I need to tell a friend that she is part of the problem!

[I_heart_Fraggles]

So I have a friend who I care for very much but does something that drives me crazy! She gets pets, keeps them for a few months and then dumps them. First was the bunny who she just had to have after she fell inlove with Fraggles. I tried to discourage her on not getting a bunny but she got one anyway. She played with it for a few weeks and then stuck it in a cage. She claimed her bunny was "nothing like Fraggles" and was "a wild animal".....I tried to take the bunny but she ended up dumping it at a backyard breeders to be used to pump out more babies. Before the bunny was even gone she got a little dog who was not fixed and she never got him fixed.....got frustrated that he would not house break and after six months dumped him at the pound. :sigh: now she is looking for a kitten. I know she will get it no matter what I say so I tried to encourage her to adopt an adult from the humane society and save a life. Her response was "I have never had a kitten before and I want one"......... Also she is on us to give her MUPPET! Who is not going anywhere! But I am about to snap and tell her the truth about what she is doing. Any advice?

 

[ZRabbits]

You will never get through to someone like this. Who see animals as chattel or an ornament that they just HAVE to have. Your advise will go on deaf ears. As it has in the past with the bunny and dog.

Regarding Miss Muppet, if she asks, just tell her you love her and MUST have her. I think she'll understand that, even though we all know why you truly want and love Miss Muppet.

People like that, though nice people, have no clue what an animal, a LIVING thing, is all about. I had parents that were like that. See what I have, and not even taking care of them, yelling at us kids that it was our responsibility when we were never taught by them what an LIVING thing was all about.

I met a Man (my husband) who showed me what a true pet can be. Grateful every day because I've have gotten some much from my LIVING, breathing, beautiful animals since.

Don't get mad. Not worth it. Just nod and say "that's nice" when she shows up with a kitten. Some people will never learn. Shame, they are missing out on so much. Hoping once she's done or tired of it, this kitten finds a good home. That's all you can really do. Unless you break ties of friendship.

K

 

[LakeCondo]

Maybe you should give her a stuffed toy animal, which she'll be able to take care of. And I guess you could say "how would this be different from what happened with the rabbit & the dog? And suggest she watch the Animal Planet show "My Cat from Hell." I would not even want to give her the lobster. She doesn't have children, I hope.

 

[I_heart_Fraggles]

Nope no kids
Its funny you should say that cause when I told Jason she wanted Muppet he said "Please, I would not give her a house plant!"

 

[BunMommaD]

Unfortunately, I grew up in a home with an implusive mom... This happened with about 3 dogs before we got my Jenna... And when she was about a year old mom started talking about getting rid of her... I had had enough and I was older (14) and I brought her into my room, and sold things to buy her food and got her vet to donate her check ups so I didn't have to get rid of her... She to date has been my most bonded pet... She moved to college with me when I went and into my first place and came with me when I got married... She lived 13 yrs...

I have a friend who is always getting animals and then moving and not bringing them with her... I'm like ohh what happened to so and so and she just changes the subject... I know that is because they were dumped for a smaller cuter pup or kitten of the moment...

You should encourage her to go through a rescue! And... You could tell her to use you as a reference... lol

 

[LaylaLop]

Maybe if she gets a laid back enough cat she won't dump it if it's destructive? Or maybe it will be too lazy for her tastes? Some people you can never please, and for your sanity it may be best just to avoid her pet situation...

 

[kkiddle]

If you tell her that you don't want to hear anything about her "pets" she might get offended and ask why. Unfortunately it may fall on deaf ears, but it might also take you getting a little p*ssed to make her see why you're getting mad in the first place.
My brother's friend did this to me (although it was more to get a reaction out of me). He bought two bunnies and bred them; then sold the babies and that was that. A few months later I ask where the rabbits were and he said that he dumped them. They were his backyard bunnies! :?
I started crying and yelling at him, and now he doesn't tell me things like that.

But anyway, seeing you a little irked might get her to open her eyes. Or find that Craigslist ad that was lurking around about the shelters (it was really graphic) and send it to her. It MIGHT make her think twice.

I found it here: http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/sac/179052393.html

Good luck! I know it's hard when really good friends do things that make you do a double take!

 

[Nancy McClelland]

It's impossible to talk to a person and make any head way when they are always "right" and "know" what they are doing. You'll just get frustrated and upset. Try to turn a blind eye to the whole thing as nothing you say or do will make a difference. Not an easy thing to deal with, especially when you know how loving and special animals are.

 

[Sweetie]

This friend of yours is obviously not going to listen to you or maybe anyone else. When I get a pet it is for the pet's entire life not just when I feel like I have had enough of it. I love my animals.

She may love animals but she obviously doesn't know the necessity of taking care of them their whole life.

As for her taking Miss Muppet, if she threatens to take Muppet away from you, you could bring Muppet over here and have Muppet stay over here for awhile until things cool down. I say this because that friend of yours seems desperate in getting another animal.

You can tell her that animals are not disposable like toys are. Animals are living, breathing beings and need constant care and love to strive in this world. Then show her what will happen if she keeps up what she is doing to the animals that she gets.