Friend issues again.

[ThatsMySimi]

This time its a Travis issue, not a Katie issue.

Okay, so when me and Katie stopped being friends I talked to travis and told him how scared I was that I was gonna loose him too, the whole time he'd always say "No shay, you wont loose me, I wont let it happen" Now we are fighting, and he wont talk to me, when we are talking he keeps getting mad at everything I am saying then says "See? Thats what pisses me off!" And leaves. I try to talk to him, and everytime he says that I usualy say " See Travis? Thats the problem. You tell me I am pissing you off, but dont say what I need to stop!" I am so upset right now cause hes not talking to me again. He usded to say he could understand why I am upset, and that if things get too bad he would dump her because he'd rather have me as a friend then her as a girlfriend. But now its a total different story. I dont know whats got him changing his mind....

I worry that maybe Katie is telling him that I said stuff I didnt say or something, cause hes never been this way with me before.

I hate having him mad at me, and I dont know why. I live my life having someone mad at me and it doesnt bother me, now with travis mad at me I am freaking out...

Anyways, I just needed to talk to someone about this... Cause maybe you guys can figure this situation out, cause I sure as **** can't.

Thanks for reading.

 

[rabb1tmad]

I don't know the history behind all of this so excuse me if I am being blunt but;

A true friend wouldn't do this regardless of whether his girlfriend is telling him stuff about you or not. A true friend wouldn't take the word of others over yours - they should know you well enough to know what you would and wouldn't say. A true friend would feel comfortable enough to tell you if you pissed them off and why without it ruining the friendship. If I were you I wouldn't wait for an explanation, I would forget them both and invest some time in people who are worth it.

 

[JadeIcing]

*hugs*

I don't know what to say other than maybe just give him spac e.

I didnt know you and Katie were no longer friends.

 

[ThatsMySimi]

Okay, so heres the whole story in short form.

Katie was my best friend since I was 1. Me and her were so close BEFORE school, then I went into a different school without her and met Travis, who woud punch me in the gut and in the nose until I started telling the teachers. We later then found out it was because he "had a thing for me". After he stopeed hitting me to show he liked me, I started hanging out him. Over the years, he stopped likng me, and our friendship kept strong.

After we all ended up in middle school Katie Travis and I were all in the same class... At the first of the year he had a thing for me, but I didnt show any intrest, so he moved on to Katie who had a thing for him from the first time I brought him and her both over. In grade six they went out for a while, then broke up, while they were going out it wasnt abig deal, you know, it was mainly them just saying they had a bf/gf rather than doing anything toghther. in Grade seven, Travis dropped out of french and ended up in a english class, but Katie and I stayed in the same class. At the first of grade seven me and her and travis all still hung out, but we did it with his new friends, And later Travis told me he liked me again, I told him I couldnt like him back cause I was scared it would ruin things. (Plus I had a thing for his friend, but we wont tell him that!). In grade eight, Katie moved on to the highschool because she was a year ahead, and Travis was in his english class, and I was in my french. We all still went on the same bus, but didnt go in any of the same classes. By the end of grade 8 Travis had told me he had a thing for Katie, and Katie had told me she had a thing for him... They eventualy went out, and then it started going down hill. They started leaving me out of stuff, and Katie started treating me like crap. So to stop the pain after dealing with it for about 3 months, I told her I couldnt be friends with her anymore. No problem,I was over that in a couple days, but what botherd me was that I thought I might loose travis. I'd tell him I was scared and he'd say I wouldnt loose him, and that he wouldnt let that happen...

Now after about a month of not being friends with Katie, Travis is starting to act like an ass... And thats where we end off.

I know its not really the short version, but trust me, its not the long verson.

 

[Maureen Las]

I feel for you but I am going to be honest.

Right now now it looks like katie and Travis have a thing for each other and you are going to be left out ....temporarily. But if Travis is a true friend he will be back when things get shakey with katey.
This has nothing to do with you...it's just the way people behave when they think they are in a relationship.

try to to think that you are an independent person who has the capacity to make many differnet types of friends.

I'm sure that you are.

!! Try not to dwell on either one of them rightnow but try to get on with your own life and don't look backwards. The world is full of People more interesting than either Katie or Travis... and always remember Travis wanted you first!

 

[ThatsMySimi]

Thanks. I have decided to not try talking to him again until things with him and Katie have calmed down. I am leaving for a week, and Ill maybe try again when I get back.



I am going to do just that, Im going to walk away. When he is ready to be better to me, then I will be ready to say Im sorry, and to let him back into my life. But until then, Ill just be happy with the other friends i have.

 

[Maureen Las]

thats really a hard thing to do
but if you could let him come back to you he may realize that he really misses you...

if he doesn't come back thentry to let him go.

I would guess that lot of the dymanics between katie and Travis revolve around having you in the middle of it.

If you sort of "disappear" for awhile they will just be stuck with each other and their is a good chance that they need that 3rd person for excitment


Good Luck" with all this its a hard thing to go through.

andlet us know how you are

 

[ThatsMySimi]

I know thats what I have to do,and Ill do that unless sometime in the next few days he starts talking to me. I know its gonna be hard, but I have a feeling things between Travis and Katie wont last really long.. So Ill just wait it out.