Freddy's not in good shape..

[FreddysMom]

soo...for whoever didn't know I've been at mydad's house for the past week and left Freddy in the care of my b/f'smom. I left detailed instructions of how to care for him...which shedecided not to follow.

well here are my two problems...

#1

She asked and argued with me about how much he was supposed we wassupposed to eat ... i put in a 1/4 cup measuring thing and at the endagreed she would only give him one scoop a day....well i found outtoday he was getting at least two maybe 3 scoops a day which means...he was getting almost 3/4 cup of food a day for 8 days ...and he isCONSIDERABLY larger ....so now once i go back to giving him 1/4 cupwill his weight go down or should i cut his pellets even more?

#2

With the litter box i said she could spot clean and when necessary justdump the whole thing and fill it with new litter .... well she didnt dothat either...she just kept on putting new litter over the oldlitter...and Freddys paws when I got him back today were soaked andyellow and he stunk ...I washed his paws with some baby shampoo and Itryed to look at the skin underneath the best I could .. it didnt seemirritated, but is there anything specific I should be looking out for?I know that prolonged exposure to urine will burn their skin andpossibly cause sores. He's on a towel in his cage, so any excessmoisture is being soaked up.

I feel so bad for him ... he seems no worse for the wear and I gotkisses as soon as he saw me... the piggy was prolly happy to eat allthose extra pellets ... I just want to make sure he stays in goodhealth .............sorry for the ramble ... I'm just a bit peeved tosay the least...

 

[cirrustwi]

Oh, I would be so angry!!!

I would give him the normal amount of pellets. His weightshould go down, if it doesn't, then I would cut his pellets.You don't want to shock the little man with the lack ofpellets. LOL

As for his feet, just watch them. If you notice sores then treat them, but otherwise, he should be ok.

Jen

 

[CorkysMom]

Oh how awful, I'd be fuming as well!!!!

I'm glad he seems ok however...he's a strong lil man and will be strong for his mom!!!

What a frustrating position to be in!

 

[BlueGiants]

I agree with Jen, just cut him back to hisnormal ration of pellets. His weight will drop... you don'twant him losing too much weight too fast. (I got back a VERYover weight Mini Rex about 3 weeks ago... she has lost about a pound sofar.) A little extra exercise wouldn't hur either.

And just watch his feet. You probably got to him soon enough before any damage was done.

And look on the bright side, you know who NOT to leave your bunny with in the future! (Ignorant people bother me!)

 

[FreddysMom]

I know .. I am so P.O.'d...but I dont want tostart an arguement ..and i couldnt even say anything to my b/f b/c thatwould make an even bigger arguement with his mom...

lol ...Freddy's already probably gonna be mad on the cut back ofpellets..prolly gonna be furious if I really cut back!!....I'm alsogoing to try and have him out every second that I can to try and get insome extra exercise for him...

..I can tell he's happy to be home tho...he's been doing more binkiesthan usual and when he first got back in my room he just keep jumpingoff and on my bed to kiss me and run around and binkielike hedidnt knowwhich one he wanted todo more....def.helped melt some of that anger away

 

[FreddysMom]

BlueGiants wrote:

And look on the bright side, you know who NOT to leave your bunny with in the future! (Ignorant people bother me!)

The last time we went away for a long weekend, we boarded him and shethru a royal hissy fit...basically like guilt tripping us that we didnttrust her with out bunny and whats gonna happen when we have kid, "areyou gonna board that too" kinda stuff...and even worse shes tries tosay it in like joking manner but I know shes really serious :?



Thanks for the replys everyone! :hug:

 

EEEkKK! Ihave a mother in law likethat ! makes ya just want toslap them thru a wall sometimes .Personally had she said craplike that tome I would have said :"Yep gonna board them out and Iam even supplying cages , ( the kids ). Sometimes a snappy smartmouth comment back to them makes themengage their brain before the mouth takesover , not always mind you butsometimes.

Everyone has given great advice , IfFreddy does develope sorefeet the one thing I havefound to work miricles on feetis Liquid Bandage , I used it for a week on a Rexdoe and her sores are all gone. I think the smell and tastekeeps them from grooming it off .because even now she wont chewon her feet . Before she was chewing theminsessently , kept the hock sores wide openand they were not healing at all .

 

[CorkysMom]

FreddysMom wrote:

BlueGiants wrote:

And look on the bright side, you know who NOT to leave your bunny with in the future! (Ignorant people bother me!)

The last time we went away for a long weekend, we boarded him and shethru a royal hissy fit...basically like guilt tripping us that we didnttrust her with out bunny and whats gonna happen when we have kid, "areyou gonna board that too" kinda stuff...and even worse shes tries tosay it in like joking manner but I know shes really serious :?



Thanks for the replys everyone! :hug:

Sounds like afterthis, you'd be best off to board any children rather than have her takecare of em.... :shock::shock:

 

[FreddysMom]

gypsy wrote:

EEEkKK! Ihave a mother in law like that! makes ya just want to slapthem thru a wall sometimes . Personallyhad she said craplike that tome I would have said :"Yep gonna board them out and Iam even supplying cages , ( the kids ). Sometimes a snappy smartmouth comment back to them makes themengage their brain before the mouth takesover , not always mind you butsometimes.

Everyone has given great advice , IfFreddy does develope sorefeet the one thing I havefound to work miricles on feetis Liquid Bandage , I used it for a week on a Rexdoe and her sores are all gone. I think the smell and tastekeeps them from grooming it off .because even now she wont chewon her feet . Before she was chewing theminsessently , kept the hock sores wide openand they were not healing at all .

awesome... I always have that liquid bandage stuff on hand .. Iwaitress part time and with the amt. of handwashing I do, evenwaterproof bandaids dont hold up!

I wish I could say something like that to her .....she is a sweet heartthe majority of the time and has done more for me than my own mom..so Ikinda feel obligated towards her...and i know she would take it SOpersonally ...and i'd hate to burn bridges ...........ahhh damned if ido, damned if i dont ...story of my life!! lol

 

[cirrustwi]

FreddysMom wrote:

BlueGiants wrote:

And look on the bright side, you know who NOT to leave your bunny with in the future! (Ignorant people bother me!)

The last time we went away for a long weekend, we boarded him and shethru a royal hissy fit...basically like guilt tripping us that we didnttrust her with out bunny and whats gonna happen when we have kid, "areyou gonna board that too" kinda stuff...and even worse shes tries tosay it in like joking manner but I know shes really serious :?

Ummm...I'd rather board my kids then leave them with Shawn'sparents! For the same basic reason, they don't disciplinetheir grandchildren at all and when they do, it's in ways I don't agreewith, so sorry, no kids will be staying with them. And I'mnot sure I'd let them stay with my mom either because that would meanthey would be in contact with her fiance and I don't want his beliefsabout people in my children's minds. Ok, sorry for the rant.

I'd never leave my critters with Shawn's parents either, not that theywould take them, but even if they offered. I can't imaginewhat I'd come home to.

Jen

 

[FreddysMom]

lololol................the best part is......we're not even married..and we love each other to pieces and itseventually gonna happen...were just not ready and no need to rush theinevitable! ...but she acts like weve been married 50 years and thisbunny is her grandkid.....whenever he is over, she baby talks to himand calls herself grandma and calls her husband grandpa to which hereplys, "shutup im not THAT old yet!"

both her boys are moving out around the same time (my b/f jsut did) so i think that has ALOT to do with it..

 

[BlueGiants]

Of all the people I've ever met, (and that includes my own mother!) I love my animals the best!

They love you unconditionally, never question you, never ASK for money,never yell at you, and never belittle you infront of friends!Aren't animals wonderful?)

And if it's any help, when I was showing dogs and had my kids with me,THEY would willingly go in the dogs crate when I took the dog in thering! I'd leave them with crayons and coloring books, andnever worried about them! And in 16 years, Ihavenever left them with my mother!

 

[FreddysMom]

Freddy is definately my best friend...alwaysthere no matter what and I dont care what any skeptic says that bunnyknows whats going on!

lol BlueGiants, whatgreat kids you have

 

[Nicky Snow]

i know what you mean, i live with mysister-in-law, and when i'm at work i ask her to let the bunnies out.well she doesn't like the bunnies very much. and i suspect thatsometimes she only pretends to let them out. what a meanie!

about 2 weeks after i got baby Kweli, i asked if she wanted to holdher, and she said "no, i'm over it"(the rabbit). and i thought, waituntil she has kids, is she gonna be over them too?

next month i'm going to move out, (my own apartment, NO SHARING EVERAGAIN). And you know what she said, "No offence but i can't wait to berid of those rabbits" How dare she say something like that to me, andshe knows i love those buns more than ANYTHING in the world! well anyhow, we all can't wait to get rid of her.

my mum does take good care of my buns, and follows my instructions verywell. Partly because she's a good mum, and also because she knows howmuch i love them. but i rarely leave the buns cause i worry too much,and i cannot bear to be away from them.

it's a scary thing to trust someone with your most precious friend, butnow you know that your mother-in-law is not the person for the job. andyou are right, you don't want to cause any arguements, but next time ifshe pulls a fit, just tell her what resulted from the last time she"cared" for Freddy, and that you won't allow that to happen again. Notthat she is a bad person, but not the right one for looking afterFreddy. I would trust more people on this forum to look after my babiesthan any of my friends!

Hope that Freddy is okay!

Nicole

 

[Carolyn]

Although you wouldn't want to hurt your boyfriend's mother's feelings, think of the alternative.


People get mad and then they get over it. There's different ways ofsaying no without the other person taking it offensively. Everyone hastheir own style and you will find yours. (Can call me anytime and we'llfind something that would work without you offending her.) It's all inhow you word it. Once you say no the first time, it gets easier.

How would you feel if you put Freddy in her care, knowing she's notreally equipped and doesn't following instructions, and somethingincurable or deadly happened to him? I'd rather she lose a little bitof pride for a day or two than lose Freddy. Personally, I wouldn't takethe chance. Look at this like a wake-up call or a red flag. Trust yourinstincts.

I'd give him more a lot of timothy hay and limit his pellets to whathis diet should be. Keep an eye on those feet, and if you have someNutriCal, I'd give him an inch of it for the pain of the feet and thestress he's been through just to boost his immune system.

Give that little guy a kiss for me.

-Carolyn

 

[bunnydude]

Where does she get off disobeying your careinstructions!? I would be fuming mad if somebody did that to Devon orAmber. Did she realize the trouble she caused you and Freddy? I justhope that Freddy is okay!

 

[dajeti2]

I would have been irate. Please thinkabout what Carolyn said. There are many different ways to say no thatwon't hurt her feelings as much.Take it from me I could never say no toanyone before. Now, I can say no and not always feel guilty.

Freddy is a growing boy and shouldn't have that kindof stress put on him. I know you will have him right asrain in no time.

I know this is like way in the future for you but what aboutwhen you have children. If she couldn't follow your wishes when it cameto carrying for Freddy what makes you think she'll be any differentwith a child. Just something to think about.

Tina

 

[naturestee]

W:shock:W! I mean, Mocha gained weightat the pet sitters but I wanted her to! No matter what I feedher, she's darn skinny because she runs so much. So less thannormal exercise = healthy weight for Mocha.

Don't feel bad about boarding Freddy last time. I don'tremember you having any problems with their service. Frankly,it's better to feel safe about where Freddy will be and start anarguement with your b/f's mother.