pinksalamander
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My friend just called and told me a girl we go to school with commited suicide
I can't believe it
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mouse_chalk
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Oh my gosh, Fran. I'm so sorry. How awful. 
TinysMom
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OMG - what a shock. You must be...stunned?
I don't know how they do things there where you live - but will they have grief counselors come to the school to talk to students or something? I think sometimes they do that here in the US.
I'm sorry for your loss - even if you didn't know her well or weren't close to her - it still is a loss.
I don't know how they do things there where you live - but will they have grief counselors come to the school to talk to students or something? I think sometimes they do that here in the US.
I'm sorry for your loss - even if you didn't know her well or weren't close to her - it still is a loss.
pinksalamander
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Yeah. My friend was crying his eyes out. They have history together and seeing as everyone only does 3 subjects now we're all pretty linked to our classmates.
I'm so shocked. She was so, bubbly? Ya Know? She was going to come on the ski trip with us too. She picked up a form last Friday. I don't understand how a person can be smiling and laughing and making plans, and the next minute, kill herself?
This is the second girl from our school to die this year. Natalie was hit by a car in January. She didn't even go to our school anymore by that time, and everyone spent the whole day crying. I'm dreading school tomorrow, everyone is just going to be shocked. I don't know what they will do, I don't know if it was actual suicide, it might have been accidental. I just don't know. Nobody knows really.
I'm so confused.
Fran :hearts :brownbunny
I'm so shocked. She was so, bubbly? Ya Know? She was going to come on the ski trip with us too. She picked up a form last Friday. I don't understand how a person can be smiling and laughing and making plans, and the next minute, kill herself?
This is the second girl from our school to die this year. Natalie was hit by a car in January. She didn't even go to our school anymore by that time, and everyone spent the whole day crying. I'm dreading school tomorrow, everyone is just going to be shocked. I don't know what they will do, I don't know if it was actual suicide, it might have been accidental. I just don't know. Nobody knows really.
I'm so confused.
Fran
:hearts :brownbunny
Michaela
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Oh my gosh... I'm sorry Fran.
Who knows what was going on in her head? She must have been in such a bad place if she did kill herself - what's going on inside can be hidden well on the surface.
:hug:
Who knows what was going on in her head? She must have been in such a bad place if she did kill herself - what's going on inside can be hidden well on the surface.
:hug:
GoinBackToCali
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I don't know why I feel compelled to share this story.. but I do..
When I was in school... there was a boy named Brian.
Brian was really obese, had bad acne, greasy hair, and was in general a dork. The jocks made his life miserable. They would punch him in the back of the head to amuse themselves. Eat his food. Pee on his books.
Brian sat by me in Algebra, and being one of the cool kids, but also being a hidden geek..Brian and I would often exchange dorky ideas about our plans on taking over the world..he always greeted me with a smile when I came into class and had the days assignments ready for me on my desk.
He came up to me one day after school, and I had just gotten out of powerlifting practice and I recall clearly what I said * Not right now Brian..I am hot and tired.. I ain't in the mood to fool with ya..*
*Ok Mo...goodbye..*
Not see ya tommorrow.. not see ya in class...
I didn't snap to the fact of what he said till the next day.
My freind Tessa came up to me and said the next day before school and said *Did you hear what Brian did ?*
*No.. what meglomaniacal thing did he do now?* and I laughed...
*He killed himself.*
The boy went home..and put a gun in his mouth and ended it. He was 15. I was 16.
The thing that haunts me.. to this day..and years from now.. you will think of this too..is why..
Life's problems are so temporary..acne heals.. there's shampoo for greasy hair, weight can be lost.. dorkiness is sexy.. and yanno, in the grand scheme of life, does crap that happen in your life.. stuff that happened in Brian's life, in your friends life.. was it gonna matter in 10 years? In 5? In even a year? Probably not..
But sometimes souls are so tortured..
I always tell my boys, never make fun of people.. you don't know what their inner demons are doing to them, and they don't need you helping them along..
As for Brian.. he left a note.. his parents read it at his services.. hundreds of kids went.. mostly to make themselves feel better about what they did i'm sure...
Names were named..it was the most surreal thing ever..
It did shock me though..that the small amount of time Brian and I interacted, 45 minutes a day, if even that.. he felt was worth mentioning in his final moments..among a few other people as well..
I guess the point to all of this is Fran.. the shock is so raw for you.... and your mind will try to wrap around it for awhile..we can't ever really know they reasons why... but even now.. 19 years later.. I still think about Brian, wonder why.. try to wrap my mind around it..
And hope he's happy now.
I hope you find some peace Fran...
When I was in school... there was a boy named Brian.
Brian was really obese, had bad acne, greasy hair, and was in general a dork. The jocks made his life miserable. They would punch him in the back of the head to amuse themselves. Eat his food. Pee on his books.
Brian sat by me in Algebra, and being one of the cool kids, but also being a hidden geek..Brian and I would often exchange dorky ideas about our plans on taking over the world..he always greeted me with a smile when I came into class and had the days assignments ready for me on my desk.
He came up to me one day after school, and I had just gotten out of powerlifting practice and I recall clearly what I said * Not right now Brian..I am hot and tired.. I ain't in the mood to fool with ya..*
*Ok Mo...goodbye..*
Not see ya tommorrow.. not see ya in class...
I didn't snap to the fact of what he said till the next day.
My freind Tessa came up to me and said the next day before school and said *Did you hear what Brian did ?*
*No.. what meglomaniacal thing did he do now?* and I laughed...
*He killed himself.*
The boy went home..and put a gun in his mouth and ended it. He was 15. I was 16.
The thing that haunts me.. to this day..and years from now.. you will think of this too..is why..
Life's problems are so temporary..acne heals.. there's shampoo for greasy hair, weight can be lost.. dorkiness is sexy.. and yanno, in the grand scheme of life, does crap that happen in your life.. stuff that happened in Brian's life, in your friends life.. was it gonna matter in 10 years? In 5? In even a year? Probably not..
But sometimes souls are so tortured..
I always tell my boys, never make fun of people.. you don't know what their inner demons are doing to them, and they don't need you helping them along..
As for Brian.. he left a note.. his parents read it at his services.. hundreds of kids went.. mostly to make themselves feel better about what they did i'm sure...
Names were named..it was the most surreal thing ever..
It did shock me though..that the small amount of time Brian and I interacted, 45 minutes a day, if even that.. he felt was worth mentioning in his final moments..among a few other people as well..
I guess the point to all of this is Fran.. the shock is so raw for you.... and your mind will try to wrap around it for awhile..we can't ever really know they reasons why... but even now.. 19 years later.. I still think about Brian, wonder why.. try to wrap my mind around it..
And hope he's happy now.
I hope you find some peace Fran...
Luvmyzoocrew
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I am so sorry for your loss, friends of ours son just committed suicide the begining of Sept.
pumpkinandwhiskersmom
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I'm so very sorry for your loss. I don't think there's any way to explain what happens to make someone feel so utterly hopeless. I'll keep you, your friends and classmates, and the young man's family in my thoughts and prayers. Take care of yourself, and stay connected to your family and friends right now. You will all be a comfort to one another.
JadeIcing
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Oh man I am so sorry. JR year I lost a classmate to sucide and another in a car accident. It was horrible but some how it made our class stronger.
LadyBug
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:shock:
i'm so sorry this happened.......:bigtears:
i'm so sorry this happened.......:bigtears:
NorthernAutumn
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Thank you for sharing that story with us, Zin. It must have been hard to write that down...
Fran, I'm really sorry for what you are going through.
A small guy named Mark hung himself when I was in highschool (4 years ago). He had nasty older siblings who continually made derogatory remarks that he was gay (even though he wasn't). Guys at school bullied him constantly, saying he was a gay blankity-blank, to the point where he went to the Principal (who is an out and proud lesbian) and asked to be let out of the class. She didn't, and he went home and hung himself.
I liked Mark a lot. I was probably less cool than him, but I never got harassed about my height or sexual orientation the way he did. He had a lot of good female friends, and I know they were devastated when he died.
I remember being really surprised when I heard about his nasty home life... and disgusted by the emotionally-fake responses from his tormentors. Kids can be so wretchedly evil...
It is amazing how little we know about the people we talk to everyday.
Fran, I hope you are right, and this was accidental. Doesn't make it any less of a tragedy, though. If you need to talk about how you feel, be sure you open up to someone. Grief counselors can be effective, and talking about her death among your classmates will hopefully bond you closer together, and give one another support.
She sounded like a positive girl, looking forward to the future... I will hold you, your classmates, and your community in my thoughts, and pray for healing.:hug::sad:
Fran, I'm really sorry for what you are going through.
A small guy named Mark hung himself when I was in highschool (4 years ago). He had nasty older siblings who continually made derogatory remarks that he was gay (even though he wasn't). Guys at school bullied him constantly, saying he was a gay blankity-blank, to the point where he went to the Principal (who is an out and proud lesbian) and asked to be let out of the class. She didn't, and he went home and hung himself.
I liked Mark a lot. I was probably less cool than him, but I never got harassed about my height or sexual orientation the way he did. He had a lot of good female friends, and I know they were devastated when he died.
I remember being really surprised when I heard about his nasty home life... and disgusted by the emotionally-fake responses from his tormentors. Kids can be so wretchedly evil...
It is amazing how little we know about the people we talk to everyday.
Fran, I hope you are right, and this was accidental. Doesn't make it any less of a tragedy, though. If you need to talk about how you feel, be sure you open up to someone. Grief counselors can be effective, and talking about her death among your classmates will hopefully bond you closer together, and give one another support.
She sounded like a positive girl, looking forward to the future... I will hold you, your classmates, and your community in my thoughts, and pray for healing.:hug::sad:
pinksalamander
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RIPx
Today at school they said she hung herself, and didn't leave a note.
School was basically cancelled today.
Fran :hearts :brownbunny
Today at school they said she hung herself, and didn't leave a note.
School was basically cancelled today.
Fran
:hearts :brownbunny
Becca
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:bigtears:
There are no words to say :nerves1
There are no words to say :nerves1
Bassetluv
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I'm so sorry...what a terrible tragedy...
:sad:
:sad:
slavetoabunny
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What a horrible thing to have happened. I'm so sorry for your friend and her family.
polly
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So sorry, have been through a few while I was at school and after leaving words cannot describe. My thoughts are with all her friends and family.
