I had forgotten why...

[Elf Mommy]

For almost a year my husband had given up online gaming. We didn't have the extra money. We didn't have the extra time. This past week, he signed back into World of Warcraft. He is now gaming again. I'd forgotten what this means...

1. He is less involved with the family. He is concentrating on the game so hard that he snaps "WHAT?" at the kids when they ask him questions.
2. Less gets done around the house...not that he does much anyway...but imagine less than nothing ...Well, he does cook most nights, but he used to do laundry sometimes and he certainly isn't doing that anymore.
3. He yells obscenities at the computer. OK, he curses worse than a sailor. My kids are old enough to know that they shouldn't say what daddy says, but I don't care...it makes my stomach turn with the amount of yelling and cursing he does. It makes him look ugly in my eyes (I don't know how else to explain it), and it turns me OFF in so many ways.

...sigh... I know that I don't have any room to talk. I've been spending long hours every day grading papers and jumping on here. I just get so aggravated at him sometimes.

thought I'd vent...thanks for listening.

Minda

 

[myheart]

I will gladly listen to you, if you listen to me....

There is another war game out there that the guy who lives with me likes to play. I don't really care for it because I just can't get into the "killing of other people" even if it is just a game. I know the "zoning" out thing you talk about. But it is also the "I killed more people than the number of times I was killed" talk that bothers me because I know some of these people playing these game become a little too serious for my liking. He also uses the surround sound for the games, and I don't know how many times I can tell him that the sounds of the gun-fire and bombs being amplified bother the bunnies. Some things will never sink-in.... :?

myheart

 

[Bo B Bunny]

Try to see it as an outlet for him. I always say things like:

Hubby's crazy football, basketball, racing, baseball etc., is little to deal with since he doesn't do drugs or drink.....

of course we laugh so hard when we hear him yelling "YOU STUPID IDIOT!" to the television...... I just tell the kids he's passionate.....

 

[JadeIcing]

I can understand, though we do have one or two we play together. When he started to play to much we put a limit to how long he could play.

 

[NorthernAutumn]

I found it was easier to hand Nate a pair of earphones, and send him into the basement on the laptop. Then, I set the timer for a designated length of time that he feels he SHOULD play for (like 2 hours), and bug the heck out of him as soon as that alarm goes off.

Though my mouth can get pretty bad sometimes, I don't understand the cussing at a screen... Easier for me to move him out of earshot then get stressed out.:biggrin2:

 

[BethM]

My husband spends hours and hours doing online gaming. He doesn't play World of Warcraft, because he doesn't want to pay a subscription fee. He does some sort of World War shoot-the-enemy thing. Actually, he plays two different ones, but they look exactly the same to me.
(I also don't understand why he buys all the new war shooter games for the console, because they are all pretty much the same game. That's how they seem, anyway.)

I will spend that time cleaning or doing errands or a little project around the apartment (next up is a new bunny condo), and then later he wonders why I'm tired. Or I'll finish my stuff, and get online to check in here or the bento blog I read, or something, and he'll finish his game and whine that I'm neglecting him. There have been many times I have had to grit my teeth to not yell at him, that I have other things to do than sit on my butt playing video games all day.

He does have headphones, so at least it's not bothering the bunnies. I also won't let him use the microphone thingy when I'm home because all the inane and foul language gets on my nerves too much. (Our apartment is small, so I can hear everything from every room.)

I love the Sims, but have barely played it at all because there's other stuff that needs to be done.

 

[undergunfire]

As we "speak", Ryan is on Xbox360 playing "Call of Duty: 4" with his friend. He also has Halo3 "date nights" on Tuesdays and Thursdays at 7pm with guys from work. He plays Phantasy Star Universe sometimes on the computer. He also just bought the new Star Wars for 360.

He's addicted, yes...but I am addicted to my computer, too. He swears like a sailor, as well.....but he isn't on it 24/7...just a few hours a night, just like I am on the internet on forums.


Sorry your husband is getting sucked in!

 

[JadeIcing]

My husnand doesnt do the swearing.

 

[NZminilops]

I can totally relate to this thread. I've come up with a new solution though, if I can't beat him, join him! The playstation 3 is honestly never off, it becomes like an addiction I think.

He's so obsessed with gaming that he's even build a machine from lego to click buttons on a Buzz Quiz TV controller :shock:.

[ame]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Z0LiPom70w[/ame]

And yes he signed into my youtube account to post a comment on there, haha :biggrin2:.

 

[Aina]

Guys love to play war games and such and so it is a part of life. My brother's love mercinaries and that gets annoying since the game room is right next to my bedroom. But I would be honest with your husband and tell him your concerns not in a naggy way, but just like "Hey, I know you love computers games and I don't want to take that away from you. But I wanted to be honest with you about my concerns. If you want to still play that is fine, I just needed to get that off my chest and be honest with you because if I was doing something that you really didn't like I would like you to tell me."

Maybe if he is aware of your concerns he will try his best to be better. Just don't nag, tell him once and then be done with it. If he doesn't change still love on him and such. I am sure even if he doesn't change right away he probably will think about what you said, especially if you are still sweet to him and such.

 

[BethM]

There are some games I just love to play. Sims. Katamari. I stood in line to get a Wii Fit. But I just don't have time. I've had Sims 2 since it came out, and all the expansion packs, but I don't think I've had one character who finished college or went on a vacation. Sims 3 is coming out soon and I've barely played Sims 2!

I like to read and cook and make sure the house doesn't look like a pig sty. I cannot be happy if the house is a mess. I throw fits over junk piled on the dining table. Not much time to play.

The one thing I will say in favor the husband's gaming.....He's not out at the bars. I know where he's at and what he's doing. If he wants to have a drink, a glass of scotch is cheaper at home than it is at the bar.