric guitar, w00t!). I would go over to the drummer's house after school and would hang around with four-to-five guys. I have a guy's sense of humor. I am a tomboy. I don't like frilly things. I HATE clothes shopping with a burning passion. I completely and totally dislike the color pink. I would rather shoot myself than watch a chick-flick. I hate chocolate. Yeah. I am a freak with no friends :dude:

The more I am around animals, the more and more I hate people (mostly their bratty children).

:biggrin2:

It's almost midnight... I'm tired. I don't know where I was going with this... :shock:

 

[BethM]

Yeah, I'm pretty much a hermit. I think people at work think I'm stuck up or something, because I *never* go to the social events. I always have some excuse, either I "can't afford it" or "I already have plans." I'd just rather be at home. I really have only one good friend, and she lives in San Francisco, I haven't seen her in 2 years. Other than her and my husband, I can't say I have any actual friends. But I'm ok with that. Mostly, I'm just too lazy to maintain social relationships. I'd rather be at home, online or with a good book or movie. I have some "work friends," and while I do like them, I'm just too lazy to go out with them.

Also, I don't really like kids all that much, and I'm in that age group where everyone has kids, and they have to bring them along to weekend things. Since I just got married, I'm being *tortured* by people who can't mind their own business and demand to know when I will be "starting my family." I have a lovely family of rabbits, thank you very much, and I am happy that way. (I'm almost to the point of telling them, "the doctor said I CAN'T have kids, thanks for reminding me," just to make them feel bad. Not that I want to make light of that, but usually when I say we're not planning on having kids, people just keep poking at me, "oh, you'll change your mind," "it's never too late," "god might have other plans for you," etc. Which, really, just makes me want to spend even LESS time with other people.)

Sometimes I don't even like going to family stuff at the holidays. I just don't have much in common with most of them, so I just sit there. Usually I bring a book.

Of course......Tomorrow I'm supposed to have lunch with my half-sister. I've only ever met her once in my life, and that was more than 20 years ago. It is going to be really weird, because she's basically a stranger to me. I know it will be really uncomfortable, because I'm pretty inept at social interaction, I can't carry a conversation to save my life. So we'll see.

 

[kherrmann3]

BethM wrote:

... I'm just too lazy to go out with them.

Also, I don't really like kids all that much...

I know it will be really uncomfortable, because I'm pretty inept at social interaction, I can't carry a conversation to save my life. So we'll see.

Check, check, and check. Yup, I'm like you too I have a harder time getting myself psyched to go out with people than to plan a trip for myself and Will in ten minutes. lol This HAS happened.

I hate children. Well, most of them. I like babies. I can handle them crying because they are flippin' babies. They can't help it. I'm picky. I like my nephew(s). The other one is six, I no longer know what to do with him.

I also fail at conversation! Woohoo! I like forums, I get to meet other socially-deprived people like me! I like being deprived, thank you very much ^_^

That really stinks that they keep pestering you to have kids... I have one of Will's sisters pestering me to get married to her younger brother. I'm only 21! Marriage? Eep! No thanks! THEN she tells me I need to pop her out some nieces and nephews! More EEP! What really burns me is when his mom asks me, "When are you going to get saved?" She's a born-again Christian. I am an agnostic who was baptised and confirmed Lutheran. Not good enough. Blah.

I know the feeling though. It makes it so I don't want to go around Will's family that often (They live in Oklahoma and Michigan). I don't see them often as it is. Yeah...

 

[Luvmyzoocrew]

Ha it is ashame that all of us hermits and reclouses dont live closer together, i am sure we would get together with feloow bunny lovers in a heart beat,lol.

 

[NorthernAutumn]

Sounds like its time for an RO meetup down there in the states! I will join in spirit.

How did the bowling go, Leaf?

 

[pinksalamander]

LOL - I'm like the complete opposite! Me and my friends have been a group for so long, we just 'know' when we are going to do something and no one ever really says no.

I definitely think you should go! I bet you'll have fun!

Fran :hearts :brownbunny

 

[slavetoabunny]

So....are you going???? Just grit your teeth and do it - you'll have fun!

 

[NZminilops]

I'd do it if I were you! I have zero social life, and no friends at all . Well there is James, but he's a shared friend between Mathew and I. I don't work either so I see nobody all day until Mathew comes home.

I'm not lonely though as I prefer my own company, but sometimes I wish I had at least one female friend in my home life. The last time I attempted to have a female friend, she turned out to be gay and thought I was interested in a more involved relationship with her, lol! That was a disaster.

 

[kherrmann3]

NZminilops wrote:

I'd do it if I were you! I have zero social life, and no friends at all . Well there is James, but he's a shared friend between Mathew and I. I don't work either so I see nobody all day until Mathew comes home.

I'm not lonely though as I prefer my own company, but sometimes I wish I had at least one female friend in my home life. The last time I attempted to have a female friend, she turned out to be gay and thought I was interested in a more involved relationship with her, lol! That was a disaster.

As far as the "not seeing anyone until ____ gets home", I know how you feel. I talk to the rabbits all day lol

I am home alone all the time and not that lonely. I do talk to myself sometimes (not often). It's not like I am a crazy, lonely chatterbox. I tend to whistle a lot, too, which is just as good. That's actually the whole reason I wanted zebra finches. They are easy to take care of, and they provide the white noise that is necessary to not feel freaked out while home alone lol

I am a gay magnet. I know how that feels too (the whole "getting hit on" thing). I have more gay friends/acquaintances than straight ones :?). Nothing wrong with it, just weird lol

 

[pinksalamander]

kherrmann3 wrote:

I am a gay magnet. I know how that feels too (the whole "getting hit on" thing). I have more gay friends/acquaintances than straight ones :?). Nothing wrong with it, just weird lol

I have the same problem. When I go out everyone thinks I'm taken, but I just have two gay best friends!

Fran :hearts :brownbunny