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[Brandy456]

The 6 yr old i'm babysitting wont listen to a word im saying and my mom and everyone else is gone to the cottage so i'm alone with her.

As I type this she's yelling from the living room 'get off the computer'

She tried to take my moms watch and put in her bag, and keeps lieing.

I asked her not to go down the wood stairs on her bum, incase she slipt and she said ok, then i went to get something from the kitchen, came out and she did it again, then I told her to stop and she said 'I didn't do anything.. I went on my feet' when I clearly saw her going on her butt.

Whatttt do i do! !

She wont get off the darn chair, watching tv, and she ignores me and taunts sparky.

Help! what do i do

 

[fuzz16]

How do her parents discipline her? Might want to tell set her in timeout. She needs to respect your authority.

She sounds majorly spoiled

 

[fuzz16]

How do her parents discipline her? Might want to tell set her in timeout. She needs to respect your authority.

She sounds majorly spoiled

 

[Brandy456]

Ugh, I went to go outside with Sparky, and she said to me 'Yeah... you go out with that thing and i'll stay here' and went back to watching tv,
She even told me to shoot him, when he kept barking because she kepts taunting him

 

[kirsterz09]

what!?! A six year old said that :shock:
She needs some disipline, I agree with Fuzz16 how do I parents discipline her?
Try putting her in a naughty spot, or taking away things like her toys or tv till she behaves.
The thing that bothers me however is that if she is spoilt, her parents might not appreciate you discipling her, especially if she gets what she wants all the time.
It's a tough situation. Is there anyway you could contact the parents and tell them of her behaviour and ask them what they are ok with you doing? All so threating to call/tell her parents might make the child change her behaviour as, she won't want to get told off.

 

[SunnyCait]

It's hard when you're not the parent and you aren't sure how to discipline someone else's kid.

If it were me, that TV would be off and she'd be sitting on the couch in a time out. The key with time outs is to not just let them back up when the time is over. You let them sit and think about it, and then when the time is almost over, you go and you talk to them about WHY they were in time out, what you expect from them in the future, and this is just me, but I have my son tell me in his own words what I just said and how he thinks he should behave.

However, it's still hard because a stubborn child who isn't your own or you aren't around a lot may simply not listen to you. If nothing is working, just count down the time until her parents come get her and say you're not going to watch her again. TELL THEM how she behaved. Maybe she's not normally like this and they can talk with her. Or maybe she is always like this and they won't understand why you're so upset with her.

 

[Brandy456]

kirsterz09 wrote:

what!?! A six year old said that :shock:
She needs some disipline, I agree with Fuzz16 how do I parents discipline her?
Try putting her in a naughty spot, or taking away things like her toys or tv till she behaves.
The thing that bothers me however is that if she is spoilt, her parents might not appreciate you discipling her, especially if she gets what she wants all the time.
It's a tough situation. Is there anyway you could contact the parents and tell them of her behaviour and ask them what they are ok with you doing? All so threating to call/tell her parents might make the child change her behaviour as, she won't want to get told off.

Its her moms bfs birthday, and their gone to dinner, then to a club.. and her phone is off.

-.-

Her mom is pretty strict actually, =/ she'd never get away with this if she was here

 

[Brandy456]

SunnyCait wrote:

If nothing is working, just count down the time until her parents come get her and say you're not going to watch her again.

Tomorrow afternoon :shock:



If I turned the tv off, she'd scream..and cry.. and I have a mirgraine right now... :tears2:

help

 

[Luvmyzoocrew]

if you turn it off and she crys oh stinking well, she will eventually "get it". You have to mean what you say and say what you mean,lol She is going to take full advantage of you because you are not her mother and she knows that she can get away with more then with her mother. Stick to your ground, if she doesnt do what you tell her, tell her the next time she will sit on the time out and the very next time she does it, sit her on the time out ,lol.

 

[fuzz16]

tell her to sit in a room and think about the way shes acting and not being respectful. its crazy to think her mom is strict and she is so out of control! you need to set her in line. the worst that can happen to you is her mom doesnt let you watch her anymore...seems more a blessing with that kid though

 

[Brandy456]

I told her the tv is going off at 11, and she got mad.
Eughhhh .
-.-

 

[irishbunny]

Good luck with her!
I was babysitting my brothers and sister all night ages 13, 9, 6 and 3 and when I got up this morning they had the place trashed. I made them clean it up though

 

[Brandy456]

We just woke up.
I didnt think it could get any worse then when she fell asleep.
Not only does she snore, but she randomly likes to SCREAM in her sleep.
She'd be going..
zzzzzz..hmmm...zzzz..AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH,
Scared the crap out of me

 

[fuzz16]

Thats kinda scary her screaming in her sleep....I wonder why I've heard of abused kids doing that. scary thought.

Is she more under control now?

 

[Brandy456]

She's being a little butt head, so I left her downstairs to come online, in the office.

She woke up, and she said she was hungry, so I asked what she wanted and she said Eggs and Toast. I asked her how she ate her eggs and she said 'hmmm, let me think' and I caught on, because the kids i've babysat usually said that when something wasn't true.. or it was a trick. I told her if she made me make the eggs, and she didn't eat them, I was unplugging the TV.

She then settled for Toast and Yogurt.

She was slurping the yogurt straight from the jar I had it in, and I said *politly* 'we don't do that here' and she responded with 'well I do' with a snooty attitude and kept doing it. So I took her yogurt away when she came up for a breather.

She then ate her toast, and chew'd with her mouth open. I know for a fact (we've all been out to lunch/dinner before) that her mom doesn't allow it and she was doing it to bug me, did I mention it's one of my biggest pet peeves ??

I told her to eat her toast properly or i'd too take that from her and i'd give her saltines to eat (random-on-the-spot threat)

So she did it again, staring straight at me, so I got up and threw the bag of saltines on the table and she stared up at me and ate her toast normally

So then, when Sparky got up, I went to get him from his crate in the basement and braught him up. He's usually really cheer-y in the morning so I just let him go, not holding his leash, and he went to see her, and she made a fist and said 'you better get away from me, dog' and so Sparky growled, as probably any dog would when faced with a fist infront of their face.

I called my mom this morning and she told me too, again, to just dicipline her how I need to (Take away her DS, Turn the TV off, Withold treats)

Oh oh, best part was last night.

I made an awesome dinner, Chicken Alfredo, but I used Spiral Pasta and added some vegi's. Also I made garlic bread.

She asked if she could do the garlic bread and I said sure, so I mixed up the butter and garlic and puit the bowl beside the bread, and the butterknife. I showed her how to do one, and she put a big blob of the butter on a bun, and went to watch tv, I went to see her and asked why she just left and she responded with 'It was too hard, and my show is on'

-.-

SO we ate dinner, she only ate a bit, got up and went to watch tv. I knew I could turn the tv off and practically force her to eat but I hada slightly better plan.

Later on (litterally like 30 minutes later) she reminded me I told her i'd take her to Dairy Queen (an icecream shop) So I asked 'well I thought you wern't hungry' and she said 'I just wanted to watch tv, can we goooooooooo' and I said ' Well, since you wanted to watch tv so much I wont inturupt by making yougo get ice cream, you know, since you love tv so much'

She just stared at me.

I have her a little bit of Party mix later, and she ate it like a hungry lion,



Also, last night, I told her to go to bed, and she replied 'Nope!'

I turned the tv off.

Then she whipped out her DS and I told her 'if that thing turns on, I will take it and flush it down the toilette'

She closed it and put it away,

I didn't want to act like a ... well.. beeatch, but it was needed.

 

[Brandy456]

fuzz16 wrote:

Thats kinda scary her screaming in her sleep....I wonder why I've heard of abused kids doing that. scary thought.

Is she more under control now?

After that one random scream, it was more like.. words she screamed.

Sounded like she had sleeping-turrets-syndrome



Uhm she yelled 'you dont get it' and ' im going home' and something along the lines of ' enough, lets go now'

I contemplated getting the video camera out and 'talking' to her. My mom said if you talk to a sleep-talking person they'll usually answer with true/silly answers.

I was going to ask what she thought of me, that day ( curious.. haha) and why she was acting out.

But I was too cold.

 

[Brandy456]

Luvmyzoocrew wrote:

if you turn it off and she crys oh stinking well, she will eventually "get it". You have to mean what you say and say what you mean,lol She is going to take full advantage of you because you are not her mother and she knows that she can get away with more then with her mother. Stick to your ground, if she doesnt do what you tell her, tell her the next time she will sit on the time out and the very next time she does it, sit her on the time out ,lol.

I don't think I could, physically pick her up and sit her wherever.

She's a pretty, big girl.

I'd say around 110-115 for a 6 year old, and i'm only 130.. :grumpy:

I actually called one of my friends to come help me. Alot of people are intimidated by him, so it probably would have worked, his parents even said ok for him to (they like me.. teehee) but he fell asleep -.-

 

[Brandy456]

Hahah
My horoscope today
Even if kids are unruley, try to stay calm

 

[Elf Mommy]

All the discipline you used was good and appropriate. Make sure that you are also doing things she enjoys with her when she is doing as you asked. Think of an interview you can do with her. Tell her it's like she's on television on a talk show and ask her all about her likes and dislikes. It sounds like she is into her electronics, so renting a movie or DS game (available at our Blockbusters, but not sure if it is up there), and rewarding her with time watching or playing it when she is behaving herself. One thing that usually worked for me when I was babysitting was to buy a variety of beads at a craft store and sitting and making necklaces and bracelets with the girls. They also loved dancing in the living room with me. If you even out the discipline with some rewards, she'll try harder to behave herself for you,and you'll enjoy your time with her better.

 

[Brandy456]

I asked her if she wanted to go rent a movie, go for a walk, go to the park (was too cold yesterday) but she just doesn't want to get off the couch

My mom will be on her way soon..