Art's mom is dying & he's flying home - pray she lives till he gets there

[TinysMom]

Art's mom has been sick off and on for a bit - we got a call tonight from Art's brother that she probably only has a couple of days left and is getting worse.

We're going to leave here at 2 am to drive him to the airport so he can fly out at 5:45 am and be in Portland, ME at 3 pm...and hopefully get to still see her while she's alive. He has something like 33 days "sick" leave that I think he can use for stuff like this - he's tenatively taking two weeks although he will probably be back sooner.

I need to go do his laundry and get a bag packed....and I'm just....devastated. I almost loved his mom more than I loved my own mom....she was the mom I always wanted to be and tried to model my mothering skills after.

Please pray she lives until he makes it there....

 

[Bo B Bunny]

Oh Peg that's so sad. Tell him we're thinking of him and you and her..... :hug:

 

[SnowyShiloh]

Peg, I'm so sorry. I can't imagine what it must be like for you or Art. I hope the time passes quickly until Art can be by his mother's side and they can spend some good time together before she dies.

 

[Becca]

Prayers for Art's mum.... Art and yourself
I really hope she makes it until he gets there.. and I hope she passes painlessly and in a nice place....
I'm so sorry.

*hugs and kisses*

:rose:

 

[irishlops]

same.. i hope he gets there in time.. im sorry..

 

[slavetoabunny]

I'm so sorry Peg. I'll be keeping your family in my thoughts.

 

[pumpkinandwhiskersmom]

Keeping Art, you and his mom in my prayers. It's so hard to lose someone...I sure hope he was able to get there. Remember, too, that he has been there for her all his life! Take care...thinking of all of youray:

 

[mouse_chalk]

Oh gosh, I'm so sorry Peg. I really hope he makes it there. I'll be thinking of you and your family :hug:

 

[Bo B Bunny]

Any news?

 

[TinysMom]

I'll share the "funny part" later (he got put on the wrong plane for his last connection and they had to open up the plane again and let him out...its sorta funny)...

Anyway - he got to see his mom - she was "somewhat" alert. Right now his three brothers and one sister are there - the other three sisters I don't know what is up...I think they're trying to get there or have been there.

 

[JimD]

ray:

 

[anneq]

Keeping you in my prayers, Peg.

 

[TinysMom]

I thought I would share a quick update on what is happening w/ Art & his family.

Art is flying home on Sunday afternoon. He is happy that he got to see his mother and his family - but he feels that it is time for him to return home. I argued with him a bit because he could've had another week of compassionate leave from work...but he says that really there isn't much for him to do there.

I don't know the exact terms for what is going on - so I'll try to share what I do know.

His mom has some sort of an immunity disease - I forget the name but it is not AIDS. Still yet - it was giving her major problems and they decided that the best way to deal with it was to give her chemo. This would kill off the bad cells and help her rebuild the good ones - or something like that.

So in mid-February (while I was home visiting my mom) - she started chemo.

She's been going downhill since then. She isn't able to eat enough to stay alive and I think her systems were trying to shut down. She sleeps most of the time and is not functioning enough to get out of bed, etc.

Things have gotten to the point where there are many things wrong with her - one of the most important being her kidneys. They would like to do dialysis - but she has refused it.

Basically - they are releasing her from the hospital today so she can go home and die. She wants to spend her last few days in her own home.

The family understands the consequences of her choices - as does she. However - she is in so much pain and there are so many problems - that they are going to abide by her wishes.

Art does not feel like he can just wait around to see his mom die. Other family members are also returning home and he feels he needs to come home now.

The family is planning for a memorial service later this year - I'm guessing she will want her ashes spread over the pond where she lives...I'm not sure. They're hoping all the kids can come home for the memorial.

Anyway - Art has seen his mom at least once a day since Tuesday and gotten to spend some time with her, etc. to show her he loves her.

Part of me wishes he would be there and stay till she passes - another part of me recognizes that he feels frustrated that he can do nothing and he simply wants to be home with me - in my arms - where he can have a safe place to cry and grieve.

So that is the update. He'll be getting into San Antonio Sunday night around 8:30 pm CST.

 

[NorthernAutumn]

:hug: Big hugs to Art, his family, and your own. This must be a devastating transition period...so hard to know how to help & comfort someone as they move on...

Lots of prayers coming your wayray:

 

[Pet_Bunny]

ray:

 

[cheryl]

Peg,i'm so very sorry...will be keeping you all in my thought's :hug:

 

[Bo B Bunny]

Does she have Lupus?

 

[JimD]

ray: