I may be off a little while

[Leaf]

I just made it home from the hospital but am heading back - I dont know my cousin well at all (long story - my family holds 12 year grudges) but she just turned 16 and noone knew she was pregnant until she ended up in the hospital late last night. Baby is doing ok but she isnt.

 

[Bo B Bunny]

OH no! Is she upset or is she like not doing well from the birth?

Gosh, Leaf, I'm so sorry! I hope things improve - my family sounds like yours.... only My 12 year old daughter has never met my mom's side of our family......

 

[Orchid]

Good to hear the baby is doing well, and I am sorry your cousin is not. I hope things turn around and start going very well. Family fueds can be so silly. I haven't talked to my sister since 01. Very stupid in the scheme of things...I miss my nephew and they have never talked or met my daughter. I wish things would be different, but alas my sister holds a grudge with the best of them.
I think its great you are there for her so she doesn't have to feel so alone or scared!
I was 21 when I had Lina and was terrified!

 

[maherwoman]

Aww...poor girl...that's so scary...

I hope she does better and you guys start seeing improvements...

And hugs to all...what a rough time for everyone...

Rosie*

 

[Leaf]

I think everyone is an emotional wreck right now. My cousin is doing somewhat better but she was not in the best health to begin with so she has had several ups and downs in less than 24 hours.



I'm home now for the night. Im exhausted mentally more than anything. The last time most of the family got together was when my Uncle died 3.5 years ago. He was Angie's Dad - Anyhow, it's NOT easy in a situation like this - so unexpected, most accusing the others of everything under the sun. I cant even begin to get my head to stop spinning.



Landon is doing well. Oblivious to everything.:biggrin2:

He was 5lb 12oz (if I remember correctly)



I'm going to rest for the remainder of the evening then go shopping for baby stuff later on before I head back to the hospital early in the morning.



I know I have PM messages to check and respond to. I WILL get to them and am not ignoring anyone - my inbox always seems full lately and I feel so guilty for not addressing half the stuff in any sort of timely manner.

And for those who I do get to... you know how much I can really ramble along.



Pfft - you ought to see me in real life.

 

[maherwoman]

Wow...what a lot to go through...for everyone.

Did SHE know she was pregnant? I know it seems impossible, but being that young, she might not have realized, and maybe thought the baby kicking was gas, or some such. It's been known to happen...

I'm glad the baby's doing well...poor thing doesn't know what situation he was born into. I really hope your family straightens things out QUICK, or that baby will pick up on it, and it might affect his general outlook on life. It's odd to think a baby could pick up on things like that, but they really can.

I was quite young when I had Emily, and single (had even broken up with my boyfriend for VERY good reasons just before finding out I was pregnant), and I DEMANDED that, though it wasn't an ideal situation, that people be HAPPY to see her, that they DON'T treat either of us as a burden or bother, made sure that if people wanted to see me they knew my baby would be there, too (you'd be surprised how many people, no matter what age you are, will sit there and try to make plans with a new mom WITHOUT her baby). I was really particular as to who we would hang out with...and anyone that was a bit on the negative side had to wait to see me when she was napping. I was really careful that she NEVER think she was a mistake, or a burden, or someone people didn't want around...and she really took it to heart. She knows what a blessing she is to me. Not a single doubt in her mind.

Anyway, my point being that babies know...they pick up on that stuff. Not that you have much control on what environment they have him in...that's not what I mean. I just hope that maybe you can remind them gently to keep the arguing to when Logan isn't around...ya know?

It's so rough when a family's had a huge blowup in the past...for everyone to put it aside for something is really difficult.

I really hope things improve...and I hope your family is able to move on from this. It's so rough, especially when blame starts getting thrown around...

Hugs and lots of patience and love to you,

Rosie*

 

[Leaf]

Angie is still having problems, her liver and gall bladder are both out of sync right now. She will possibly have her gall bladder removed, but her liver function continues to give her a lot of trouble.

The newspaper was at the hospital to take pics of the leap year babies, three were born at that hospital so she should be in the newspaper with Landen (I spelled it wrong earlier, she spells it wrong IMO) on Wednesday.

 

[Bo B Bunny]

Wow, I hope she gets better.

I hate how family turmoil can make things ten times worse than they need to be!

 

[Leaf]

Introducing Landen:

 

[Bo B Bunny]

Awwwww

:adorable:

How's everyone doing now?

 

[TinysMom]

What a beautiful baby.....congratulations. I hope everything settles down and goes ok.

BTW - if I read right - you're adopting a flemish giant? If so - a BIG BIG BIG congrats....I'm so jealous.

I wish I could gather up all the flemish giants on the board and keep them here - even Teeny!

Peg

 

[Leaf]

Well, a lot has been happening in our family right now.

I guess to make the posting the most honest - now that I can choke it back and tell - Angie had twins, a boy and a girl. Emily's funeral is Friday.

Landen is doing very well. They worried about his liver at first but he is healthy and strong.



Angie (my cousin) is still experiencing complications from partial liver failure and gall bladder issues. She suspected she was pregnant (how can you miss having twins?) but had ran away a little over two months ago - so much of everything was a suprise to us all.

She has been reunited with her Mom and she and Landen will be living with her once they get home from the hospital.




This is just so depressing. I have a step sister who had a baby who only lived 22 days. He died on the 4th of July, and would have been 16 this year. I lost my son when he was just shy of three years old to leukemia.

Our family has a horrible time holding on to our babies.

 

[TinysMom]

I'm sorry - I couldn't find an emoticon to express my grief.

Words feel so...empty.

I'm sorry. I wish I could be there to give you a hug.....

I don't know if the poem "The First Snowfall" by James Russell Lowell will help at all. You may want to google it - I won't post it all here. But it is about a father looking out at his daughter's grave and remembering her - while talking to a younger daughter.

I always weep when I read it. (Our twins were thought to be triplets but I lost the first one early in the pregnancy).

Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers....I wish I could say or do more.

Peg

 

[maherwoman]

Peg's right...words just don't express how sad that is...how difficult things must be for your family...so much loss, so much sadness...

Know that you guys are in our thoughts and prayers...and that if we could make it to you somehow, we would give you such big hugs and let you cry on our shoulders a while.

Love to you,

Rosie*

 

[BlueGiants]

Your family is in my thoughts and prayers... :sad: Such loss...

 

[Bo B Bunny]

OMG Leaf, I'm so sorry for all of what has happened, but I had no clue you had a son before.

This breaks my heart. I've had friends who's children had leukemia at that age...

:hug: I wish I could do something to help.

 

[pamnock]

I'm so sorry Leaf. There is no loss as tragic as that of a child.I'm praying for your family and little Emily, your stepsister's baby and your little man. Special prayers for Angie's recovery and for little Landen.

May your family hold tight together and find strength after all your heartbreaking losses.

Pam

 

[Pipp]

Pam expresses these things so well. :sad:

So sorry for all your losses, here's hoping for nothing but joy in the future.

It's your turn. And you deserve it.



sray: